Project Loving Myself

Most of us don't wake up one day and decide to run from ourselves. We learn to through pain, fear, and sometimes simply to survive. And over time, that escape can take many forms: another drink, another achievement, another scroll, another relationship, another reason to stay busy.In this episode, we talk with Shannan Kym, an internationally award-winning author, TEDx speaker, and transformational mentor, about the ways we escape ourselves and what we're really running from. Drawing from her own experience with childhood abuse, alcoholism, and an unhealthy relationship, Shannan shares how facing the parts of ourselves we've been avoiding can become the beginning of real change.Together, we explore why temporary relief isn't the same as healing, how stillness can reveal the patterns we've been trying to escape, and why awareness is the first step toward creating a different life. We also unpack identity, self-trust, and what it means to stop running from your pain and start becoming the person you truly want to be.Episode Resources✨ Grab Shannan's Self-Discovery Workbook — a resource to help you unravel your past, reconnect with the present, and create a brighter future. Valued at $500. Download the FREE Workbook✨ Download my Self-Love Cheat Sheet — a simple, practical guide to help you reconnect with yourself, break self-sabotaging patterns, and start choosing yourself every day.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why we turn to distraction, achievement, and unhealthy habits to escape pain✨ How the patterns we develop in childhood can shape the lives we create as adults✨ Why stillness can bring the emotions and limiting beliefs we've been avoiding to the surface✨ The difference between temporarily feeling better and actually becoming better✨ How knowing what you want can be the beginning of changing your life✨ Why your identity is something you can consciously create and embodyIf you've been using busyness, achievement, relationships, or other coping mechanisms to avoid what you're really feeling, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to spend your life running from yourself. Sometimes, the beginning of change is simply becoming aware of what you don't want, getting honest about what you do want, and choosing to face what's been waiting underneath.Connect with Shannan🌐 www.shannankym.comIG: @shannankymConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

We spend so much of our lives rushing from one thing to the next that we forget what it feels like to simply be here. Thinking about what happened. Worrying about what’s coming. Checking our phones, answering messages, carrying a hundred things at once.And eventually we feel it — stressed, anxious, and strangely disconnected from ourselves.In this episode I talk with Rev. Connie L. Habash, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Awakening from Anxiety, about how time in nature cancalm your nervous system and bring you back into your body.Together we explore how nature slows you down, quiets the noise you’ve stopped noticing, and becomes a practice you’ll actually keep.Episode Resources✨ Download Rev. Connie's The Gift of Calm — a simple resource to help you create more calm, regulate overwhelm, and reconnect with a sense of inner peace.✨ Grab my Chaos to Calm guide — simple, practical tools to help you reset emotionally, quiet the overwhelm, and come back to yourself when everything feels like too much.In this episode:✨ Why stress and overwhelm are often signs you've disconnected from yourself✨ How nature pulls you out of your head and back into the present✨ Why slowing down feels so uncomfortable when you're used to constant stimulation✨ The simple daily practice Connie uses to reconnect with your senses✨ What nature teaches about being, instead of constantly doingIf you've been feeling overwhelmed, or like you're moving through life on autopilot, this conversation is a reminder that feeling better doesn't always take more effort. Sometimes it starts with stepping outside.Connect with Connie📸 Instagram: @conniehabash🌐 Website: awakeningself.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

There comes a point when achieving more stops answering the questions you thought it would. You can have the career, the goals, the relationships, and a life that looks good from the outside… and still wonder, “Is this actually what I want?”In this episode, we talk with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby — psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. We unpack why external success doesn’t always change how we feel on the inside, and why constantly chasing the next milestone can leave us disconnected from who we actually are.Together, we explore what it really means to know yourself beyond your achievements, roles, and other people’s expectations. From understanding your personality and values to paying attention to what you genuinely enjoy, need, and want, this conversation looks at why knowing yourself may be one of the most important parts of creating relationships, success, and a life that actually fits you.Episode Resources✨ Download the Success Blocks Checklist — uncover the hidden patterns around self-worth, achievement, and success that may be keeping you from fully enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why reaching the next milestone doesn’t always make you feel the way you expected✨ How external validation can become tied to your sense of self-worth✨ Why knowing your personality, preferences, and values matters more than you think✨ What happens when the life you’re living doesn’t match who you really are✨ How understanding yourself can improve the way you relate to other people✨ Why self-exploration needs to go beyond awareness and into how you actually liveIf you’ve built a life that looks successful but still find yourself wondering why it doesn’t feel as fulfilling as you thought it would, this conversation will help you ask a different question: "How well do you actually know the person you’ve been building all of this for?"Connect with Dr. Lisa 🎙️ Podcast: Love, Happiness and SuccessIG: @drlisamariebobbyConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

You can meet someone who is consistent, available, and genuinely good to you… and still find yourself wondering why you don’t feel the same spark. Then someone else gives you mixed signals, keeps you guessing, or stays just out of reach and suddenly, you can’t stop thinking about them.In this episode, we explore why the person who gives you the love you say you want can sometimes feel “boring,” while the person you have to chase feels exciting. We explore how what you experienced growing up can shape what you recognize as love as an adult and why you may keep finding yourself drawn to relationships where you have to work for someone’s attention.Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple question to ask yourself when you feel the urge to pull away, we look at what may really be behind that restlessness and how to tell whether you genuinely don’t want someone or you’re simply not used to love being this easy.Episode Resources✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — if you know there’s a pattern in your relationships but can’t quite see where it comes from, this call will help you connect the dots and understand what keeps repeating.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why emotionally unavailable people can feel more exciting than available ones✨ How childhood experiences shape what we learn to expect from love✨ Why having to earn someone’s attention can feel like chemistry✨ What may be happening when a good relationship suddenly feels “boring”✨ How the same role you played growing up can follow you into adult relationships✨ The one question to ask yourself before walking away from someone who treats you wellIf you keep losing interest when someone is consistent but becoming attached when someone keeps you guessing, this episode will help you look at that pattern differently and understand what you may actually be chasing when you think you’re chasing love.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

So many women spend years believing that being loving means giving more. Giving more of their time. Their energy. Their support. Their patience. And without realizing it, they build their sense of worth around being the one everyone can depend on.In this episode, we unpack why overgiving isn't always about generosity. Sometimes it's about trying to earn love, approval, or a sense of belonging. We explore how childhood experiences shape the roles we take on, why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, and what it takes to stop measuring our worth by how much we do for everyone else.Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple practice to help you pause before you give, we uncover the deeper pattern beneath overgiving, people-pleasing, and overachieving and how to start giving from love instead of proving your worth.Episode Resources✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — uncover the hidden patterns behind your overgiving, people-pleasing, and relationship struggles so you can stop proving your worth and start living from it.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why so many women become the one who gives everything but asks for little✨ How childhood experiences can teach us to earn love through being helpful or useful✨ Why overgiving and overachieving often come from the same wound✨ The hidden request for love that can exist beneath generosity✨ Why receiving can feel more uncomfortable than giving✨ A simple practice to help you give from choice instead of fearIf you've ever felt unseen despite giving so much, struggled to ask for what you need, or quietly wondered why your relationships feel so one-sided, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to earn the love you're worthy of receiving.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Have you ever felt completely confident... until you started liking someone? One unanswered text takes over your day. One change in their energy makes you question yourself. One person not choosing you suddenly feels like proof that you're not enough.If you've ever wondered why dating can trigger so much self-doubt, even when you're successful, capable, and self-aware, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.In this solo episode, Sanaiyah explores why romantic relationships awaken old emotional wounds, how childhood experiences shape the way we seek love and validation, and why someone else's attention can become tied to our sense of worth. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and practical guidance, she shares how to stop outsourcing your self-worth and start coming back to yourself.Episode Resources✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns behind your relationship struggles and begin healing what keeps you stuck.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why confident women can still feel deeply insecure in dating✨ How childhood experiences shape the way you seek love, approval, and reassurance✨ Why someone pulling away can trigger emotions that feel much bigger than the situation itself✨ How praise, validation, and being chosen become tied to your sense of worth✨ The difference between wanting love and depending on it to feel enough✨ A simple practice to stop spiraling and come back to yourselfIf you've ever found yourself overthinking a text, questioning your worth after rejection, or letting someone else's reactions determine how you feel about yourself, this conversation will help you understand the deeper pattern and show you how to begin healing it with more compassion.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ YouTube: @sanaiyahgurnamal📸 Instagram: @sanaiyahgurnamal

