Project Loving Myself

There comes a point when achieving more stops answering the questions you thought it would. You can have the career, the goals, the relationships, and a life that looks good from the outside… and still wonder, “Is this actually what I want?”In this episode, we talk with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby — psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. We unpack why external success doesn’t always change how we feel on the inside, and why constantly chasing the next milestone can leave us disconnected from who we actually are.Together, we explore what it really means to know yourself beyond your achievements, roles, and other people’s expectations. From understanding your personality and values to paying attention to what you genuinely enjoy, need, and want, this conversation looks at why knowing yourself may be one of the most important parts of creating relationships, success, and a life that actually fits you.Episode Resources✨ Download the Success Blocks Checklist — uncover the hidden patterns around self-worth, achievement, and success that may be keeping you from fully enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why reaching the next milestone doesn’t always make you feel the way you expected✨ How external validation can become tied to your sense of self-worth✨ Why knowing your personality, preferences, and values matters more than you think✨ What happens when the life you’re living doesn’t match who you really are✨ How understanding yourself can improve the way you relate to other people✨ Why self-exploration needs to go beyond awareness and into how you actually liveIf you’ve built a life that looks successful but still find yourself wondering why it doesn’t feel as fulfilling as you thought it would, this conversation will help you ask a different question: "How well do you actually know the person you’ve been building all of this for?"Connect with Dr. Lisa 🎙️ Podcast: Love, Happiness and SuccessIG: @drlisamariebobbyConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

You can meet someone who is consistent, available, and genuinely good to you… and still find yourself wondering why you don’t feel the same spark. Then someone else gives you mixed signals, keeps you guessing, or stays just out of reach and suddenly, you can’t stop thinking about them.In this episode, we explore why the person who gives you the love you say you want can sometimes feel “boring,” while the person you have to chase feels exciting. We explore how what you experienced growing up can shape what you recognize as love as an adult and why you may keep finding yourself drawn to relationships where you have to work for someone’s attention.Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple question to ask yourself when you feel the urge to pull away, we look at what may really be behind that restlessness and how to tell whether you genuinely don’t want someone or you’re simply not used to love being this easy.Episode Resources✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — if you know there’s a pattern in your relationships but can’t quite see where it comes from, this call will help you connect the dots and understand what keeps repeating.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why emotionally unavailable people can feel more exciting than available ones✨ How childhood experiences shape what we learn to expect from love✨ Why having to earn someone’s attention can feel like chemistry✨ What may be happening when a good relationship suddenly feels “boring”✨ How the same role you played growing up can follow you into adult relationships✨ The one question to ask yourself before walking away from someone who treats you wellIf you keep losing interest when someone is consistent but becoming attached when someone keeps you guessing, this episode will help you look at that pattern differently and understand what you may actually be chasing when you think you’re chasing love.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

So many women spend years believing that being loving means giving more. Giving more of their time. Their energy. Their support. Their patience. And without realizing it, they build their sense of worth around being the one everyone can depend on.In this episode, we unpack why overgiving isn't always about generosity. Sometimes it's about trying to earn love, approval, or a sense of belonging. We explore how childhood experiences shape the roles we take on, why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, and what it takes to stop measuring our worth by how much we do for everyone else.Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a simple practice to help you pause before you give, we uncover the deeper pattern beneath overgiving, people-pleasing, and overachieving and how to start giving from love instead of proving your worth.Episode Resources✨ Book a Make It Make Sense Call — uncover the hidden patterns behind your overgiving, people-pleasing, and relationship struggles so you can stop proving your worth and start living from it.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why so many women become the one who gives everything but asks for little✨ How childhood experiences can teach us to earn love through being helpful or useful✨ Why overgiving and overachieving often come from the same wound✨ The hidden request for love that can exist beneath generosity✨ Why receiving can feel more uncomfortable than giving✨ A simple practice to help you give from choice instead of fearIf you've ever felt unseen despite giving so much, struggled to ask for what you need, or quietly wondered why your relationships feel so one-sided, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to earn the love you're worthy of receiving.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Have you ever felt completely confident... until you started liking someone? One unanswered text takes over your day. One change in their energy makes you question yourself. One person not choosing you suddenly feels like proof that you're not enough.If you've ever wondered why dating can trigger so much self-doubt, even when you're successful, capable, and self-aware, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.In this solo episode, Sanaiyah explores why romantic relationships awaken old emotional wounds, how childhood experiences shape the way we seek love and validation, and why someone else's attention can become tied to our sense of worth. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and practical guidance, she shares how to stop outsourcing your self-worth and start coming back to yourself.Episode Resources✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns behind your relationship struggles and begin healing what keeps you stuck.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why confident women can still feel deeply insecure in dating✨ How childhood experiences shape the way you seek love, approval, and reassurance✨ Why someone pulling away can trigger emotions that feel much bigger than the situation itself✨ How praise, validation, and being chosen become tied to your sense of worth✨ The difference between wanting love and depending on it to feel enough✨ A simple practice to stop spiraling and come back to yourselfIf you've ever found yourself overthinking a text, questioning your worth after rejection, or letting someone else's reactions determine how you feel about yourself, this conversation will help you understand the deeper pattern and show you how to begin healing it with more compassion.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ YouTube: @sanaiyahgurnamal📸 Instagram: @sanaiyahgurnamal

There are struggles in life that don't seem to make sense. You keep repeating the same relationship patterns. You attract similar experiences. You wonder why certain fears, behaviors, or emotional reactions feel so much bigger than the situation itself. And sometimes... the answers didn't begin with you.On this episode, we welcome back Monika Wyss — Family Constellation trainer, clinical hypnotherapist, and founder of Heart Sanctuary Kuala Lumpur. Through family constellation, inner child healing, and trauma-informed practices, Monika helps people uncover the emotional wounds, family dynamics, and generational patterns that quietly shape how they love, relate, succeed, and move through life.Together, we explore how childhood experiences become adult patterns, why unresolved family trauma can continue across generations, and how Family Constellation helps reveal hidden loyalties and unconscious stories that may still be influencing your relationships, health, finances, and sense of self today. Through powerful real-life examples, this conversation offers a deeper understanding of why healing isn't just personal, it's often systemic.Episode Resources✨ Ready to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your life? Join the (In-Person) Family Constellation Workshops with Monika Wyss this August in Manila. Register here: www.thirdeyeonline.com/event-registration✨ If you've been noticing the same relationship patterns repeating in your life, book a free Make It Make Sense Call with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why childhood wounds continue to shape adult relationships✨ How blame can become a sign that healing is needed within✨ What family constellation reveals about inherited patterns and generational trauma✨ How unresolved family experiences can show up in love, health, money, and success✨ Why awareness is the beginning of healing, not the end of it✨ How compassion helps you break patterns instead of repeating themIf you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way, attracting similar experiences, or feeling stuck in patterns you can't explain, this conversation may help you understand where those patterns began—and why they don't have to define your future.Connect with Monika📸 Instagram: @monikawyss🌐 Website: www.monikawyss.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

Shame has a way of convincing us that one moment, one mistake, or one decision says everything about who we are. Long after the moment has passed, we keep replaying it... carrying the guilt, criticizing ourselves, and believing we have to keep punishing ourselves to prove we've learned our lesson.This is a guided self-love meditation created for the moments when you're struggling to forgive yourself. Not to erase the past or pretend nothing happened... but to help you meet the parts of yourself you've been judging with a little more compassion, understanding, and kindness.Join me as we gently release the weight of self-blame, reconnect with the version of you who needed love the most, and remember that healing doesn't begin when the past changes—it begins when you stop abandoning yourself because of it.Episode Resources✨ Download the Self-Love Cheat Sheet — simple reminders to help you quiet your inner critic, strengthen self-compassion, and return to yourself with more kindness each day.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why shame often becomes part of the story we tell ourselves✨ The difference between judging yourself and understanding yourself✨ How curiosity can gently replace self-criticism✨ Why compassion creates space for healing without denying the past✨ A guided visualization to help you reconnect with the parts of yourself you've left behindIf you've been carrying regret, replaying old mistakes, or finding it hard to forgive yourself, this meditation is a gentle reminder that your past deserves understanding... and so do you.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamalVerification code: 709068

There are moments in life when you start asking bigger questions. Why do I keep ending up here? Why do the same patterns keep showing up? And how much of the life I'm living did I actually choose... versus inherit from the stories I've been carrying all along?On this episode, we talk with Celinne Da Costa — master coach, speaker, USA Today bestselling author of *The Burning Ground*, and creator of the Story Atlas Methodology. Through her work, Celinne helps people uncover the hidden stories shaping their identity, relationships, and sense of purpose so they can move through life with greater awareness and intention.We explore how the stories we inherit quietly shape the choices we make, why the same relationship patterns keep repeating, and what it really means to understand yourself before trying to change your life.Episode Resources✨ Download Celinne's free "The Art of Articulation" guide to better understand your story and learn how to communicate it with more clarity and confidence.✨ If this conversation is making you wonder what patterns might be shaping your own life, book a free "Make It Make Sense Call" with Sanaiyah. Together, you'll uncover the hidden patterns behind your relationship struggles so you can stop repeating them and start creating a different future.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why the same relationship patterns keep repeating✨ The difference between who you truly are and who you've been conditioned to become✨ How your life story quietly influences your choices, relationships, and self-worth✨ Why awareness is the first step toward meaningful change✨ How inherited beliefs can shape the life you create without you realizing it✨ What it means to choose your own story instead of living by defaultIf you've ever felt like you're working hard to change your life but somehow keep ending up in the same place, this conversation may help you see your story—and yourself—from a completely different perspective.Connect with Celinne📸 Instagram: @celinnedacosta🎙️ Podcast: It's Not What You Think🌐 Website: www.celinnedacosta.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

So much of life is spent waiting. Waiting for the right relationship, the next achievement, or the moment when everything finally falls into place and happiness can begin. But what if you've been looking for it in the wrong place all along?On this episode, we talk with Maria Leonard Olsen — bestselling author, TEDx speaker, attorney, mentor, and host of the *Becoming Your Best Version* podcast. Through her own journey of recovery, reinvention, and self-discovery, Maria has learned that the most important commitment you'll ever make isn't to someone else—it's to yourself.We explore why so many women tie their happiness to external validation, how people-pleasing quietly pulls us away from ourselves, and what changes when you stop waiting for life to make you happy and start taking responsibility for your own fulfillment.Episode Resources✨ Get Maria's Ebook "Becoming Your Best Version" — featuring practical wisdom and life lessons from inspiring women who have been guests on her podcast.✨ Download the 99 Self-Love Journal Prompts — if this conversation is making you realize how often you've looked outside yourself for happiness, these prompts will help you reconnect with yourself, reflect more honestly, and start choosing yourself in a deeper way.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why happiness can't be built on someone else's approval✨ The connection between people-pleasing and self-abandonment✨ What self-commitment looks like in everyday life✨ How social conditioning shapes the way we define happiness✨ Why becoming your best version starts with the choices you make every day✨ Small daily practices that create a more meaningful and fulfilling lifeIf you've been waiting for a relationship, achievement, or someone else's approval to finally feel happy, this conversation might change where you start looking.Connect with Maria📸 Instagram: @fiftyafter50🎙️ Podcast: Becoming Your Best Version🌐 Website: www.marialeonardolsen.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal

We often think freedom comes from having more choices, more independence, or more control over our lives. But sometimes the thing that's keeping us stuck isn't what's happening around us. It's the expectations we've been carrying for years without ever questioning them.On this episode, we talk with Sarah Gallucci — journalist, TEDx speaker, professor, and author of *Laid: A Memoir of Love, Sex, and Marriage*. What began as an exploration of her marriage became a much deeper journey into identity, gender roles, personal freedom, and the beliefs we inherit about what love and relationships are supposed to look like.We explore how cultural expectations shape the choices we make, why so many women lose themselves trying to hold everything together, and what happens when you finally start listening to the truth you've been avoiding.Episode Resources✨ Join the 30-Day Self-Love Challenge — a simple way to start choosing yourself again through small daily practices that build self-trust, self-worth, and a deeper connection with who you are.In this episode, we explore:✨ The invisible expectations many women carry in relationships and family life✨ How gender roles can quietly shape our choices, wellbeing, and identity✨ Why high-achieving women often struggle to speak up about what they need✨ The difference between speaking your truth and trusting your truth✨ What happens when you stop living by expectations that no longer fitIf you've ever felt torn between who you are and who you're expected to be, this conversation offers a powerful reflection on what it means to choose yourself and create a life that feels true to you.Connect with Sarah📸 Instagram: @_sarah_gallucci_🌐 Website: www.sarahgallucci.comConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal