Project Loving Myself

Most of us have become incredibly good at avoiding ourselves. We stay busy, keep achieving, solve everyone else's problems, or find something to distract us when uncomfortable feelings come up. But what if the moments we most want to escape are actually asking us to slow down and pay attention?In this episode, we talk with Allana Pratt, emotional intimacy expert, bestselling author, and host of Intimate Conversations, about a self-love skill many of us were never taught: staying emotionally present with ourselves. Together, we explore what it really means to make intimacy an inside job and why the relationship we have with ourselves can change the way we experience connection with others.We talk about the emotions we avoid, the parts of ourselves we may have learned to reject, and what happens when we stop immediately trying to fix, suppress, or outrun what we're feeling. This conversation invites a deeper question: What might become possible if you stopped abandoning yourself when life gets uncomfortable?Episode Resources✨ Get Allana's FREE Top 5 Mistakes — discover the relationship mistakes that may be getting in the way of deeper intimacy and connection. Get the Free Resource✨ Download my 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts — prompts to help you slow down, reflect more deeply, and reconnect with yourself.In this episode, we explore:✨ What it really means to make intimacy an inside job✨ Why we can become so disconnected from our own emotions✨ Why vulnerability can feel so uncomfortable✨ The connection between emotional presence and deeper relationships✨ A question that may change the way you relate to yourselfIf you've become used to pushing through difficult emotions or keeping yourself busy whenever life feels uncomfortable, this conversation may make you pause and ask yourself a different question: What happens when you finally stay?Connect with Allana🌐 www.allanapratt.com📸 Instagram: @allanapratt🎙️ Podcast: Intimate ConversationsConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

A breakup doesn't just end a relationship. Sometimes it changes your entire sense of who you are. The weekends feel empty. You miss the person, question your worth, and wonder how you're supposed to build a life that suddenly looks completely different.In this episode, we talk with Janice Formichella, Breakup Coach and host of Breakup, Broken Hearts, and Moving On, about dealing with what happens after a breakup and why healing is about so much more than getting over your ex. She shares how “breakup brain” can affect our thoughts, routines, and emotions, and why we have more power over the healing process than we realize.Together, we explore how to navigate the loneliness and empty space that comes after a relationship, what to do about maintaining contact, and how to rebuild your identity when so much of your life was built around someone else. Most importantly, we unpack how a breakup can become the beginning of a powerful new chapter when you choose to engage with your healing instead of simply waiting for time to 'heal.'Episode Resources✨ Get Janice's FREE Breakup Brain eBook — a science-backed toolkit to understand what your brain and body go through after a breakup and learn how to navigate this difficult time. ✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz — discover the relationship pattern that may be keeping you stuck in the same cycles and understand what could be getting in the way of creating the healthy love you want.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why a breakup can feel like an identity crisis, not just the loss of a relationship✨ What “breakup brain” is and why your body and mind can feel completely out of sorts✨ What can help you take back control of your healing✨ How to navigate the loneliness and “white space” after a breakup✨ The difference between being alone and feeling lonely✨ How to rebuild your life and become your own best company✨ The six-months-from-now exercise that can change the way you heal✨ How to transform a breakup into the beginning of a powerful new chapterIf you're struggling to let go, questioning your worth, or wondering who you are without the relationship, this conversation is a reminder that the end of a relationship doesn't have to be the end of your story. You can grieve what was, acknowledge what happened, and still choose to create something completely different for yourself.Connect with Janice🌐 janiceformichella.com📸 Instagram: @janiceformichellaConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Most of us don't wake up one day and decide to run from ourselves. We learn to through pain, fear, and sometimes simply to survive. And over time, that escape can take many forms: another drink, another achievement, another scroll, another relationship, another reason to stay busy.In this episode, we talk with Shannan Kym, an internationally award-winning author, TEDx speaker, and transformational mentor, about the ways we escape ourselves and what we're really running from. Drawing from her own experience with childhood abuse, alcoholism, and an unhealthy relationship, Shannan shares how facing the parts of ourselves we've been avoiding can become the beginning of real change.Together, we explore why temporary relief isn't the same as healing, how stillness can reveal the patterns we've been trying to escape, and why awareness is the first step toward creating a different life. We also unpack identity, self-trust, and what it means to stop running from your pain and start becoming the person you truly want to be.Episode Resources✨ Grab Shannan's Self-Discovery Workbook — a resource to help you unravel your past, reconnect with the present, and create a brighter future. Valued at $500. Download the FREE Workbook✨ Download my Self-Love Cheat Sheet — a simple, practical guide to help you reconnect with yourself, break self-sabotaging patterns, and start choosing yourself every day.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why we turn to distraction, achievement, and unhealthy habits to escape pain✨ How the patterns we develop in childhood can shape the lives we create as adults✨ Why stillness can bring the emotions and limiting beliefs we've been avoiding to the surface✨ The difference between temporarily feeling better and actually becoming better✨ How knowing what you want can be the beginning of changing your life✨ Why your identity is something you can consciously create and embodyIf you've been using busyness, achievement, relationships, or other coping mechanisms to avoid what you're really feeling, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to spend your life running from yourself. Sometimes, the beginning of change is simply becoming aware of what you don't want, getting honest about what you do want, and choosing to face what's been waiting underneath.Connect with Shannan🌐 www.shannankym.comIG: @shannankymConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

We spend so much of our lives rushing from one thing to the next that we forget what it feels like to simply be here. Thinking about what happened. Worrying about what’s coming. Checking our phones, answering messages, carrying a hundred things at once.And eventually we feel it — stressed, anxious, and strangely disconnected from ourselves.In this episode I talk with Rev. Connie L. Habash, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Awakening from Anxiety, about how time in nature cancalm your nervous system and bring you back into your body.Together we explore how nature slows you down, quiets the noise you’ve stopped noticing, and becomes a practice you’ll actually keep.Episode Resources✨ Download Rev. Connie's The Gift of Calm — a simple resource to help you create more calm, regulate overwhelm, and reconnect with a sense of inner peace.✨ Grab my Chaos to Calm guide — simple, practical tools to help you reset emotionally, quiet the overwhelm, and come back to yourself when everything feels like too much.In this episode:✨ Why stress and overwhelm are often signs you've disconnected from yourself✨ How nature pulls you out of your head and back into the present✨ Why slowing down feels so uncomfortable when you're used to constant stimulation✨ The simple daily practice Connie uses to reconnect with your senses✨ What nature teaches about being, instead of constantly doingIf you've been feeling overwhelmed, or like you're moving through life on autopilot, this conversation is a reminder that feeling better doesn't always take more effort. Sometimes it starts with stepping outside.Connect with Connie📸 Instagram: @conniehabash🌐 Website: awakeningself.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

There comes a point when achieving more stops answering the questions you thought it would. You can have the career, the goals, the relationships, and a life that looks good from the outside… and still wonder, “Is this actually what I want?”In this episode, we talk with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby — psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. We unpack why external success doesn’t always change how we feel on the inside, and why constantly chasing the next milestone can leave us disconnected from who we actually are.Together, we explore what it really means to know yourself beyond your achievements, roles, and other people’s expectations. From understanding your personality and values to paying attention to what you genuinely enjoy, need, and want, this conversation looks at why knowing yourself may be one of the most important parts of creating relationships, success, and a life that actually fits you.Episode Resources✨ Download the Success Blocks Checklist — uncover the hidden patterns around self-worth, achievement, and success that may be keeping you from fully enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why reaching the next milestone doesn’t always make you feel the way you expected✨ How external validation can become tied to your sense of self-worth✨ Why knowing your personality, preferences, and values matters more than you think✨ What happens when the life you’re living doesn’t match who you really are✨ How understanding yourself can improve the way you relate to other people✨ Why self-exploration needs to go beyond awareness and into how you actually liveIf you’ve built a life that looks successful but still find yourself wondering why it doesn’t feel as fulfilling as you thought it would, this conversation will help you ask a different question: "How well do you actually know the person you’ve been building all of this for?"Connect with Dr. Lisa 🎙️ Podcast: Love, Happiness and SuccessIG: @drlisamariebobbyConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

So many women spend years believing that being loving means giving more. Giving more of their time. Their energy. Their support. Their patience. And without realizing it, they build their sense of worth around being the one everyone can depend on.In this episode, we unpack why overgiving isn't always about generosity. Sometimes it's about trying to earn love, approval, or a sense of belonging. We explore how childhood experiences shape the roles we take on, why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, and what it takes to stop measuring our worth by how much we do for everyone else.Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple practice to help you pause before you give, we uncover the deeper pattern beneath overgiving, people-pleasing, and overachieving and how to start giving from love instead of proving your worth.Episode Resources✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — uncover the hidden patterns behind your overgiving, people-pleasing, and relationship struggles so you can stop proving your worth and start living from it.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why so many women become the one who gives everything but asks for little✨ How childhood experiences can teach us to earn love through being helpful or useful✨ Why overgiving and overachieving often come from the same wound✨ The hidden request for love that can exist beneath generosity✨ Why receiving can feel more uncomfortable than giving✨ A simple practice to help you give from choice instead of fearIf you've ever felt unseen despite giving so much, struggled to ask for what you need, or quietly wondered why your relationships feel so one-sided, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to earn the love you're worthy of receiving.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Have you ever felt completely confident... until you started liking someone? One unanswered text takes over your day. One change in their energy makes you question yourself. One person not choosing you suddenly feels like proof that you're not enough.If you've ever wondered why dating can trigger so much self-doubt, even when you're successful, capable, and self-aware, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.In this solo episode, Sanaiyah explores why romantic relationships awaken old emotional wounds, how childhood experiences shape the way we seek love and validation, and why someone else's attention can become tied to our sense of worth. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and practical guidance, she shares how to stop outsourcing your self-worth and start coming back to yourself.Episode Resources✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns behind your relationship struggles and begin healing what keeps you stuck.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why confident women can still feel deeply insecure in dating✨ How childhood experiences shape the way you seek love, approval, and reassurance✨ Why someone pulling away can trigger emotions that feel much bigger than the situation itself✨ How praise, validation, and being chosen become tied to your sense of worth✨ The difference between wanting love and depending on it to feel enough✨ A simple practice to stop spiraling and come back to yourselfIf you've ever found yourself overthinking a text, questioning your worth after rejection, or letting someone else's reactions determine how you feel about yourself, this conversation will help you understand the deeper pattern and show you how to begin healing it with more compassion.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ YouTube: @sanaiyahgurnamal📸 Instagram: @sanaiyahgurnamal

There are struggles in life that don't seem to make sense. You keep repeating the same relationship patterns. You attract similar experiences. You wonder why certain fears, behaviors, or emotional reactions feel so much bigger than the situation itself. And sometimes... the answers didn't begin with you.On this episode, we welcome back Monika Wyss — Family Constellation trainer, clinical hypnotherapist, and founder of Heart Sanctuary Kuala Lumpur. Through family constellation, inner child healing, and trauma-informed practices, Monika helps people uncover the emotional wounds, family dynamics, and generational patterns that quietly shape how they love, relate, succeed, and move through life.Together, we explore how childhood experiences become adult patterns, why unresolved family trauma can continue across generations, and how Family Constellation helps reveal hidden loyalties and unconscious stories that may still be influencing your relationships, health, finances, and sense of self today. Through powerful real-life examples, this conversation offers a deeper understanding of why healing isn't just personal, it's often systemic.Episode Resources✨ Ready to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your life? Join the (In-Person) Family Constellation Workshops with Monika Wyss this August in Manila. Register here: www.thirdeyeonline.com/event-registration✨ If you've been noticing the same relationship patterns repeating in your life, book a free Make It Make Sense Call with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why childhood wounds continue to shape adult relationships✨ How blame can become a sign that healing is needed within✨ What family constellation reveals about inherited patterns and generational trauma✨ How unresolved family experiences can show up in love, health, money, and success✨ Why awareness is the beginning of healing, not the end of it✨ How compassion helps you break patterns instead of repeating themIf you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way, attracting similar experiences, or feeling stuck in patterns you can't explain, this conversation may help you understand where those patterns began—and why they don't have to define your future.Connect with Monika📸 Instagram: @monikawyss🌐 Website: www.monikawyss.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal