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Should I Delete That?

Cyber brothels, AI girlfriends and misogynistic algorithms: Laura Bates on the new age of sexism

Ep. 173

The Netflix show Adolescence opened up the conversation about male violence and the radicalisation of young boys online into the mainstream. But how much do we really know about what young boys are viewing online and the effect is has on them?


This week, we're joined by someone whose work has shaped the conversation around gender, power, and the internet for over a decade - writer, activist, and founder of the Everyday Sexism Project, Laura Bates.


We were so thrilled to welcome Laura back on the podcast to talk about her brand new book, The New Age of Sexism - an examination of how misogyny is evolving in the digital age. We spoke to her in light of the rise in incel culture, the mainstreaming of online radicalisation, and the links between toxic masculinity and real-world male violence,


This conversation touches on some upsetting themes - specifically violence against women and sexual abuse. But Laura gives us practical advice on a personal and policy level to help us eradicate this new wave of gendered hate. We learned so much from this conversation and we hope you will too.


Follow @laura_bates__ on Instagram


The New Age of Sexism: How the AI Revolution is Reinventing Misogyny is out on 15th May 2025. You can get your copy here! 


If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us on shouldideletethatpod@gmail.com 


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Should I Delete That is produced by Faye Lawrence

Studio Manager: Dex Roy

Video Editor: Celia Gomez

Social Media Manager: Emma-Kirsty Fraser

Music: Alex Andrew

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