There are struggles in life that don't seem to make sense. You keep repeating the same relationship patterns. You attract similar experiences. You wonder why certain fears, behaviors, or emotional reactions feel so much bigger than the situation itself. And sometimes... the answers didn't begin with you.On this episode, we welcome back Monika Wyss — Family Constellation trainer, clinical hypnotherapist, and founder of Heart Sanctuary Kuala Lumpur. Through family constellation, inner child healing, and trauma-informed practices, Monika helps people uncover the emotional wounds, family dynamics, and generational patterns that quietly shape how they love, relate, succeed, and move through life.Together, we explore how childhood experiences become adult patterns, why unresolved family trauma can continue across generations, and how Family Constellation helps reveal hidden loyalties and unconscious stories that may still be influencing your relationships, health, finances, and sense of self today. Through powerful real-life examples, this conversation offers a deeper understanding of why healing isn't just personal, it's often systemic.Episode Resources✨ Ready to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your life? Join the (In-Person) Family Constellation Workshops with Monika Wyss this August in Manila. Register here: www.thirdeyeonline.com/event-registration✨ If you've been noticing the same relationship patterns repeating in your life, book a free Make It Make Sense Call with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why childhood wounds continue to shape adult relationships✨ How blame can become a sign that healing is needed within✨ What family constellation reveals about inherited patterns and generational trauma✨ How unresolved family experiences can show up in love, health, money, and success✨ Why awareness is the beginning of healing, not the end of it✨ How compassion helps you break patterns instead of repeating themIf you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way, attracting similar experiences, or feeling stuck in patterns you can't explain, this conversation may help you understand where those patterns began—and why they don't have to define your future.Connect with Monika📸 Instagram: @monikawyss🌐 Website: www.monikawyss.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Shame has a way of convincing us that one moment, one mistake, or one decision says everything about who we are. Long after the moment has passed, we keep replaying it... carrying the guilt, criticizing ourselves, and believing we have to keep punishing ourselves to prove we've learned our lesson.This is a guided self-love meditation created for the moments when you're struggling to forgive yourself. Not to erase the past or pretend nothing happened... but to help you meet the parts of yourself you've been judging with a little more compassion, understanding, and kindness.Join me as we gently release the weight of self-blame, reconnect with the version of you who needed love the most, and remember that healing doesn't begin when the past changes—it begins when you stop abandoning yourself because of it.Episode Resources✨ Download the Self-Love Cheat Sheet — simple reminders to help you quiet your inner critic, strengthen self-compassion, and return to yourself with more kindness each day.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why shame often becomes part of the story we tell ourselves✨ The difference between judging yourself and understanding yourself✨ How curiosity can gently replace self-criticism✨ Why compassion creates space for healing without denying the past✨ A guided visualization to help you reconnect with the parts of yourself you've left behindIf you've been carrying regret, replaying old mistakes, or finding it hard to forgive yourself, this meditation is a gentle reminder that your past deserves understanding... and so do you.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamalVerification code: 709068

There are moments in life when you start asking bigger questions. Why do I keep ending up here? Why do the same patterns keep showing up? And how much of the life I'm living did I actually choose... versus inherit from the stories I've been carrying all along?On this episode, we talk with Celinne Da Costa — master coach, speaker, USA Today bestselling author of *The Burning Ground*, and creator of the Story Atlas Methodology. Through her work, Celinne helps people uncover the hidden stories shaping their identity, relationships, and sense of purpose so they can move through life with greater awareness and intention.We explore how the stories we inherit quietly shape the choices we make, why the same relationship patterns keep repeating, and what it really means to understand yourself before trying to change your life.Episode Resources✨ Download Celinne's free "The Art of Articulation" guide to better understand your story and learn how to communicate it with more clarity and confidence.✨ If this conversation is making you wonder what patterns might be shaping your own life, book a free "Make It Make Sense Call" with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why the same relationship patterns keep repeating✨ The difference between who you truly are and who you've been conditioned to become✨ How your life story quietly influences your choices, relationships, and self-worth✨ Why awareness is the first step toward meaningful change✨ How inherited beliefs can shape the life you create without you realizing it✨ What it means to choose your own story instead of living by defaultIf you've ever felt like you're working hard to change your life but somehow keep ending up in the same place, this conversation may help you see your story—and yourself—from a completely different perspective.Connect with Celinne📸 Instagram: @celinnedacosta🎙️ Podcast: It's Not What You Think🌐 Website: www.celinnedacosta.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal