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From The Vault: 009: Parenting Q&A with Alyson Schafer

Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? 


Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd’s murder. How do I help him process his emotions? 


Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don’t raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? 


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