Serendipity Soup

This month it’s a very special episode of Serendipity Soup because, although I haven’t completely decided yet, I think this is probably going to be the last one. It’s possible I will take a break and come back with a second series, but right now that’s not the plan, so how to round off the Serendipity Soup story neatly?  Well, when I floated the idea of ending the podcast in the previous episode, several listeners suggested the idea of me giving my story as the final episode so I asked my editor Anna if she would interview me and she agreed. You may disagree once you listen but I’d say there’s two themes to this one. The first is the idea of having respect for the stories that people tell me and how difficult it is to make sure that I do justice to something so personal. It’s shown me what a skill really good quality journalism is. Second, I think the podcast itself rather neatly sums up the very idea I’ve been wrestling with: what is success? I recently read that Dick Fuld the disgraced head of Lehman Brothers – the bank whose collapse nearly took down the entire global financial system in 2008 – once publicly shredded the tie of the second best trader in the bank, saying essentially that “second place is first loser”.  This is the key message of the celebrity success industry, so in podcast audience terms I should probably have my entire suit, socks, pants and probably my house shredded. After all, if a podcast can only be deemed a success when it has the highest listener numbers then everyone other than Joe Rogan might as well just pack up and go home. Obviously they don’t, which shows there’s more to it than that and so I talk a fair bit with Anna about how successful or otherwise I think Serendipity Soup has been. Huge thanks to all of you who’ve listened to the podcast and got in touch to say how much you enjoyed it. I really appreciate your support. Here are the links for this episode:Joe Rogan - https://www.joerogan.com/Adam Buxton - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-adam-buxton-podcast/id1040481893Wolf and Owl - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/wolf-and-owl/id1540826523Bill George ‘True North’ - https://www.billgeorge.org/book/true-north

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.This month's guest is Andrew Finlay, the owner of Wildview Retreat (https://wildviewretreat.com/), an amazing wellness centre set in the middle of the hills of southern Portugal. He’s a nutritional therapist and has, at various times also been a dive master, environmental consultant and head of environmental protection for the Marshall Islands. Andrew readily admits that he has a strong need to feel that he’s doing something worthwhile with his life but that following this desire, often without thinking about the consequences, has given him both extreme highs and worrying lows. He’s a very forward-looking person. Someone who feels that life’s too short to put up with situations that don’t make you happy and that if you want to feel good about yourself you should always be ready to move onto the next chapter in your life. As you’d expect I challenge him – hopefully fairly gently! – on that. At one level it makes sense, but when is enough enough? When does making a fresh start tip into giving up because things have got a bit tricky? I think it’s fair to say that Andrew isn’t into giving up when things get tricky. You don’t buy an abandoned hilltop village in Portugal and turn it into a fully functioning retreat complete with running water and electricity if you quit at the first sign of trouble. But Andrew’s reflections on the cost of being this driven are fascinating.

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.A lot of my guests define success in work as finding something that makes you happy. But this month’s guest, Camilla Waterman, added a really useful twist. Success is finding something that makes you happy at the time you’re doing it. The thing I envy about Camilla is her positive attitude to change. Just because a job makes her happy when she starts, doesn’t mean it will always make her happy. She seems so comfortable recognising when that point has been reached and then simply acting to improve the situation by moving on. In that respect she’s a lot like my guest in episode 2, Nicole Shamier, who was very comfortable recognising that at some point she wouldn’t be the right person for the dream job she was in at the time. Only two links this month. The first is to the brilliant BBC documentary ‘The Edge’, which is available on BBC Iplayer here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000lhvt/the-edge. The second is a last minute addition as I re-listened to Camilla's episode, which is the Wikipedia entry for the classical Greek legend of Cassandra: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cassandra.

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.Who are the champions of your life? The people who are there at just the right time, with just the right support, to supercharge your life and take you to whatever your next level is. This month my guest on Serendipity Soup is Jo Bradshaw: an outdoor instructor, mountain climbing expedition leader, public speaker and leadership coach. I learned a lot from my conversation with Jo, but I was particularly taken by two things she talks about. The first is the importance of every single person to the successful functioning of the teams she leads. The second is this concept of ‘champions of your life’. Jo mentions several of these people as she talks and I hope you’ve been lucky enough to have had some champions of your life too. Here are links to some of the things we talk about:Breaking The Fever S2-04 I Power dynamics in the office - with Laetita Vitaud: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/breaking-the-fever/id1621524371?i=1000565748591Bruce Tuckman’s ‘forming–storming–norming–performing’ model of group development: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tuckman%27s_stages_of_group_developmentCarol Dweck and the ‘growth’ mindset: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_DweckAsthma UK: https://www.asthma.org.uk/Anthony Nolan: https://www.anthonynolan.org/Place2Be – Improving children’s mental health: https://www.place2be.org.uk/The Duke of Edinburgh’s awards: https://www.dofe.org/360 Expeditions: https://www.360-expeditions.com/Discover Adventure: https://www.discoveradventure.com/

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts. What can we learn from extremes? This month I’m talking to Oliver Dudley who has experienced probably the most extreme career I’ve covered to date in terms of its highs and lows. He’s a property developer who lost 95% of his wealth during the 2008 financial crash but has – if you’ll forgive the pun – rebuilt his company from the ground up. He’s an amateur sportsman who rowed across the Atlantic despite a deep-seated terror of cold water. And he’s a motivational speaker who coached the world’s number one croquet player. As will become clear during the interview, I have no desire to emulate Oliver’s amazing physical feats, but I really want to understand what drives someone to constantly push themselves to try something different: to fail over and over and keep going. Because that’s ultimately what Oliver’s story is about. As he says himself, his is a career “riddled with failure”. His honesty is intense, refreshing and inspiring.There’s plenty more to Oliver’s story and you can find links to some of the things he and I talk about below:‘Through Hell and High Water’, the documentary covering James Cracknell and Ben Fogle’s Atlantic row in 2006: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Through_Hell_and_High_WaterUnfortunately I haven’t been able to find a link to the Surrey Advertiser article Oliver refers to or the ‘Ocean’s 14’ documentary, but there’s a little bit about his record-breaking row here: https://barnwellprint.co.uk/charity-fundraising/la-mondiale-atlantic-ocean-row/ and here: https://www.worldrecordacademy.com/sports/Fastest_row_across_the_Atlantic_world_record_set_by_La_Mondiale_80124.htmOliver also made the news on another rowing expedition, when he and his teammates broke off their record attempt to help a pilot who had downed his plane in the Irish Sea: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhxLrW2xLNIGary Ward “the human horse whisperer”: https://findingcentre.co.uk/Reg Bamford: https://worldcroquet.org/reg-bamford/‘Race To Dakar’ by Charley Boorman: https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/charley-boorman/race-to-dakar/9780316731928?gclid=CjwKCAjwsJ6TBhAIEiwAfl4TWMNsEaauxgpmgJY0zgYxeqlr2ZLJ56Gp_CcBoUR_n4w_7XxKkAKz2BoCGNIQAvD_BwEOliver’s company, In5 Group: https://www.in5group.co.uk/

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.Is this a make-or-break year for you? The pandemic and – in the UK at least – the huge rise in the cost of living has put a lot of people under severe pressure. It’s also making it tough to run a small business. And that’s where my guest for this special bonus edition of Serendipity Soup, Khrish Preston, finds herself. I interviewed Khrish in September 2021 after we met at a campsite in Somerset. Don’t know if any of you suddenly discovered the joys of enforced camping holidays during Covid times? Anyway, she is an amazing chef and businesswoman, please do check out her YouTube channel and website in the links below to see some of her delicious recipes and more of what she’s up to. But she started her career as a conservation biologist, tracking wolves, tigers, gorillas and any other creature that made its home in remote and dangerous places. Then she switched to become a civil servant working in London, because why not? Then she switched again, moved to the West of England and set up her own restaurant, just as the pandemic hit.  There’s plenty more to Khrish’s story and you can find links to some of the things she and I talk about below:Khrish’s website: https://www.thealternativeindian.com/Khrish’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkxYfSU2cgtU0gNa0-tStQWytch Wood Camping where Khrish and I met – well worth a stay! https://www.greenercamping.org/campsites/uk/england/southwest/somerset/crewkerne/105-wytch-wood-camping/Rebels At Work: https://www.rebelsatwork.com/The lion conservation project: https://thelastlions.org/ 

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.This month's guest is Jo Behari. Several years ago, Jo took the plunge, quit her office job and set up the UK’s first all-female home improvement and property maintenance company. From there her career developed into freelance project management, writing her own book on DIY, and television work including presenting a DIY series called ‘Make, Do and Mend’ and her current role on the British TV magazine show ‘Steph’s Packed Lunch’. I’d originally intended to interview Jo to talk about her pivot from office life to setting up her own company, which seemed brave enough. But – and I think this might be my first and probably my last exclusive – as we talked, she revealed that she’s decided to reduce some of her TV work so that she can try something completely different: being a therapist. I’m fairly sure my surprise comes across in the recording, but just to emphasise – and with apologies to all you therapists out there – I’m still having real trouble with the concept that someone would prioritise therapy over appearing on TV. But then, I’m not Jo. And as you’ll hear, she makes a very convincing case for following your heart.  Links to Jo's website, instagram and some of her books are below:Jo’s website: https://jobehari.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diyjobehari/?hl=enThe Girl’s Guide to DIY: https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/jo-behari/girl-s-guide-to-diy/9781847737540?gclid=CjwKCAjwxOCRBhA8EiwA0X8hi0HPKqAMzTEqjIpx3ccTcG6jf2mTjo97p3tO5d5LAn3kyZVrgUQo9hoCypgQAvD_BwEBeginner’s Guide to DIY: https://www.waterstones.com/book/beginners-guide-to-diy/alison-winfield-chislett/jo-behari/9781580118286#:~:text=Beginner's%20Guide%20to%20DIY%20will,%2D%2Dwithout%20spending%20a%20fortune.

Welcome to Serendipity Soup! The antidote to celebrity success podcasts.This month's guest is Rebecca Alley. Becca works as a project management officer at a large bank now, but she started out her career wanting to be a marine scientist studying dolphins and sea turtles. That didn’t work out, so she ended up in fast food, an industry she maintains builds skills that are generally under-recognised by society as a whole. She was diagnosed with autism relatively late in life and she and her colleagues have learned to work with that diagnosis. In fact, Becca says – and I agree with her – that the idea of a one-way street where you have to work around someone’s perceived disability isn’t a good way of looking at the issue. Instead, Becca talks eloquently about how her autism has driven her to improve the way her company works and how that has been recognised by senior management.  Links to Becca's LinkedIn page and some of the programmes she talks about in the podcast are below:Becca on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-alley-csm/The Western Wall: https://www.touristisrael.com/western-wall/15946/Brithright Israel: https://www.birthrightisrael.com/Linking North Carolina with Innovative Talent (LiNC-IT): https://linc-it.org/Autism Society of North Carolina: https://www.autismsociety-nc.org/TEACCH Autism Program: https://teacch.com/