Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy

Wow! I was so prepared to ask tough questions of my guest, Dr. Will Horton, because I found some of the claims he made sounded outrageous to me. Really? And, I asked those tough questions about addiction, recovery, pain, and shame...and more! When I read one of his book titles, my antennae went up: "How to Get Others to Do What You Want and Have Them Think It was Their Idea" Oh, no! That sounds so manipulative and under-handed, right? That's why I called this episode "Contrary Ways." He is a master at making outrageous statements and then backing them up with reason, logic and science. You'll see as you listen. You might not agree but it will make you think! We talked about how the body never forgets and the body keeps the score because trauma is encoded. So, what does he say you can do about it? Listen in! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What does Dr. Will mean when he says "how to get others to do what you want and have them think it was their idea?"Why was reading Psychocybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz a turning point for him? (It was for me, too!)Why does Dr. Will Horton think everything is persuasion?What horrible and astounding fact does he share about the Heaven's Gate cult?Why is Dr. Will an ardent twelve-stepper? Why does shame keep a person in a toxic relationship?What about genetics and predisposition in addictions?How can you help an addicted person? Can you? GUEST: DR. WILL HORTONDr. William D. Horton, Psy.D, CADC, CI, MH, is the world’s Leading Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer, and a top hypnosis trainer. He is also a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Master Alcohol and Drug Counselor, and Master Hypnotist TrainerDr. Horton was one of the few non-law enforcement people asked to attend the FBI Crisis/Hostage Negotiation Course at the FBI Academy.Dr. Horton’s passion for NLP and Hypnosis come from personal experience. Not only has he used NLP and Hypnosis to overcome alcohol addiction, he’s also used these techniques to win numerous karate tournaments and work as an actor in film, and stage.He has dedicated his life to advancing training and education in the mind sciences, especially for those suffering from addictions.Dr. William D. Horton has run in-patient and out-patient Substance Abuse treatment centers as well as Psych Units in prisons.Dr. William D. Horton has taught people all over the world the skills of NLP, Hypnosis, Performance Enhancement, and the Art of Business Communication. He is the founder of NFNLP, the National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming and the creator of several best selling home study courses on NLP and Hypnosis. A prolific writer, Dr. Horton’s articles on NLP and Hypnosis are regularly featured in “The Journal of Hypnotism,” the country’s largest hypnosis publication. His articles are considered a must-read in the field of hypnosis and psychology. His NLP and Hypnosis courses and workbooks have won acclaim for their easy-to-understand format.Dr. William D. Horton has won more awards in the field of hypnosis and NLP from independent organizations than anyone.FREE GIFT FROM DR. WILL :Look for it on his website: Quantum Psychology: There is More to You Than Meets the EyeDrWillHorton.com CONTACT INFO FOR DR. WILL HORTON:Website: JordanGoldrich.comPodcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-will-horton/id1252773200LinkedIn :https://www.linkedin.com/in/drwillhorton/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Alcoholandaddictionsolution/?modal=admin_todo_tourInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwillhorton/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/docnlpYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWLdEYoS9z9XV8k05T8Ar4w/CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#drwillhorton #secretcults #manipulativepeople #playingmindgames #overcomingaddiction #HeavensGate #traumaencoded #NLP #neurolinguisticprogramming #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations #workplacerelationships #relationshipadvice #toxicrelationshipadvice

Do you feel like a warrior when you go to work? Do you feel like you MUST be a warrior?Warriors are tough. Is that a necessity for getting people to work together and produce desired results?My conversation with Jordan Goldrich, author of Workplace Warrior, had some surprises. The subtitle of his book is "People Skills for the No B.S. Executive." He immediately brought up the word, abrasive, to describe many leaders. Not a surprise! Sometimes people think they have to be tough, competitive, and yes, abrasive in order to be seen as a leader. Often, that backfires!If you're going to be successful at work, you have to create a workplace that people are not afraid to go to. So, how does a leader create the desired balance?Two big pieces of advice from Jordan:"You have to show respect and compassion to others. Talk to them like they are human beings...because they are.""Acknowledge and apologize for your past behavior." That's where his seven steps to an apology come in.Great insights for leaders who want to be better, leaders who need people skills!Excellent information for everyone who goes to a workplace every day.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Why do we need a war metaphor for this?Why do workplace leaders think they have to aggressive?What's the difference between what he calls "straight talk," and having no filters?What makes leaders abrasive?How can leaders and would-be leaders learn to be assertive without being degrading or demanding?Why is it that abrasive executives are often overly-protected?What are his seven steps to making an apology? GUEST: Jordan GoldrichJordan Goldrich partners with executives to drive results without damanaging relationships. He is the co-author of the newly published book, "Workplace Warrior: People Skills For The No BS Executive." He is a Chief Operations Officer, Master Corporate Executive Moach (MCEC), Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and California Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW.) He is partner in the business consulting firm CUSTOMatrix, Inc, and an executive coach for the Center for Creative Leadership. FREE GIFT FROM JORDAN :The Battle Plan. A downloadable excerpt from his book, Workplace WarriorWorkplaceWarrior.comCONTACT INFO FOR JORDAN GOLDRICH:Website: JordanGoldrich.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @jgoldrichFacebook: @jordan.goldrichInstagram: @jordangoldrichTwitter: @jordangoldrich1YouTube: @jordangoldrichCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#JordanGoldrich #workplacewarrior #nobullshitexecutive #peopleskills #leadersasbullies #abrasiveleaders#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations #workplacerelationships #relationshipadvice #toxicrelationshipadvice

We have so many images of step-moms. Angels, devils, and everything in between! My guest, Kathy Hammond, is the author of How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms.You might relate! She says, "Books on step parenting hope to evoke a kumbaya feeling. That might work if everyone involved in the step family dynamic is mature, empathetic and certainly not narcissistic. In reality are very raw emotions of jealousy, anger, resentment and fear, experienced by ex-spouses and subsequent spouses and, as chief casualties, the kids."Being a stepmom is difficult. You step into a place where someone else's shoes are already filled, in most cases. You're the bonus mom. You also may be perceived as the unnecessary extra mom, too. Whoa! How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorney, and Then Some! Strong words. I'm sure many stepmoms will relate. Do you? Are you in a new relationship where you're screaming (at least, in your head) "My husband's ex cannot let go! My husband's ex causes too many problems! My husband's ex won't let go!" Maybe your partner's ex is a #Hijackal. If you're dealing with a #Hijackal ex--a difficult, toxic, unrelenting, demanding ex--when you're the new stepmom, you're going to have a steep learning curve. There will be days! You'll wonder why you ever said yes to taking on someone's children. Will it strengthen your new marriage by working as a team, or will your new partner be overwhelmed by the stress? Maybe, you'll land somewhere in between. Listen today and shortcut the journey to success as a stepmom. Feel better about your stepmom role. Kathy Hammond has twenty-seven years of experience as a stepmom so she's done some heavy lifting for you. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What do I do to get a great start when I take on someone else's children? What CAN I do to improve family dynamics when I'm the stepmom?What if my husband's ex is toxic?How do I keep myself out of my husband's last relationship?How do I handle the money situation when there is an ex in the picture?Why is an annual review of child custody and child support essential?How can I enforce my boundaries in a new relationship with his children?What can I expect when the children's bio mom remarries? What about divorce attorneys?What about dealing with in-laws? GUEST: KATHY HAMMONDKathy Hammond is an award-winning author, speaker and CEO of a recruitment solutions company in Orange County, California. The focus of her work is helping people find their voice and their place. A native of Southern California, Kathy and her family moved to Guam after graduating high school, satisfying her newfound wanderlust. She attended the University of Guam, falling in love with Hemmingway and Margaret Mead. With a dream of writing her way through distant cultures, she landed a job selling ad space for This Month and Guam and Micronesia magazine where she begin writing commercially before becoming its Editor, also writing for the then-popular Off Duty military magazine. Wanting to earn her writing chops on something bigger, after spending time in Japan and, later, while living in Switzerland, Kathy started writing a novel about American baseball players in Japan. She loved writing dialogue but fiction was not to be her genre. She returned to California and continued her career in sales. While on a cruise to Mexico, on the night they set sale, Kathy met her husband-to-be and the catalyst for her latest work. They married seven weeks later and moved to John’s home state of Tennessee where she became stepmom to John’s two very young sons. After later relocating to South Florida, she went on to earn a Master’s