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816 telling someone they lack self-awareness, dealing with defensiveness and what new leaders get wrong (ep816)
On this weeks episode of this is work, we cover some listener questions — and this week, they're spicy.
Shell tackles some of the hardest conversations in leadership — with practical tools you can use straight away.
In this episode we cover:
- How to tell someone they lack self-awareness
- The five types of defensiveness and how to handle each one
- Leading people who are older or more experienced than you
- Working for a boss you don't respect
- The biggest mistake new leaders make
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If you lead teams, check out Shelley’s business, Boldside: https://www.boldside.com.au/
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