She Who Dares, Wins.

This week’s dare is inspired by my incredible previous guest, Abbi Pulling from the F1 Academy. In our conversation, Abbi said something that stopped me in my tracks:“My goal this year is to be more arrogant.”In this mini episode, we unpack what that really means – and no, it’s not about being rude, entitled, or steamrolling people. It’s about backing yourself out loud.In this episode, I talk about:Reframing “arrogance”Why we need to redefine arrogance as unapologetically backing your skills, ideas, and decisions – especially for women who are often overqualified and under-assertive.Self-efficacy and the psychology of confidenceHow your belief that you can handle a task (self-efficacy) affects whether you speak up, try, and bounce back – and how behavior can actually create confidence.The 10% rule: your dare for the next 7 daysOne simple challenge: choose a situation where you’d usually shrink, and act 10% more “arrogant” instead. Not 200% – just 10%.Examples might be:Speaking up in a meeting instead of staying quietCorrecting mis-credit and saying, “Actually, I led that project”Naming your real rates or boundaries without apologisingStretching your comfort zone (without tipping into panic)Why feeling uncomfortable doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong – it usually just means you’re stepping outside your old script and letting your nervous system recalibrate.Reflection prompts to journal on:Where in my life am I most underestimating myself?What am I quietly excellent at that nobody sees because I keep hiding it?If I was 10% more arrogant this week, what would I do differently?This week’s dareFor the next 7 days:👉 Pick one real situation where you’d usually shrink.👉 Act 10% more arrogant – in the best possible way.👉 Back yourself a little louder than you usually would.You don’t have to grow a giant ego. You just have to stop pretending you are less than you are.Come and tell me what you didI would love to hear how you get on with this dare.DM me on Instagram and tell me what you triedOr tag me in your Stories and share your 10% more arrogant momentDare Club is coming…We are just weeks away from the launch of Dare Club on 28th April – my new online paid community for women who want to live a more daring life.Inside Dare Club you’ll get:Live webinars with previous and new guestsA sisterhood community if you haven’t found your tribe yetOngoing mini dares, tools, and conversations to help you be more daringWe’re starting with 50 founding members who will get a locked-in lifetime price.👉 Head to shewhodareswins.com and click on Dare Club to join the waiting list👉 Or comment “dare club” on any of my Instagram posts and I’ll DM you the link

In this episode of She Who Dares Wins, Michelle sits down with Abbi Pulling – GB3 driver, F1 Academy champion and Nissan Formula E development driver – for a raw, funny and honest conversation about what it really takes to make it in motorsport.Abbi shares how a childhood spent at race tracks with her dad turned into a professional career, the brutal financial reality of racing, and why her goal this year is to “be more arrogant.” She opens up about mindset, burnout, social media, and the pressure of representing women in a male‑dominated sport – all while still just 22.If you’ve ever wrestled with self‑doubt, expectations or the cost (financial and emotional) of chasing a big dream, this one will hit home – whether you’re into racing or not.Key TakeawaysMindset over everything: Abbi’s turnaround season came when she stopped obsessing over expectations and focused on doing the best she could each weekend, reset from zero, and treating every result as data, not judgment.“Be more arrogant” (in a good way): Her goal is to back herself harder, trust her instincts, and speak up – especially when she knows she’s right on car setup and strategy.The real cost of racing: Moving from karts to cars can cost £100k+ a year on a budget, rising to £500k–£1m at higher levels – making sponsorship and creative funding absolutely critical.Female-only series as lifelines: W Series and F1 Academy didn’t just give visibility; they literally kept her career alive when funding ran out.Competing in mixed grids: Abbi’s raced boys and men her whole life; for her, gender matters less than mindset, performance and being at the front.Physical and mental load: Heat, fatigue and constant focus make racing a mental as much as a physical sport – the hardest part is making razor‑sharp decisions while exhausted.Representation and numbers game: More girls are entering at grassroots now, but it will take years before that shows as more women in F3, F2 and F1. It’s not “if” but when.Cars not built for women (yet): From steering wheels and pedals to seat inserts, most hardware is designed around a male body – small design changes could make a big difference.Life outside the paddock matters: Trips to the local pub, time with friends and her dog, and staying “a normal 22‑year‑old” keep her grounded and joyful.Fans really do fund the dream: Merch, fan engagement and community support have directly contributed to Abbi being able to race this season.Be right back adventuresJoin Dare ClubAbbi's Merch

In this episode of SHE Who Dares Wins, Michelle sits back down with Eva – bushcraft instructor, founder of Wilder Horizons CIC, and former contestant on the TV show Alone – to explore what it really looks like to rebuild your life from the ground up.From leaving the NHS and traditional employment, to moving into a caravan, to spending three dark winter months training in North Wales with seven other women, Eva shares a raw, honest look at self-employment, simplicity, female friendship and finding community in the outdoors.If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t do that” or felt left behind because your path doesn’t look like everyone else’s, this conversation is for you.In This Episode, We Talk AboutDaring to begin (again)Why Eva clung to traditional employment “with her fingernails”The crunch point where she realised she was doing a bad job for everyone – and had to choose herselfWhat the first year of full-time self-employment has really looked like (peaks, troughs and all)Calm over “career safety”How leaving the NHS shifted her day-to-day from constant adrenaline to a calmer nervous systemWhy she now values alignment and mental health over job titles, pensions and sick payCaravan life and living smallMoving from a two-bed flat into a tiny caravan with her partner… just as winter startedJuggling three part-time jobs, 4 a.m. commutes, and wondering, “What have I done?”The unexpected gifts of simple living: fewer bills, more outdoor space and learning what she actually needsStuff, screens and simplifyingLetting go of storage units, “just in case” boxes and the things she didn’t miss for a whole yearSwapping infinite Netflix choice for five charity-shop DVDs – and what that taught her about decision fatigue and delayed gratificationLoneliness, lost friendships and starting againThe quiet grief of friendships that fade when you step off the traditional life pathWhy it’s so hard to have honest conversations about “what went wrong” in friendshipsFeeling like you’re starting from scratch socially when your values and lifestyle changeFinding belonging in the outdoorsThree months in north Wales with the Outward Bound Trust and Berghaus:Living in a shared house with seven womenLong days in the cold and wet, learning navigation, rock skills and paddlingThe deep sense of community that formed from being together 24/7How intense shared experiences fast-track genuine connection and trustWomen-only spaces and why they matterTraining with female instructors and what changed when there were no men in the groupThe difference in energy, competition and confidence in women-only learning spacesWhy Eva chose to keep her bushcraft events women-only after hearing participant feedbackBushcraft as a doorway to courageWatching women come solo to events – sometimes for the first time doing anything just for themselvesHow lighting fires, carving wood and sleeping outside can unlock confidence far beyond the woodsThe ripple effect: course WhatsApp groups, new hiking buddies and women planning their own adventures togetherSafety, responsibility and the outdoor industryThe tension between qualified outdoor professionals and social-media-led “hike meetups”Why qualifications, recces and first aid still matter – even when you “just love hiking”Expansion and what’s next for Wilder HorizonsEva’s word of the year: ExpansionMoving from “doing everything myself” to hiring a community and adventure managerHer vision for employing and uplifting more women in the outdoor spaceJoin Dare club: www.shewhodareswins.com

In this raw, unscripted episode, Michelle shares what happened 24 hours after quitting her job in construction—a career she’s had for 18 years, including 17 years on site and the last two years working in social media for a construction firm.While working part-time, Michelle has been quietly building her lifelong dream: the She Who Dares Wins podcast. In this conversation, she opens up about:Why she finally decided to walk away from construction for goodHow her part-time role became a comfort blanket tied to her identity and self-worthThe emotional and practical challenges of balancing a “safe” job with a big dreamWhat it felt like in the first 24 hours after quitting—liberation, fear, and excitementWhy trusting your gut and “setting yourself free” can be the turning point in your lifeThis episode is for anyone who is unhappy in their job, working part-time while chasing a dream, or struggling to let go of a stable role that no longer feels right. Michelle shares honestly about money, fear, identity, and the reality that dreams take time—her podcast has been running for two years and is only now starting to feel ready to monetize.She also talks about the rebirth of this channel:Closing the door on construction contentKeeping her old videos as part of her story and journeyInviting you to come along for this new chapterIf you’ve been waiting for a sign to back yourself, this might be it.Key Topics CoveredLeaving an 18-year construction careerHybrid life: part-time job + part-time dreamIdentity and self-worth tied to your jobListening to the universe / your gut when it’s time to move onThe emotional mix of excitement vs. anxietyLetting go of the “comfort blanket” and taking a bet on yourselfThe rebirth of the channel and the next phase of She Who Dares WinsSuggested Timestamps (you can adjust based on final edit)00:00 – I just quit my jobMichelle opens with the news that she’s quit her job in construction.00:40 – 18 years in construction & the shift to social mediaBackground on her career and recent role in social media for a construction firm.01:20 – Building the She Who Dares Wins podcast on the sideHow she’s been growing the show while working part-time.02:10 – Why she decided to quitCulture, environment, identity, and the comfort blanket of a “safe” job.03:10 – The problem with hybrid roles and divided energyWhy part-time work still drains the energy needed to pursue a dream.04:10 – Trusting the universe and listening to her gutThe signs and feelings that pushed her to finally make the move.05:00 – 24 hours after quitting: how it really feelsLiberation, relief, and the surprising lack of panic—so far.05:45 – Excitement vs. anxietyHow similar they feel and why she’s choosing to see it as excitement.06:20 – A message to anyone unhappy in their jobEncouragement to trust your gut and set yourself free.07:00 – Closing the door on constructionOfficially ending her involvement in construction and keeping one toe out.07:40 – Channel rebirth & what’s nextWhy she’s not starting a new channel, how old videos fit into her story, and what the future content will look like.08:00 – Final thoughtsThank you to existing subscribers and an invitation to join the new journey.

In this episode of She Dares Wins, recorded live at the Be Right Back event, Michelle sits down with Tessa Wittock, a stunt driver and car drifter whose journey takes her from investment banking in London to drifting in muddy fields, then all the way to Hollywood, working on Mission Impossible 7 with Tom Cruise.Tessa shares how she got hooked on drifting after a passenger ride in a Skyline, built her own off-road Suzuki Vitara, and taught herself to drift before going on to win European drift titles and carve out a name in a male-dominated motorsport and stunt world.This conversation is packed with adrenaline, honesty, and practical advice for anyone who wants to push past their limits—on the track or in life.In This Episode, We Cover:From banking to burnout (the good kind):How Tessa left investment banking to pursue drifting full-time and what that transition really looked like.Learning to drift from scratch:Her early cars: Fiesta ST, Focus ST, VXR Nürburgring, Suzuki VitaraTeaching herself in muddy fields and at Santa PodBeing a visual learner and jumping into other people’s cars to improve.Breaking into stunts & Mission Impossible 7:How drifting opened doors to the British stunt worldHer mentor Terry Grant and introduction to stunt director Wade EastwoodAuditioning against other female drivers and landing Mission Impossible 7Driving everything from BMW M5 to a military H2 HummerWhat it’s like doing one-shot, high-pressure stunts with multiple cameras and huge crews.Competing at the top level in drifting:Winning Queen of Europe and placing second in King of EuropeHandling (and sometimes not handling) the pressure of qualifyingThe infamous “Ticked Off at Teesside” story and what she learned from it.Women in motorsport & role models:Navigating a male-dominated industry and not letting it define her limitsEarly female inspirations: Belinda Chalice and Lisa BranchWhy she admires Jess Hawkins and the impact of F1 AcademyHer message to young women: “If I can do it, anybody can.”Teaching others to drift:Running her drift academy at Three Sisters Circuit in WiganWhy she believes anyone can learn to drift—students aged 81 and 84 includedHer top tips for first-time drifters (including Caterham drivers):Look where you want to goUse your eyes to guide your handsAlways be two steps ahead on trackCommon misconceptions racing drivers have when they try drifting.Mindset, nerves & performing under pressure:How Tessa manages nerves on the start lineThe music she uses to get in the zone (drum & bass)Using mental checklists before a run to stay calm and focusedDealing with self-doubt and moments that made her feel “not good enough”Pivoting, pushing on, and continually challenging herself.Cars, dreams & what’s next:Her dream garage – drift car, A90 Supra build, off-roaders, and supercarsWorking as a product expert for Rolls-Royce, driving long distances and on trackWhy she wants to try rally and ultimately something Dakar-relatedPlans for a touring drift academy to bring drifting around the UK.The She Dares Wins “Dare”:Tessa’s dare to other women:Challenge yourself to do something different and out of your comfort zone—every day if you can.Tessa’s dare to herself:Step into rallying and push into a completely new motorsport discipline.https://berightback.uk/

This week’s dare: Reach out to someone who’s a few steps ahead of you in an area you’re trying to grow—business, career, or even a hobby.In this Dare Day episode, Michelle shares:A recent story about emailing a podcasting expert and how one conversation completely refreshed her vision for She Who Dares WinsWhy we often convince ourselves that “they’re too busy” or “I’m too small fry”How many successful people genuinely want to give back and support those coming up behind themA simple example of using this dare for something like wild swimming—finding people near you and asking to join themMichelle also:Invites you to reach out to her directly if you think she can help you on your journeyEncourages you to pitch yourself to podcasts (hers and others!)Shares an update on Dare Club, her structured, paid online community, now launching on 27th April with an initial 50 spots, plus future live event opportunitiesYour dare:Today, send a message or an email to someone whose experience you admire. Ask one clear question or request a tiny bit of guidance. Hit send.Join Dare Club:www.shewhodareswins.com

In this episode of She Who Dares Wins, Michelle sits down with Chloe Brennan – two-time World’s Strongest Woman (u73kg), England’s Strongest Woman, coach, and founder of Lift Your Limits – to explore what really sits behind strength, success, and daring to change your life.Chloe shares how she walked away from a “perfect” academic path in psychology, pivoted into learning disability nursing, and then again into elite strongwoman competition and holistic strength coaching. She opens up about therapy, hypnotherapy, and the “not good enough” complex that drove her, as well as the identity crisis that hit after she’d ticked off all her biggest goals.You’ll hear Chloe and Michelle dig into:Why going against expectations was the first real act of daring in Chloe’s lifeHow sport exposed deep-rooted beliefs about not being good enoughWhat hypnotherapy actually is (and isn’t) – and why high-performing athletes love itIdentity, external validation, and what happens when you’ve achieved “everything”The pressure to stay in one box – athlete, creator, or coach – and how to let yourself be all of youThis is a conversation for anyone standing at a crossroads, feeling they “should” stay where they are, but knowing there’s more.Key TakeawaysGoing against expectations is often the first brave step – leaving psychology for nursing was Chloe’s first real act of owning her life.Performance problems are usually mindset problems – most athletes Chloe works with hit the same beliefs: “I’m not good enough”, fear of failure, and perfectionism.Hypnotherapy isn’t mind control – it’s about self-efficacy, rewiring limiting beliefs, and using evidence of who you already are.Identity is fluid, not fixed – you don’t have to choose between being an athlete, a creator, or a coach. You’re allowed to be all of it.Success without inner work can feel empty – Chloe hit podiums and world records and still felt flat until she faced the deeper stuff in therapy.External validation isn’t evil, just incomplete – it feels good, but it can’t replace self-acceptance.Backing yourself is a dare – confidence doesn’t mean no doubt; it means moving with the doubt anyway.Timestamps0:00:00 – Introducing Chloe and the “She Who Dares Wins” question: how she’s dared and won0:01:30 – Leaving a “perfect” psychology path for disability nursing and owning her first big pivot0:03:40 – Discovering strongwoman through trampolining injuries, powerlifting and an accidental first comp0:08:40 – From nurse to full-time strength coach and building a holistic coaching business0:09:50 – Hypnotherapy explained: busting myths and how it transforms athlete mindsets0:15:55 – Titles, world records and still not feeling “enough” – when success doesn’t fix the emptiness0:18:12 – Therapy, triggers, and realizing sport was carrying a deep “not good enough” story0:25:05 – Identity, parts integration, and letting “athlete Chloe” and “human Chloe” coexist0:31:16 – Purpose, presence and Alan Watts – questioning the obsession with “getting somewhere”0:38:53 – Friendship, boundaries and letting people (and followers) go when they’re not your people0:46:39 – January pivot: saying she was “done” competing to finding her way back to strongwoman0:52:26 – Athletes, businesswomen and mindset: why Chloe’s work goes far beyond the gym0:56:57 – Chloe’s dare for women: back yourself, acknowledge your wins, and do it even when you doubt yourselfJoin Dare Club HereShop hoodies and Tees www.shewhodareswins.com

In this Dare Day episode of She Who Dares Wins, Michelle reflects on an inspiring International Women’s Day weekend at a women in motorsport event hosted by Laura. She shares stories from conversations with Abbi Pulling (two-time F1 Academy winner and rising Formula 1 hopeful), Tess Wittoc (stunt and drift driver featured in Mission Impossible films), and Helen & Marcella (the first British women to complete the Dakar in the classic category).Inspired by this year’s International Women’s Day theme, “Give to Gain,” Michelle sets a powerful dare: to actively support another woman—without envy, competition, or judgment. She also officially announces Dare Club, her new paid online community designed to provide sisterhood, accountability, and practical support through live sessions, guest dares, and more.This Week’s DareGive to Gain:This week, intentionally support one woman in your world. Share advice, answer a question, send an encouraging message, or offer a practical tip from your journey. Do it generously, without comparison or competition.What Dare Club is: a paid online community for women who want support, accountability, and real-life toolsWhat’s included:Monthly live sessions with past and new podcast guests, teaching on business, lifestyle, sport, and more15-minute bonus “dare” episodes from guests, created just for Dare Club membersBi-weekly coffee drop-ins for accountability and community check-insTips, tricks, and resources to help you take action in life, work, and sportMember discounts for the shop and first access to live events like the recent motorsport eventLaunch details:Launch date: 27th MarchFounding 50: Only 50 seats at launch with a lifetime locked-in priceAccess is only available via the Dare Club waitlist (newsletter sign-up)Sign up to Dare club Wait list : https://stan.store/shewhodareswins