Primas Pero Not Really

How do you know when it’s time to leave the path you were expected to follow and take a chance on yourself?Illiett Ojeda, founder of Chasing Balance, joins the primas for an honest conversation about shifting careers, pursuing a nontraditional path, and trying to create balance while managing work, family, and personal ambition.Illiett shares how her experiences in education, corporate life, and entrepreneurship changed her definition of success and taught her that work-life balance is not something we achieve once and keep forever. It requires constant adjustment as our lives, responsibilities, and priorities evolve. The conversation also explores why women often postpone their passions, the fear that comes with choosing an unfamiliar path, and how starting small can be the first real step toward building a life that feels more fulfilling.Because betting on yourself does not always mean changing everything overnight. Sometimes it begins with giving one idea a genuine chance.Subscribe for honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, identity, healing, and starting over.#PrimasPeroNotReally #CareerChange #WorkLifeBalance

After 24 years together and 16 years of marriage, Jay and Janelle Montalvo still don’t agree about everything—and maybe that’s part of why their relationship works.The hosts of In the Middle join Ayeisha and Yvette for an honest conversation about evolving together, working with your spouse, men’s mental health, emotional support, and opposing parenting styles. They also explore raising boys without teaching machismo, setting boundaries around screen time, and preparing children to handle independence, rejection, and failure.Because a strong marriage isn’t built by staying the same. It’s built by continuing to communicate as both people change.🎧 Listen now and join the conversation.What is harder for a marriage to navigate: different communication styles, different emotional needs, or different approaches to parenting?*Guests*: Jay & Janelle 🎙️In the Middle Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/4JFjrfV6T3iNTS9IKxvVNp

Are you compromising in your relationship or are you settling? And how do you know where to draw the line?In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Ayeisha and Yvette sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Luz Maria Berrio for an honest conversation about the relationship patterns we accept, the boundaries we struggle to set, and the lessons we sometimes learn the hard way.They get into red flags vs. “pink flags,” sharing locations with your partner, trust vs. control, and the difference between accepting someone for who they are and ignoring something that may eventually become a dealbreaker.But relationships are only the beginning.The conversation turns to parenting and the patterns we pass down to our children: what they learn from watching our relationships, when parents need to acknowledge their own mistakes, and one of the hardest parenting decisions of all—when to step in and when to let your kids fall, learn, and figure things out for themselves.Then comes another reality many women eventually face: raising children while watching their own parents get older.From caregiving and aging parents to perimenopause, relationships, Hispanic family expectations, and the pressure of being the person everyone depends on, the Primas explore what it really means to become part of the sandwich generation.Where's the line between what we should accept, what we can change, and what we finally need to let go of?Funny, vulnerable, and very real, because sometimes saying “I'm fine” is a lot easier than admitting we need help.🎧 Listen now and join the conversation.What’s something you once considered a “pink flag” that eventually became a red flag?

Your child going off to college is exciting. But it also involves a much bigger emotional shift than people admit.In this episode of Primas, Pero Not Really, we react to some of the wildest responses we received on social media, including the assumptions people make about women, single moms, dating, and the things they somehow hear in a 30-second clip that were never actually said.Then we get into a much bigger life transition: sending our kids off to college. College looks completely different for this generation. From meeting roommates online before move-in day to navigating dorm life, meal plans, money, and the phone calls parents know are coming, we talk about the funny and emotional reality of letting your child start their next chapter.Because while they are figuring out independence, parents are adjusting too. After years of being the dance mom, baseball mom, chauffeur, planner, and emergency contact, there comes a moment when you have to ask yourself: what do I like to do now?

Dating After 40: Men, Midlife Dating & Modern RelationshipsIs a man in his 40s who's never been married a red flag, or is that one of the biggest misconceptions in modern dating?In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, they sat down with Charles Timoneda to get an honest male perspective on dating after 40, relationships, and navigating today's dating world.They discuss what it's really like dating single moms, whether men should always pay on the first date, how dating apps like Hinge and Facebook Dating have changed relationships, why ghosting has become so common, and whether first-date intimacy changes the way men view a relationship.They also explore the realities of midlife dating, dating with children, finding love later in life, and the challenges of building meaningful relationships when everyone comes with a past.If you're navigating modern dating, dating after divorce, or simply wondering how men really think about relationships in their 40s, this episode delivers an honest, funny, and relatable conversation.Topics discussed:• Dating after 40• Men and midlife dating• Dating single moms• Dating apps (Hinge & Facebook Dating)• First date etiquette• Who pays on the first date?• Ghosting and modern dating• Dating with kids• Dating red flags• Finding love later in lifeFollow Primas Pero Not Really for unfiltered conversations about relationships, motherhood, healing, identity, and the moments that shape our lives—with plenty of laughs along the way.

After years of marriage, divorce, co-parenting, and building lives of their own, the primas find themselves asking a question they never thought they'd revisit:Would you ever get married again?In this catch-up episode, Aisha, Genise, and Yvette share where life has taken them since their last dating conversation. Two of the primas are now in new relationships, which sparks an honest discussion about dating in your 40s, remarriage, blended families, independence, and what healthy love looks like after heartbreak.The conversation explores everything from introducing partners to your children and navigating co-parenting dynamics, to protecting your peace, maintaining your independence, and learning how to trust again. They also reflect on the realities of empty nesting, creating new chapters after divorce, and how their perspectives on marriage have evolved.For anyone who has ever wondered whether love is worth the risk after a difficult relationship, this episode is a reminder that healing changes what you look for, and what you're willing to accept.💬 Would you get married again after a divorce?🎙️ Primas Pero Not Really is a Miami-born podcast where three Latina women share honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, healing, identity, co-parenting, and the beautifully messy moments that shape our lives.Follow, rate, and share if you've ever had to start over, rebuild, or rediscover yourself after a major life change.#PrimasPeroNotReally #DatingAfterDivorce #Relationships #CoParenting #SecondChances #LatinaPodcast #WomenOver40 #SingleMoms #HealingJourney #MarriageAndDivorce

This one is for the parents… and honestly, for all of us.How do you know when attention becomes control?This week on Primas Pero Not Really, we sat down with clinical psychologist Luz Maria Berrio to talk about the relationship conversations more families should be having earlier.We get into:🚩 Red flags vs pink flags❤️ Love bombing vs genuine interest📍 Why teens share locations🧠 Narcissistic traits vs actual narcissism🚧 Boundaries vs control👩‍👧 Signs parents should pay attention to in teen relationships📱 How social media is changing relationships for teens—and adultsOne moment that really stayed with us:Just because something feels like love… doesn’t always mean it’s healthy.We talk about what’s normal, what’s not, and how parents can create space for these conversations without judgment.And somehow… we also ended up talking about identity, growing up, and why adults may not be as different from teenagers as we think.

We all try to be gentle parents… until we’re not.In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Las Primas get real about parenting in today’s world, what works, what doesn’t, and the moments no one talks about. From trying to help kids regulate their emotions, to losing patience, to realizing every child needs a different approach, this is real mom talk, unfiltered.We get into:Gentle parenting vs real-life reactionsTeaching kids emotional regulationWhy can’t you parent every child the sameDiscipline, consequences, and respectMom guilt, overstimulation, and losing your coolPreparing kids for the real worldWhy college isn’t the only path to successThis episode is for moms in the trenches—figuring it out day by day, making mistakes, learning, and showing up anyway.Because parenting is real and isn’t perfect.💬 If you’ve ever gone from calm to “don’t test me” in 0.5 seconds… this one’s for you.