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223: Life After Divorce: How to Navigate Letting Go, Healing, and Dating Again with Karen McMahon
đď¸ What if the hardest decision in love⌠isnât about holding on, but knowing when to walk away?
This week on Project Loving Myself, Sanaiyah gets real with high-conflict divorce strategist Karen McMahon about the question that keeps so many of us stuck: Should I stay or should I go?
If youâre stuck in âmaybe it'll get betterâ mode, replaying the highlight reel while ignoring the red flags, or afraid to be the âbad guyâ for wanting moreâthis episode is your sign.
Because letâs be honest: love shouldnât feel like a full-time job with zero benefits. And staying âjust in caseâ is costing you more than you think.
đĄ In This Episode, Youâll Learn:
⨠Why doubting yourself might actually be your intuition screaming in disguise
⨠The real emotional cost of staying too long (spoiler: your self-worth gets the bill)
⨠Why YOU are the one youâve been waiting forâclarity, peace, permission included
⨠What it looks like to stop trying to fix them and start healing you
âď¸ Check out Karenâs work for powerful tools, resources, and coaching:
YT: Journey Beyond Divorce YouTube
đ§ Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast
đ Website: jbddivorcesupport.com
đď¸ Subscribe, Share, and Spill the Truth
If this episode hit where it hurts (but also healed), send it to a friend who needs a reminder: you donât have to keep choosing pain just because youâre used to it.
Tag @projectlovingmyselfpodcast and @sanaiyahgurnamal with your biggest âahaâ moment.
Youâre not selfish for choosing yourself.
Youâre wise. Youâre worthy. Youâre allowed to walk away.
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264. 264: How Do You Trust Again When People Keep Letting You Down?
15:41||Season 1, Ep. 264Ever feel like you want to relax and let go⌠but a part of you just wonât let you? One minute youâre open, hopeful, and trying⌠and the next youâre overthinking, pulling back, or expecting things to go wrong before they even do.In this episode, we unpack what really happens when your trust gets broken. Not because youâre too guarded or too much, but because your mind and body learned how to protect you. And how that protection, while it once kept you safe, may now be the very thing keeping you stuck, disconnected, and unable to fully let people in.This isnât about forcing yourself to trust people again. Itâs about learning where to put your trust, so you can stop protecting yourself from love and start letting it in again.Episode Resourcesâ¨Take the Heartbreak Quiz â uncover the hidden pattern thatâs keeping you guarded, overthinking, or stuck after being hurt, so you can let it go and start to believe in love again.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why broken trust changes how you think, feel, and respond⨠How protecting yourself can quietly turn into isolation⨠The real cost of not trusting anyone anymore⨠Why trusting others isnât the goal⌠and what is⨠Simple self-trust shifts to help you feel more grounded and in controlIf youâve been hurt before and now find it hard to open up, trust, or fully relax in relationships, this episode will help you understand why and what to do next.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns keeping you in confusion and step into love that feels secure instead of stressful.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast
263. 263: How Childhood Experiences Shape Our Relationships with Monika Wyss
53:10||Season 1, Ep. 263Notice how you can want a healthy, loving relationship⌠but the moment things start feeling calm and steady, something inside you pulls away? One minute youâre craving consistency, and the next youâre overthinking, shutting down, or questioning everything for no clear reason.In this episode, Iâm joined by Monika Wyss, a Family Constellation Facilitator and clinical Hypnotherapist, to explore why this happens. Because love doesnât just live in your mind⌠it lives in your body. And your early experiences may still be shaping what feels normal, familiar, or uncomfortable in your relationships today.We unpack how your inner child holds onto past experiences of love, why you may unconsciously choose what feels familiar even when it hurts, and how healing those patterns allows you to feel good in your relationship instead of confused or overwhelmed.Episode Resourcesâ¨Ready to feel more at ease in your relationships? Monika is hosting a 4-week Healing the Inner Child online workshop, starting April 13th. Email manila@thirdeyeonline.com to register and reserve your spot.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why healthy relationships can feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable⨠How your inner child shapes your reactions, triggers, and patterns⨠Why you overthink or shut down even when nothing is wrong⨠Why awareness and acknowledgment are the first steps to change⨠How to stop expecting your partner to fill what you didnât receive growing upIf youâve ever found yourself pulling away from something that actually feels right, this episode will help you understand why and how to respond differently.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns keeping you in confusion and step into love that feels secure instead of stressful.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcastConnect with Monikađ www.monikawyss.comđ¸ Instagram: @monikawyss
262. 262: When Your Body Is Speakingâand Youâre Not Listening (TCM with Jiaming Ju)
44:12||Season 1, Ep. 262Feel like your body is trying to tell you something⌠but you canât quite understand it?In this episode, Iâm joined by Jiaming Ju, founder of Kun Health and a second-generation licensed Chinese Medicine (TCM) practitioner, for a grounded conversation on the mindâbody disconnect behind so many of the symptoms women quietly normalize.Because sometimes what looks like âjust hormonesâ on the surfaceâfatigue, painful periods, PMS, perimenopause shifts, burnout, brain fog, emotional heavinessâis actually your body responding to the way youâve been living, coping, pushing, and holding things in.We talk about how Chinese Medicine views the body as a messenger, what it means to treat the root (not just the symptom), and how self-love becomes a health practiceânot a mindset.Episode Resources⨠Discover what your body may be trying to tell you through this special offer for Jiaming Juâs TCM Personal Tongue Reading.In this episode, we explore:⨠What the mindâbody gap looks like in real life⨠Why your symptoms may be signals, not failures⨠The emotional patterns that show up as physical imbalance⨠How to start reconnecting with your body (without obsessing or overthinking)⨠Gentle shifts that support hormones, energy, and long-term wellbeingIf youâve been feeling tired, disconnected, or like your body is working against you, this episode will help you understand whatâs really going on beneath the surface.Connect with Jiamingđ¸ Instagram: @byjiamingjuđ Website: Kun HealthGet Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover whatâs keeping you disconnected from yourself and reconnect with who you are.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast
261. 261: Your Mind Has Too Many Tabs Open (And Itâs Stealing Your Focus)
16:44||Season 1, Ep. 261Ever feel like your brain is running in the background even when youâre trying to rest⌠like youâre doing things all day but still feel behind? One minute youâre starting a task, the next youâre distracted, overwhelmed, and wondering why everything feels heavier than it should.In this episode, we unpack whatâs really going on when your mind feels scattered and foggy. Not because youâre lazy or unfocused, but because youâre carrying too many open loops. Emotional, physical, and energy loops that quietly drain your focus, clarity, and peace, and how to start closing them so you can finally feel like yourself again.This isnât about doing more. Itâs about finishing whatâs already open so your mind can finally breathe.Episode Resources⨠Download Chaos to Calm â a simple reset to help you clear mental clutter, close open loops, and feel grounded, focused, and back in control again.In this episode, we explore:⨠The 3 types of open loops draining your energy and focus⨠How emotional loops keep you stuck in stress and overthinking⨠Why unfinished tasks make your mind feel scattered⨠The impact of low energy on your clarity and productivity⨠A simple âclose your loopsâ reset to feel clear and in control againIf youâve been feeling overwhelmed, foggy, or like you canât fully focus, this episode will help you understand why and what to do about it.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns keeping you in confusion and step into love that feels secure instead of stressful.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast
260. 260: Is It Intuition⌠or Just Anxiety? (with Amy Wilkinson)
54:34||Season 1, Ep. 260Feel like youâve been sensing things others donât notice⌠a gut feeling about someone, a quiet nudge about a decision, or an inner knowing you canât fully explain? One minute you think youâre just being âtoo sensitive,â and the next you start wondering⌠what if that sensitivity is actually your intuition waking up?In this episode, intuitive mentor Amy Wilkinson joins us to unpack what spiritual awakening really looks like in everyday life. Not the dramatic, mystical version you see online but the quiet, confusing, sometimes subtle moments when your inner voice gets louder than the noise around you.This isnât about becoming someone mystical or âwoo.â Itâs about learning to trust the part of you that has always known the way.Episode Resources⨠Download the Self-Love Cheat Sheet â 7 simple rules to help you stop overthinking, stay grounded in your choices, and build a stronger, more trusting relationship with yourself.In this episode, we explore:⨠What a spiritual awakening actually feels like in real life⨠The intuitive senses we all have and how to strengthen them⨠How to tell the difference between intuition and overthinking⨠Why so many women hide their spiritual gifts or sensitivity⨠How reconnecting with your body strengthens your inner knowingIf youâve ever wondered whether your intuition is real or just your imagination, this episode will help you start trusting the voice within.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call with Sanaiyah to uncover the patterns keeping you in confusion and step into love that feels secure instead of stressful.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcastConnect with Amyđď¸ Podcast: The Abundance Clubđ¸ Instagram: @amy.wilkinson_
259. 259: Soft Love Era: The New Standard for Love (And Why It Feels Different)
15:18||Season 1, Ep. 259Ever feel like love got an upgrade⌠but youâre still using outdated software to navigate it? One minute you thought chaos meant chemistry, and the next youâre realizing your nervous system just wants peace. Clarity. Consistency. Safety.In this episode, we unpack the new language of modern love and what Gen Zâs romantic vocabulary is really revealing about our evolving standards. Because this isnât just cute slang. Itâs a cultural shift from love as performance to love as emotional safety, from mixed signals to consistency, from âbut the spark!â to âbut do I feel calm in my body?âThis isnât about overanalyzing your relationships. Itâs about raising your standards without losing your softness, and finally choosing love that feels like home instead of a rollercoaster.Episode Resources⨠Download The Soft Love Era Cheat Sheet so you can name your standards, spot red flags faster, and communicate your needs with confidence.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why emotional safety is becoming the new baseline for healthy love⨠How consistency is more romantic than intensity⨠What âheart-safeâ and âtrust-fluentâ really mean in real life⨠The truth about love limbo and why clarity is not optional⨠How to use your emotional compass to make better relationship decisionsIf youâre tired of confusing chaos with chemistry and youâre ready for love that feels steady, mutual, and aligned, this episode will give you the words and the standards to match.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the patterns keeping you in confusion and step into love that feels secure instead of stressful.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast
258. 258: Everythingâs Fine⌠So Why Do You Feel Off?
14:46||Season 1, Ep. 258Ever look at your life and think⌠everything is technically fine, so why does it not feel like mine? No major disaster. No dramatic ending. Just a quiet âoffâ that makes you feel like youâre performing your life instead of actually living it.In this episode, we unpack why high-achieving women can build lives that look successful on paper but feel disconnected in their bodies. Because sometimes that restlessness is not burnout or failure. It is feedback. A sign you have been living by invisible rules instead of your own truth. We talk about redefining self-love, not as a vibe, but as a decision-making system that helps you come back to yourself.This is not about blowing up your life. It is about finally making it feel like yours.Episode Resources⨠Watch my TEDxSurat Talk: âYour Life Isnât Yours Until You Love Yourselfâ and learn the Self-Love G.P.S. framework.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why your life can look âfineâ but feel disconnected⨠How invisible rules quietly shape your biggest decisions⨠The difference between functioning and truly feeling alive⨠Why self-love is a direction, not a mood⨠How to start choosing your truth instead of your conditioningIf you have been feeling grateful but uninspired, productive but unfulfilled, this episode will help you understand what that âoffâ feeling is really trying to tell you.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the invisible patterns shaping your love life and decisions, and learn how to move from performance and confusion into clarity, alignment, and emotional security.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast
257. 257: Stop Waiting for Permission to Want More (with Pearl Mashour)
44:00||Season 1, Ep. 257Ever notice how you keep waiting for permission⌠permission to change, to want more, to outgrow the version of you that everyone else feels comfortable with?The guilt. The roles. The quiet voice that says, âItâs too lateâ or âYou should be grateful.âIn this episode, I sit down with Pearl Mashour, Master Womenâs Empowerment Coach and founder of Female Fluence, for a powerful conversation about reinvention, confidence, and reclaiming your voice at any age. What unfolds is an honest look at how inherited expectations, emotional age, and old narratives keep women small, and what happens when you finally decide that your growth matters more than approval. This is not about blowing up your life overnight. It is about giving yourself permission, one brave decision at a time, to become the woman you were always meant to be.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why reinvention is a choice, not a timeline⨠How guilt keeps women trapped in roles they have outgrown⨠The truth about midlife as an awakening, not a crisis⨠Why confidence is a practice, not a personality trait⨠How emotional healing unlocks your next level of powerIf you have ever felt behind, too old, too late, or unsure if you are allowed to want more, this conversation will remind you that your power does not expire and your next chapter is still yours to write.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the patterns that keep you shrinking instead of rising.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamalIG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast Connect with Pearl Mashourđď¸ Podcast: Female Fluenceđ¸ Instagram: @pearlmashour_femalefluence
256. 256: How to Love Yourself in the Year of the Fire Horse
20:45||Season 1, Ep. 256Do you feel like life suddenly sped up and you didnât get the memo?One minute youâre shedding old versions of yourself, and the next everything feels urgent. Decisions. Desires. Movement. Pressure to act now.In this episode, we talk about whatâs really happening beneath that rush.We explore the transition from the Year of the Snake into the Year of the Fire Horse and why this new energy can feel exciting and overwhelming at the same time. Because momentum without self-love doesnât feel like progress. It feels like chaos.This isnât about slowing your life down. Itâs about learning how to move forward without burning out, self-abandoning, or repeating old patterns at a faster speed.Episode Resources⨠Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the protection pattern that shows up when love and life start moving fast.In this episode, we explore:⨠Why the Year of the Snake asked you to let go before you could move forward⨠What Fire Horse energy brings and where it can quietly trip you up⨠How self-love becomes your reins when life speeds up⨠Why chemistry and urgency are not the same as alignment⨠How to move with clarity, power, and peace instead of pressureIf youâve felt ready for your next chapter but afraid of repeating the same story,this episode will help you understand how to move differently this time.Get Started Here⨠Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the patterns that make you rush, chase, or spiral and learn how to move forward from self-trust instead of fear.Connect with Međ www.sanaiyahgurnamal.comâśď¸ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast