Red Card For Mummy & Other Soccer Stories

Tania Hird is an Extreme Soccer Mum. She is also an ex lawyer, mother of 4 and founder & CEO of HairflairAus and Tania Hird Designs. Tania knows elite sport. Her son Alex plays for A- League team, Melbourne Knights. But yes - that surname IS familiar. For many years too, Tania was the wife and partner of Essendon Football legend and coach, James Hird. By James' side steadfastly, Tania experienced both the mercurial highs and devastating lows of an ultra extreme elite football experience. This is a candid conversation born of those observations: about raising elite athletes to be of good character, and develop a strong sense of self that exists away from the game. Don't get ahead of yourself, is Tania's mantra, observing that respect for others is just insufficient - there must be true care for others instilled in any elite athlete, to take them outside a world that otherwise would be all about themselves. Football, fame, fuck ups and fortitude - these are the observations Tania brings to this episode, from a rarified position with high heeled feet firmly on the ground. Tania Hird. She's a legend.Red Card For Mummy and Other Soccer stories is made with the help and skills of Marea Markou, Elahn Zetlan, Les Molnar (Production Alley) and #WordOf Mouth Whisperer Helen Merry. Created and presented by Libbi Gorr as an AddLibbi podcast.

Dave Davutovic is a leading football commentator in Australia, and here, shares his insights into the pathway from here, this water bound continent, to play Football with the rest of the world. The conversation looks at how Soccer treated Indigenous Australians at the time of the White Australia policy, and how men's and women's soccer has attracted different players, according to the cultural pressures within each gender at the time. Boys play Football, Girls make pasta was once the way families worked, and our Football teams reflected that by name. But now it is changing, as gender roles have changed within the cultural mix. And the pathway to superstardom overseas is no less tinged by gender as well. Join Dave and The Keepers Mum for the inside story on how to make it, and who's trying to fleece you for money in the process!

Is cheating common in a game of football? How does a ref decide whether or not to give a Red Card? A Yellow Card? Stop the Match? We go inside the Referee's mind to discover exactly what it takes for a parent to don the kit and pick up a whistle. What are the no go zones for on field behaviour? How much money can you make? is it tax deductible? And do you have to be mad to even try. Ben Walker , Australian parent, Lawyer and civil servant, and former house husband takes his experience with the rules to a whole new level in this conversation about his life as a ref . Here are his notes from our session. Of course, he's the ref, he always does the paperwork. Fitness, legitimate cash money, learning new skills all came into it for Ben, as well as a pressing need to get out of the house. In Ben's mind, what makes a good referee is:Good fitness.Sense of humour.Good knowledge of the rules.Being close to the playBe decisive aka ‘sell your decision’ and see the lighter side of things when appropriateHow to get the best out of a referee from a juniors club perspective:Within reason to look after them and make sure they’re capable marshals to escort them to and from the pitch, ensure that the change rooms are in reasonable order, make sure they have good access to refreshments and be mindful there is little time between matches so referees on match day are truly time poorBe mindful of cliched gender roles:So many juniors clubs have the women at relegated to the tuckshop and perhaps Team Manager - a thankless task, normally. By comparison the blokes lounge around drinking coffee's and /or beers and perhaps, if pressed, will run the line. These are exaggerations but you get the point.Ben says it’s always very helpful to have the pitch markings in good order, that way the players and spectators and especially officials can tell whether the ball is in or out of play. It aids safety, reduces confusion and can reduce the potential for needless conflictBenches and the referee:Smart benches don’t constantly abuse the referee. They realise it potentially puts him/her offside  it also can lead to the bench being thrown off the pitch (red card) and big fines as well as setting a poor example to the players & spectators. Benches are not a de facto spectator space. Only team officials and actual players should be there, the reason being if the ball is really hardly struck and goes into the bench area and someone gets hurt there’s a significant risk that non-officials non-players won’t be covered for injury if they’re hurt.At a lesser level, the smart thing to do if the Bench is concerned a particular player is not being treated fairly is to very clearly and simply say it loudly when the referees going past. Although the preferable method is for the captain to raise it with the referee in a break in play e.g. say that the striker has been knocked around or blocked or whatever the issue is. Any referee worth feeding is open to a respectful request and will be more vigilant. 

They stripped off to raise funds to compete. Can you believe this was the only way Women's Football in Australia - our beloved Matilda's - could garner the financial support and promotional appeal to propel them into the 2000 Sydney Olympics? The extraordinary thing about the Matilda's decision to strip down - de rigeur at the time for fundraising ( think Calendar Girls in the UK) - was that is was sanctioned by women's football's governing body at the time. Come now and meet Maria Berry AM (Hall of Fame inductee to Football Victoria) for her work is a pioneering sports administrator in Women's Football. Maria was part of that decision making process and joins us to tell the tale, amongst others, in this straight from the kit room exclusive.

Well, if you want to work as a professional in Soccer, there's Plan A and Plan B . Andy Brennan, is both charismatic and dynamic midfielder for the South Melbourne Soccer Club, and club psychologist at A League contenders, Melbourne City. In fact, he credits his longevity and ability to withstand the maelstrom of a life as a soccer pro not just to committed mentors and hard work on the pitch, but quite specifically, to the time he has spent developing his mind set.Through a pottered path, Andy found his own way to the A League as a player through the Newcastle Jets, where the realities of soccer life hit him hard. But out of immense breakdown comes unique possibility, and in this candid chat, Andy reveals his own journey to mental fitness, and his commitment to inspire others to follow that lead.

Helen Tyrikos is one of those rare breeds - a senior female football administrator who actually is paid for her work. Legendary in Soccer circles, Helen is doing amazing work researching the relationship between a parents behaviour and the kids' collection red cards - so sit up straight; we are looking at YOU, Mummy. Even if you are a Daddy. Here's another interesting tidbit, I bet you never considered...When a kid makes the big time, who actually sees the money? Helen has some amazing facts about the financial return clubs get for developing elite players - when a kid gets discovered, what's in it for your local club? And is it the same for girls as it is for boys? No? Oh, come on. You surprise me. All you never knew you needed to know about parents, red cards and money. Follow us on Insta and follow the show.