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“I’m constantly compared to Rio’s first wife”… Kate Ferdinand on building a blended family
Ep. 181
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It’s estimated that up to 1 in 3 families in the UK are blended - and in today’s episode, Kate Ferdinand came to speak to us about what that looks like for her and her family.
Kate is a much loved TV personality who shot to fame as part of ITV’s The Only Way Is Essex. In 2019, she married professional footballer Rio Ferdinand - and took on the role of stepmum to his three young children.
Kate and Rio have since had two more children - and she has become the leading voice for blended families in the UK. On her podcast, Blended, she speaks about the challenges and joys of blended families - and navigating grief and motherhood in the public eye.
In this chat, Kate tells us about what it felt like to become a mum to three kids overnight, the criticism that people place on her and Rio and how she navigates difficult conversations about grief.
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Blended is a celebration of blended families - exploring the stories of relationships bound by love, no matter what their circumstances are. The series covers subjects such as second marriages, divorce, grief and life after loss, adoption, fostering and really changes perception on the old age trope of stepmothers being wicked! You can listen to Blended on all podcast platforms!
You can watch Blended on YouTube here!
Kate’s book How To Build A Family: The essential guide for blended families and becoming a step-parent is available now. You can buy your copy here!
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Should I Delete That is produced by Faye Lawrence
Studio Manager: Dex Roy
Video Editor: Celia Gomez
Social Media Manager: Sarah English
Music: Alex Andrew
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