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Should I Delete That?
Q&A with The Sex Doctor
Ep. 76
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This week on the podcast, the girls are joined by Dr Karen Gurney AKA The Sex Doctor on Instagram. She answers your questions about mismatched libidos to waning desire, and enlightens us with a few new terms – blue labia, for example!
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Produced & edited by Daisy Grant
Music by Alex Andrew
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