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Is It Time to Move On? Overcoming Life’s Biggest Decisions

Season 7, Ep. 21
Making life-altering decisions is never easy. In this week's episode of the Not So Christian Brothers, Justin Caffrey dials in from a sweltering hotel room in Malta to explore why so many people get trapped in indecision. What starts as a debate on business choices turns into a deeply personal conversation when Colm Hayes reveals he is facing a massive crossroads: deciding whether to sell his family home in South County Dublin.
Together with Terry Tech, the brothers discuss the heavy emotional weight attached to property, navigating grief, and managing room-by-room triggers after losing a loved one. Justin offers sharp, psychology-backed advice on why holding back often does more harm than good, while Colm weighs the bittersweet memories of his house against the promise of a fresh start. Plus, Justin and Colm end up unofficially putting both of their homes on the market live on air!
🍞 THE NATIONAL TEFAL TOASTER GIVEAWAY CONTINUES! 🍞Following the announcement of our first winner, Eleanor, we still have TWO top-of-the-range Tefal toasters left to give away! To enter the upcoming draws, make sure you like this episode, subscribe to the channel, and tag a friend on our social media channels.
Catch a brand new episode of the Not So Christian Brothers twice a week:Main Show: Every Thursday @ 6:00 PMThe After-Show: Every Sunday @ 8:00 AM
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Chapter Timings
  • 00:00 - Broadcasting from Malta: Humidity & Irish Sunburns
  • 03:25 - The Trap of Indecision: Why Waiting Holds You Back
  • 05:56 - Colm’s Dilemma: Head vs. Heart in Major Life Choices
  • 10:05 - Can Waiting for "The Right Moment" Be a Mistake?
  • 13:42 - Selling the Family Home: Emotional Baggage vs. Bricks and Mortar
  • 16:30 - Processing Grief, Room Triggers, & Carrying Memories Forward
  • 18:38 - Terry’s Experience Buying & Selling His Own Childhood Home
  • 21:30 - Moving On After Loss: When Is the Right Time to Change Your Environment?
  • 25:14 - Live Property Pitch: Greystones vs. Blackrock Townhouses
  • 27:32 - Wrap-Up & T-fal Toaster Giveaway Updates

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