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Owning It: The Anxiety Podcast

Navigating anxiety in your friendships

Season 11, Ep. 7

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This is an episode I recorded a few weeks ago with the brilliant Dr Leah Katz. She's a clinical psychologist and bestselling author (her book is called Gutsy), she's been on the show before to talk about people pleasing, but here we are talking about relationship anxiety, but more specifically anxiety in our friendships which I think is a hugely under explored topic. We also touch on how to communicate your actual anxiety either to a friend or in a romantic relationship but as I say the thrust of our chat is on friendships and something I was really excited to learn about: dual realities. One of my favourite anxiety discussions of late.

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