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Exploring Sex and Chronic Illness With Kate Moyle | 48
How does sex show up in your life with chronic illness, whether you’re in a relationship or not?
Is it something that’s changed over the time you’ve lived with chronic illness and if so, have you ever made that connection?
Is it something you’d like to improve your relationship with, your feelings about… would you like to know how to talk about it more openly and honestly, but don’t know where to start?
If we want it to, sex gets to feel fun, loving, pleasurable and enjoyable. We get to have it in our lives as something we do to connect with our bodies and desire, and with that of others, if we choose to. It gets to be really positive thing, not only in our lives, but for our health, too.
But to do that, we need to start thinking differently about it; about how we approach it, how we talk about it and how we understand it.
Today, I’m discussing all of that and more with Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, Psycho-sexologist and host of The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast.
She works in talking therapy to help people to address the challenges they are facing in their sex lives and relationships, and to help people to get to a place of sexual health, wellbeing and happiness whatever that looks like for them.
Kate has also just worked on The Women’s Collection with the meditation app Headspace, so defo go and check that out.
You can find Kate on her own podcast, The Sexual Wellness Sessions, and on Instagram @katemoyletherapy
She also brilliantly recommended a whole host of sexual wellness brands who have created products, tools and resources to add to our sex lives, from apps to stackable buffer rings. I’ve linked them all in the show notes, go and have a gander.
LINKS:
Your Chronic Illness Superpower: click here to tap into the wisdom of your chronic illness and start living in the way you truly want to be living, from the day-to-day to the big dream stuff.
Bang on - sex cushions and sex wedges
Lelo - sex toys & massage products (available most places)
Ferly - audio guide to mindful sex
Ohnut - stackable buffer rings
Dr Lori Brotto - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/defining-mindful-sex-with-dr-lori-brotto/id1527311547?i=1000493430593
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