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There Are No Tangents

Neurodiversity, Ableism, and Finding Balance with Tiffany

Season 2, Ep. 4
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Thanks for joining us for today's tangents! Our friend Tiffany is with us to share about her personal journey with parenting her daughter who is autistic, living with ADHD, and advocating for change in the disabled community. We learned a lot from Tiffany in this episode and we know you will as well.


Some links/resources that Tiffany provided so that you can go deeper into understanding more about autism, disability, and neurodiversity:


*Disability Reframed on Instagram @disabilityreframed

*Neurodivergent Rebel on Facebook @neurodivergentrebel

*Hvppyhands on Facebook @HVPPYHANDS

*Two Sides of the Spectrum podcast: https://two-sides-of-the-spectrum.simplecast.com/

*Why everything you know about autism is wrong TedTalk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1AUdaH-EPM


0:00 Intro

3:10 A bit about Tiffany & introducing the topic of neurodiversity

6:50 Tiffany's background in special education, having her second child (Bayley), and internal shifts

11:30 Recalling patterns and differences she started noticing in Bayley's first year of life

14:30 "I think she's autistic."

16:00 The arrival of 2020 and challenges during the pandemic

16:50 Tiffany explains terms. "Pro-neurodiversity" language.

22:13 Early intervention, evaluations, and praise for Bayley's therapists

24:40 Shifting away from "Autism Spectrum Disorder". Tiffany explains what is meant by the word "spectrum" and clarifies misconceptions

32:20 What shifted after Bayley received her diagnosis

33:10 Shout out to Adrienne Shortridge! A shift in perspective: "It wasn't Bayley that needed to change...we needed to change."

34:40 Tiffany notices her own neurodiversity and receives an ADHD diagnosis

37:15 Lisa shares her journey. OCD? ADHD? HSP?

39:20 Discussion about overlap between HSP and other forms of neurodiversity

44:50 ADHD confirmed. Shifts that have occurred since starting medication and implementing new supports

51:35 Ableism and how it impacts our perception

58:30 "What gives you hope about shifts you're seeing (and what still gives you major pause)?"

1:08:40 "Is there a lesson or takeaway from all of the gears you've shifted?" Giving people grace when they are resistant to change. Finding balance.

1:13:15 Expressing our gratitude for Tiffany



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