in Organizational Management while working as a sales executive in workforce solutions. She studied business coaching in South Africa, where she appeared on numerous radio and television shows and was keynote speaker on the coaching organization’s nationwide speaking tour. In 2011, Kathy and her husband returned to Southern California where she found her writing voice. The following year, she published her first book, The Road to Nē: A remarkable little tale about getting what you want by giving up just one little thing, an allegory on goal setting, winning honorable mentions at the 2013 Great Southwest, Paris and New York Book Festivals. In 2019, Kathy published How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms. Infusing Kathy’s grinding humor and practical advice to tackle life’s dilemmas is spurring Kathy’s “How to Kill …” series … though one will have to wait to see who is next. Still going strong after 27 years of marriage, Kathy and her husband reside in Yorba Linda, California.FREE GIFT FROM KATHY :Not at this timeCONTACT INFO FOR KATHY HAMMOND:Website: KathyHammonBooks.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @BusinessOptimizerFacebook: Instagram: Twitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#KathyHammond #KathyHammondBooks #beingastepmom #asskickinstepmom #stepparenting #stepmothers #adviceforstepmoms #adviceforstepmothers #otherpeopleschildren #becomingastepmom #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

Fearful? Skeptical? Not sure you trust yourself to choose well? Unsure about trusting when you start to date again? You'll likely have some of that when you're dating in mid-life, especially if you have left a toxic relationship? You hear the term, self-love, so often these days. Do you know what it really means? What are your assumptions about it? I actually don't use that term much because of the ambiguity. In today's episode, my guest, Jonothon Aslay, and I discuss this because sometimes the term causes me to roll my eyes. Really, that's true. But, I loved Jonathon's definition of self-love, and that makes the discussion all the more juicy! It's awkward to know when the best time to ask about previous relationships is, right? Do you get it out of the way at the beginning, or is there a better time for that question? See all the question below that I asked Jonathon. So much great information, and excellent insights, too. ______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What inspired Jonathon Aslay to write about dating and self-love?What is his definition of self-love?How does mid-life dating differ from dating earlier in life?What are the red flags in mid-life dating?Are there questions to be avoided on first dates? When is the best time to talk about previous relationships when dating a new person?Why does Jonathon call venting "empowered problem-solving?"What are the roadblocks women face when understanding divorced men?What questions should women ask when going out with a divorced man?What are the differences between men who have been divorced and men who've never married?GUEST: JONATHON ASLAYThe focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE. After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.FREE GIFT FROM JONATHON:Chapters from his book, What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? http://www.jonathonaslay.com/love/CONTACT INFO FOR JONATHON ASLAYWebsite: JonathonAslay.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/Instagram: @Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jonathonaslayYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#JonathonAslay #selflove #whatisselflove #datinginmidlife #midlifedating #trustinmidlifedating #datingwhenolder #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

HUMAN DESIGN? What immediately came to mind when you read that?Human Design is a system that "illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input," as today's guest, Chetan Parkyn says."We get distracted in our lives from the moment we arrive here.We become conditioned not only from the attitudes and behaviors of the family and circumstances in which we are born, but we also have ingrained in our genetic codes unconscious patterns from our ancestry.Human Design illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input.It highlights the "Cards we are dealt at birth," the Soul Agreement we made before the conditioning and before we were introduced to the concept of good or bad.My work is to not only illustrate an individual's codes but also to indicate how to play these codes or "cards" to ensure personal recognition, self-acceptance, self-love and ultimate fulfillment.Being in love with your own life, establishes a sure foundation for any an all interactions and relationships."Understanding what Human Design offers you can change your direction. When I first encountered it, twelve years ago, I was relieved. What I had been doing to let people know about my work was the exact opposite of what my Human Design invited me to do.Wow! Everything changed. I invite you to get Chetan Parkyn's free Human Design report to help you with initial insights. It may be just what you most need. The link is in the notes below._______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is the Human Design approach?How are we "conditioned" to more away from our own specific Human Design?Can we change the genetic codes ingrained in us from our ancestry?What is Chetan's take on "self-love?"What does it mean to be ultimately fulfilled?How can we live the life we were mean to have before life intervened in our formative years?How is Human Design a self-remembering system?How can we learn to navigate toxic relationships better, knowing Human Design?Why is is worthwhile to know my Human Design, and how can it help me going forward?GUEST: CHETAN PARKYNChetan Parkyn was schooled in England, and traveled the world as a troubleshooting mechanical engineer and ocean-diving engineer. In India, in 1979, while with the enlightened mystic Osho, his abilities to read for people surfaced when his gifts were recognized by two savants, who told him to “get ready” for a system that would come into his life and that he would introduce to the whole world.Chetan was encouraged to use his gifts to “Read” for people, and he commenced reading hands, cards, the IChing, astrology and other esoteric systems to prepare himself for the “new system.”In 1993, he was introduced to Human Design, recognized right away this is what the savants had foretold, and has studied, read and taught it worldwide ever since.His first book : Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born To Be was first published in 2009 by Harper Collins UK, and is now available in 12 language versions, reaching best-seller status in Chinese, Russian and Bulgarian. Two more books on Human Design, The Book of Lines, and 21st Century View of the IChing, and The Book of Destinies, Discover the Life You Were Born To Live are already being translated and released in other language versions.26 years after being introduced to Human Design, Chetan continues teaching Human Design online and in person, often with his wife and partner, Carola Eastwood. Chetan presently resides in San Diego, California.FREE GIFT FROM CHETAN:FREE Human Design Report.https://HumanDesignForUsAll.com/free-reportCONTACT INFO FOR CHETAN PARKYNFor the free Human Design App : www.TheHumanDesignApp.comFor personal Readings and Mentoring, Chetan can be reached at Media@HumanDesignForUsAll.comPhone (1) 951 961 7662Website: HumanDesignForUsAll.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @Chetan-ParkynFacebook: @Chetan.ParkynInstagram: @Twitter:  @HumanDesignBookYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCafa0H6oujxU-YELe7DSfsg?view_as=subscriberCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#ChetanParkyn #HumanDesign #HumanDesignforusall #CarolaEastwood #astrology #humandesignreport #freehumandesignreport#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

Never mistake love-bombing for love!Never mistake lust for love!Great advice for dating! Today's episode with Dr. Terri Orbuch is SO important, especially when you're dating. And, even more especially if you're dating after leaving a difficult, or toxic, relationship. You need to know these distinctions so that you feel more confident in the dating scene.The big question we discuss is "How can you reignite passion in a relationship that has become a little humdrum, and maybe a little too indifferent. You can do it and Dr. Terri gives three surprising, yet simple things to consider...especially her tip about arousal-producing activities and the scientific reasons behind why they work to reignite passion.Dr. Terri's advice is based on science, or her long-term research project following the same couples over time.How to reignite the passion in your long-term relationship?Passion and excitement decline in all relationships over time - it's inevitable. So, when that happens, it's important to practice strategies that can reignite that excitement of passion. We discuss science-based strategies to keep the flame alive!!In addition, all couples go through relationship ruts - where your relationship becomes habitual, routine or the same old things over time. That's okay. It's part of a long-term relationship. BUT, if couples stay in that relationship rut for too long, boredom sets in, and boredom eats away at the happiness in a relationship. So, we discuss strategies to add things to your relationship so that boredom won't set in.Dr. Terri Orbuch shares a great tip from her book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great."Contrary to what you've been told, keeping a marriage successful does not take hard work! Instead, it takes consistent small changes in behaviors and attitudes over time, to create happiness and transform your relationship.The main reason marriages break up isn't conflict, lack of communication or sexual incompatibility. Rather, it's frustration (that is, the day-to-day disappointment or the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts) that's most damaging."_______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...How does science-based research into dating and love help?Can you learn to trust after betrayal?Is it true that the US has a very high divorce rate?At what point in a relationship is divorced more likely to happen?When excitement and passion decline, does that mean the relationship is in trouble?What can couples do to reignite the passion?What is the difference between love and lust?How is love is different from love-bombing?GUEST: DR. TERRI ORBUCHDr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, professor, research professor, marriage and family therapist and media personality, whose practical science-based advice has helped thousands of people find and create the loving relationships they deserve.Dr. Terri Orbuch earned her Ph.D. from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. She joined the faculty at Oakland University in 1998 and is now a Distinguished Professor of Sociology. She is also a research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, and the director of a landmark research project, funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. It is the longest-running study of married couples ever conducted in the United States.In addition, she is a certified marriage and family therapist (MFT) who has worked with individuals and couples for thirty years. She also does dating and relationship coaching with people across the world. She is well respected as a researcher and professor in the scientific world, and is also known by TV, radio, and online fans as The Love Doctor®, a popular relationship expert and advisor.Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of five relationship books, including “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great,” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Her website is: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.comAbout Dr. Terri• Featured in national outlets such as, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, Real Simple, Bride, O, Good Housekeeping, WebMD, USA Today, Self, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, TIME magazine and more…• Appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, CNN, and more…• Her relationship segments are aired weekly on Fox-2 Detroit Morning News (2005 – present)• National public television special (PBS), “Secrets from The Love Doctor”• 2,200,000+ views on her TEDx talk: Lust vs. Love; https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=466&v=Siru3n3zIbM• 2 best-selling books: “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship”• 5 Simple Steps #1 best seller in Amazon for: (a) Marriage and Long-Term Relationships, (b) Marriage and Adult Relationships, & (c) Self Help Relationships• Hosts an Empower Radio weekly program called “The Love Doctor is IN.” Archived on iTunes, Stitcher and iHeart Radiohttp://www.empoweradio.com/home/shows/812199-The-Love-Doctor-with-Terri-Orbuch.htmlFREE GIFT FROM DR.ORBUCHNot at this timeCONTACT INFO FOR DR. TERRI ORBUCH:Website: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @TerriOrbuchFacebook: @DrTerriLoveDrInstagram: @Twitter:  @DrTerriLoveDrYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=Siru3n3zIbMCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. 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GO WITH YOUR GUT! How many times have you heard that? Sure, most folks are talking about intuition and gut feelings, but did you know that the seat of health is in your gut, your microbiome? Worth knowing, right? Better yet, and more worth knowing, is learning about taking good care of your microbiome to encourage health, in every way.Dr. Brindusa Vanta has used her training as a medical doctor, and her vast interest and research, to understand the foundations of health, and how to return to it when it seems to be seeping away. She shares these findings with you, and helps you to find a path to better health. Fabulous!Depressed? Anxious? Feeling like you can't think straight and everything's a bit fuzzy?Dr. Vanta shares five important considerations for overcoming depression, and her four mindset shifts for overcoming disease in general. Yahoo! Only four. You can do that, right?Because I help people who are--or, have been--experiencing toxic relationships, I asked Dr. Vanta about the effects of toxic relationships on the body and mind. In particular, I asked about the link between toxic relationships and the development of autoimmune diseases. You want to be very mindful of this. The sooner you leave the toxic situation, the sooner you can heal.Got inflammation? You'll want to hear the psychoneurology and mind-body connections that can be involved. Let's all stop triggering inflammation now!Listen in. You, your body, and your relationships will benefit from spending this time learning from Dr. Brindusa Vanta._________________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is included in "natural medicine?"What is homeopathy?How is brain health related to physical health?What can happen to a body in a long-term toxic relationship?What can I do to stop triggering inflammation in my body?What are Dr. Vanta's four steps to overcoming disease?What supplements does Dr. Vanta suggest for improving brain health?What can you do that is both natural and helpful for overcoming depression?GUEST: DR. BRINDUSA VANTADr.Vanta graduated from a top medical school in Romania in 2001, with a wealth of knowledge and a strong belief that the use of prescription drugs is the only solution for overcoming diseases.After moving to Canada, she was keen to get her MD license. Despite several obstacles, she successfully passed the tests required to apply for a Canadian license. While she was in a lengthy process of getting into the residency program in 2005, a personal event made her explore nutrition and alternative medicine.She then enrolled in an advanced program for physicians at the Ontario College of Homeopathic Medicine in Toronto.In 2008, she got involved in medical research focused on natural therapies and shifted her focus from conventional medicine to alternative medicine.Dr.Vanta’s mission is to help people transform their health and vitality using the power of nutrition and natural medicine.She is a medical researcher who makes use of latest and scientific studies on brain health and provides one on one consultations to clients from around the world.Key area of expertise: brain health and how to supercharge your brain.Naturally.FREE GIFT FROM DR. VANTA:Test your brain health. Take her free quiz at DrVanta.comCONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRINDUSA VANTA:Website: DrVanta.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @DrBrindusaVanta5918Facebook: @Dr-Brindusa-VantaInstagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCATwitter:  YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. 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You've likely heard so much in the news about the separation of children from their families at the United States borders. Children kept in cages.Overcrowding conditions that don't seem to improve. And, the issues of children being placed in foster homes for their own safety has always been with us.HOW DO WE MAKE THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM WORK WELL IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF CHILDREN AND FAMILIES? That's the big, ongoing question. Today, my guest, Richard Villasana, helps us understand what the actual realities are for both children separated from their families at the US Border, and children separated from their families because their parents cannot--and sometimes should not--be caring for them,You likely have a thought about the foster care system. Sad stories about the foster care system make their way into television dramas we enjoy watching. It makes us aware of the feeling of foster children. Recently, for instance, on Grey's Anatomy, two main characters bonded over a newly-discovered shared history of having been in foster care. It makes it more real for everyone to understand, and I applaud the writers of these shows for being socially conscious!Richard Villasana is a leading light out of what can be a dark hole for many. This, of course, has been exacerbated by recent years of high-profile stories about the immigration difficulties and the separation of children from their families at the US border. So many children in such a short time...in cages. We've all seen it on the news. I have friends who have gone to the border to see exactly what is happening, and it is all very real, unfortunately.I asked Richard Villasana why we hear that some children may never see their parents again, after having crossed the border. Of course, I am very concerned about emotional trauma and long-lasting emotional damage that these sad situations can create, and I asked Richard about how it is addressed. An equally sad answer!See the Highlights below for the questions I made sure to ask him.Listen in and learn more. This is very serious for the fabric of our society: that children are being well-cared for, in their best interests and on behalf of their well-being. ._________________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is actually happening at the border of the United States with children being separated from their families?Will these children ever see their families again?Are mistakes being made in the processing of their families?How is this family separation being addressed?What is the process for finding family for this immigrant children?What is the ideal placement for a foster child?How do we improve foster care?What effect do cultural differences have on the fostering situation?How is the emotional trauma that foster kids too often suffer addressed, especially in the case of immigrant families?GUEST: RICHARD VILLASANARichard Villasana, founder of Forever Homes for Foster Kids, is a leading international authority on immigration issues and foster families. A proud Navy veteran,Richard has been featured on CNN International, Univision, AP News, ABC TV, Costco Connections, Washington Post, and EFE, the world’s largest Spanish language media company. He is a olumnist with Foster Focus Magazine and an international speaker. He was honored as a California Hero. He has also translated for the United Nations.For 25 years, his non-profit has worked with government agencies across the country reuniting immigrant and foster children with their families.FREE GIFT FROM RICHARD VILLASANA: Not at this time. CONTACT INFO FOR RICHARD VILLASANA:Website: ForeverHomesforFosterKids.orgPodcasts:LinkedIn: @RichardVillasanaFacebook: @FimilyFindingMXInstagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCATwitter:  @FamilyFindingMXYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#fosterkids #kidsseparatedattheborder #inhumaneimmigration #reunitingfosterkids #foreverhomesforfosterkids #richardvillasana#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations