Mum! Dad’s Got Another Tattoo

These show notes focus specifically on the boxing experience and the discussion surrounding the NHS and the medical profession, as requested.🥊 The Doctor Who Fights: White Collar Boxing & NHS BurnoutSpecial Guest: Dr. Ricky Gondhia (GP, Entrepreneur, and White Collar Boxing Champion)This week, Marc is joined by Dr. Ricky Gondhia—a successful GP, family man, and startup co-founder—who recently won his debut white collar boxing match. Ricky joins us to talk about the physical and mental release of stepping into the ring, the pressures of the NHS, and why so many doctors are feeling disillusioned.🥊 White Collar Boxing: From Couch to CanvasThe Accidental Sign-Up: Ricky reveals how a random Facebook notification led him to sign up for a 10-week white collar boxing program, and the surprising personal and logistical alignment that made it possible.More Than Just Fighting: The importance of the group dynamic—training alongside a motley crew of people (plumbers, architects, etc.) and the "shared cause" that made the experience so powerful and beneficial.The Punching Problem: Ricky discusses the psychological hurdle of being a "lover not a hater" and overcoming the natural reluctance to hit an opponent in the head, especially in the context of the sport's high respect level.Rocky Theme & Fight Night Chaos: Recounting the exhilarating day, from the Rocky theme tune entrance (and the resulting pressure to win) to the fights kicking off in the crowd.AI in the Corner: The surprising role of ChatGPT in designing a personalized training and nutrition program to prepare for the bout, highlighting the poor state of nutrition education for doctors.⚕️ NHS in Crisis: The Disillusioned DoctorThe Vocation vs. The System: Ricky discusses his deep love for the essence of being a doctor (the caring, helping aspect) but his resentment of the NHS system, which he says forces less one-to-one time and more paperwork and litigation-covering.The Remuneration Gap: Marc and Ricky discuss the financial realities, with doctors being "dicked on" regarding pensions and compensation levels that have failed to keep pace over the last 20 years, leading some doctors to use food banks.The "Say No" Dilemma: The argument that for the NHS to survive, doctors must be empowered to "say no" to non-essential or unrealistic patient demands, even if it's politically unpalatable, to protect resources for those truly in need.

In Part Two of our conversation with Ollie, we go deeper — into parenting teenage boys in a digital age, the slow creep of manosphere nonsense, and how to talk to your kids without triggering the “opposite of whatever Dad wants” instinct.Then the episode shifts. Rich and Marc open up about losing their friend Frank young, and Ollie shares the story of his best friend Doug, who died from Motor Neurone Disease at 32. What follows is a raw, honest look at grief, guilt, the ways men avoid emotion, and how losing someone in your 30s radically reshapes your midlife.It’s heavy, funny, warm, painful, and very real — exactly the kind of conversation men rarely have, but desperately need.00:00 – Raising Sons in the Digital Age07:00 – Bullying, Neurodiversity & Responsibility Too Early12:00 – Losing Friends Young: Frank20:00 – Losing Friends Young: Doug29:00 – The Midlife Crisis Trigger33:00 – Marc’s Own Unfinished Business36:00 – Designing a Midlife You Actually Want39:00 – Golf, Sustainability & Accidentally Manifesting a Dream Career42:00 – Relationships, Cabs & Selective InconvenienceOllie explains why his wife can absolutely walk homeThe boys descend into full farce44:30 – Ollie’s Podcast PlugThe Scope 3 Podcast — sustainability, supply chains, and two blokes winging it and hoping no one notices.How fathers can navigate the manosphere without becoming preachyMale grief: the bits no one talks aboutThe guilt of coping “wrong”What losing a friend young does to your sense of timeWhy midlife crisis is often midlife clarityBuilding a life on your terms — no bosses, no teams, no nonsenseFriendship as survival

Here are the show notes for the episode, structured to highlight the humor, the stories, and the actionable advice discussed.Hosts: Marc Cox & Richard Guest: Ollie Hurrey (Sustainability Business Leader & "Golf Bore")In this episode of Mum, Dad’s Got Another Tattoo, Marc and Rich are joined by old university friend Ollie Hurrey. The trio dives deep into the reality of the midlife crisis—from the realization that nobody actually knows what they are doing, to the specific physical humiliations of trying to get fit in your 40s.They discuss the therapeutic nature of golf (and the obsession that comes with it), Marc’s potential career pivot into corporate health coaching, and Ollie shares a golden piece of advice for anyone looking to start their own business using LinkedIn.In This Episode, We Cover:The "Winging It" Philosophy: Why imposter syndrome might just be the default human state and why no one—from parents to sustainability experts—has a manual for life.Marc’s Career Pivot: Marc opens up about his idea to transition from the City to becoming a health and fitness concierge for traveling corporate professionals.Exercise Disasters: Ollie recounts his brief, disastrous relationship with cycling (which ended in a faint) and his harrowing experience attempting the Moonwalk Marathon in a bra.The Golf Obsession: Why golf is the ultimate midlife crisis sport (it involves buying gear, hanging with mates, and switching your brain off).The LinkedIn Hack: Ollie drops a masterclass on how to start a business by downloading your LinkedIn data and scoring your connections—a must-listen for aspiring entrepreneurs.Nostalgia & Parenting: Trying to get Gen Z kids to appreciate City Slickers, 80s music, and the struggle of "Dad rock."Memorable Quotes:"I’m an expert on not knowing what the f*** I’m doing." — Ollie"You feel almost immortal playing golf. You can play golf until you die... you can be completely s*** at 90 years old and still play." — Ollie"It’s that classic Venn diagram: What you love doing, what you’re good at, and what people will pay for." — Ollie"I ended up with the biggest blister known to man... I basically fell asleep under a tree with a beetroot for a head in a bra for four hours." — Ollie on the MoonwalkEnjoying the podcast? Please subscribe, rate, and review! It helps other middle-aged men (and anyone else) find us as we navigate life, tattoos, and bad knees.

Winter joints, old injuries, and new obsessions. Marc tries recovery tech at The Padded Cell, rants (usefully) about applicant-tracking A.I., emcees a village quiz, and wades into a school-governor debate on gender-neutral uniforms. Richard brings UFO-level road-rage from the A2, junior golfers with tour-dad energy, and the parenting win of getting a kid into sushi.This week we cover🧠 Midlife bandwidth: Job hunting as a full-time drain (and why ghosting stings)🦴 Bodies in winter: Old injuries, new consequences (and how not to rehab)🏫 School governance: Gender-neutral uniform, inclusion vs. tradition (civil, practical take)🧪 Recovery toys: Hydro-massage beds & contrast therapy — helpful or hype?🏘️ Village hall chaos: Ballet-shoe floor testing & committee creep🚗 A2 parable: “Angry Oxygenarians” and how cars turn us feral⛳ Junior golf parents: Tour-coach cosplay vs. kids just enjoying it3 useful takeawaysJob search sanity: Warm intros beat portals; tailor 1 page only; ask for a decision date up front.Injury rule: If it hurts during warm-up, you’re extending the tear; rest > heroics.Uniform policy lens: Default-allow avoids “permission to exist” moments; edge cases don’t need new bureaucracy.⏱️ Timestamps00:00 Cold opens: winter aches & The Padded Cell02:40 The AI job-hunt clown show (and being ghosted)10:45 Injury confessions: heels, quads, and lifetime tweaks18:55 Quizmaster night & the backhanded compliment25:40 Gender-neutral uniform: inclusion vs. uniformity33:40 “Angry Oxygenarians” on the A237:30 Junior golf parents & kids’ joy44:40 Village-hall floor wars: ballet shoes on swatches50:35 Wrap & listener invites)Winter hits hard: Marc tries recovery tech, rants about A.I. job portals and ghosting, hosts a village quiz, and navigates a school debate on gender-neutral uniforms. Richard reports from the A2 (“Angry Octagenarians”), junior golf parents doing tour-coach cosplay, and a sushi parenting win. Midlife bodies, civic life, and small wins — with jokes.The Padded Cell (recovery & hydro-massage)Gender-neutral uniform guidance (contextual mention, no doc cited)“The November Budget” quiz-team name (we approve)TagsMidlife, Men’s Health, Careers, Recovery, Parenting, School Governance, Comedy, Community, Golf, Wellness Tech

A slightly different one this week — Marc heads to The Padded Cell, a new health and wellness centre run by previous guest Russell. It’s part gym, part recovery lab, part midlife rehab.After trying out the TheraJet Dry Hydro Massage Bed and the AquaVive Dry Hydro Chair (think car-wash rollers for your back, minus the water), Marc sits down with Russell for a joint Mum Dad’s Got Another Tattoo × The Straight Jacket episode.They get into:🧠 How the “midlife crisis” label sometimes blocks honest talk about men’s mental health💬 Why “being busy talking about it” can crowd out actually doing something about it⚙️ Three practical hacks for mind, body & soul that don’t involve a vision board or a motorbikeIt’s part wellness review, part therapy session, and part laugh at our own expense — basically, peak midlife podcasting.Listen if: you’ve ever rolled your eyes at self-care but secretly want a massage chair that does cold therapy and existential reflection at the same time.💌 Send us your own recovery hacks at dadsgotanothertattoo@gmail.com 📸 Follow @dadsgotanothertattoo 🎧 Check out Russell’s show The Straight Jacket and the wellness space The Padded Cell

This week we gate-crash The Spooky Shed and hand over our scepticism to resident weirdologist Liam. Expect: a glass that slides (uninvited), a midwife who may — or may not — have come from beyond, family lullabies that shouldn’t be remembered, and a trio of UFO/UAP sightings that still make Rich stare at the sky. Marc tries very hard to be rational. It doesn’t always work. Equal parts cosy, uncanny and gloriously daft. Send us your spooky stories and we might read them out.Guest: Liam — host of The Spooky Shed (Podomedy Network)Theme: Skeptic vs believer — ghosts, UAPs, cryptids & uncanny family moments0:00 — Intro & welcome to Episode 34 1:00 — Who are we and what’s the show? (midlife, tattoos, therapy by banter) 2:40 — Quick tattoo chat (because obviously) 5:00 — Liam’s “I woke up from anaesthetic and felt like death” story — sceptic’s origin story 8:18 — The glass that moved across the table — restaurant encounter (Polish family, heavy table, silent slide) 12:30 — Discussion: rational explanations vs. spooky comfort 17:00 — Rich’s UAP sightings — stationary silvery ball, red light that shoots away, triangular lights over the driveway 25:00 — Are aliens more plausible than ghosts? (maths vs. atmosphere) 31:00 — Polish ghost nurse at daughter’s birth — lullaby, calm room, nobody else saw her (or did they?) 37:30 — Mark’s rational alternative — should he ruin the romance? (he almost does) 41:00 — Psychic stories: real comfort, no-fee medium who amazed the household 45:00 — Cryptids, Isle of Grain reports, Cannock Chase and other UK weirdness 52:00 — The limits of proof and why we keep talking about it anyway 56:00 — Wrap — where to find The Spooky Shed, plugs & sign-offWhy you should listen If you like cosy scares, affectionate scepticism and the kind of chat that ends in both laughter and goosebumps, this one’s for you. Also: perfect for listening to in the dark with the lights on.Calls to action (drop in links) • Follow Liam — The Spooky Shed (link) • Follow us — @dadsgotanothertattoo (Instagram) • Got a spooky story? Tell us: dadsgotanothertattoo@gmail.com • Subscribe, rate & share if you enjoyed the episode — it helps the show stay alive (unlike some ghosts)

Marc sits down with author Jim Marshall to dig into Septemics: Hierarchies of Human Phenomena—a system of 35 seven-level “scales” Jim says can help people understand behavior and move up, one level at a time. We cover where the idea came from, why he claims it’s grounded in math, how to apply (and not apply) the scales in real life, and a few skeptical pushbacks from Mark on ethics, relationships, and the “scale of sexuality.”Guest Jim Marshall — author of Septemics: Hierarchies of Human Phenomena.Seven-level scales: Jim argues human behavior across 35 axes follows predictable, seven-step gradients.Insight test: In Jim’s framework, “finding the correct level triggers an insight; if you feel nothing, try again.”One step at a time: He cautions against jumping levels—aim for the next rung, not the top.Ethics: Don’t announce other people’s levels; encourage self-placement to avoid judgment and pushback.Skeptic corner: Marc presses on complexity (relationships), possible misreads, and why some “top” positions (e.g., low/zero libido) are framed as higher.Links & referencesSeptemics: Hierarchies of Human Phenomena — available via major booksellers (search “Septemics”).Jim’s site and axioms are referenced in the episode; search “Septemics axioms” for more. Tried placing yourself on one scale (e.g., Motivation, Equanimity, Relationships)? What “next level up” would look like for you this week? Send a 30–60s voice note and we’ll feature a couple.Contact 📧 dadsgotanothertattoo@gmail.com 📸/🎥 @dadsgotanothertattoo Septemics, psychology, self-development, skepticism, ethics, relationships, motivation, midlife.

Listener James clears up that Costa story, Rolling Stone drops a century-defining songs list, and we try to make a list episode… not boring. Marc argues rock’s gone missing, Richard defends his chaotic playlist, and we salute stealth pop powerhouse Kathy Dennis. Plus: Marc’s writing a practical midlife fitness e-book and shares the “minimum effective dose” idea that actually sticks.In this episodeWhy keeping job news secret feels like an identity earthquakeThe White Stripes vs. overexposure; Missy at #1; Beyoncé’s arrivalHidden hitmakers: the Kathy Dennis run that scored a generationMidlife fitness that works when life doesn’t: consistently imperfect > perfectly consistentBirthday apathy, Thorpe Park braveryLinksRolling Stone: The 250 Best Songs of the 21st Century“Toxic” songwriting credits (Kathy Dennis appreciation)Tell us Send a voice note: the one 21st-century song that feels like your life right now—and why. We’ll feature 3 next week. 📧 dadsgotanothertattoo@gmail.com 📸/🎥 @dadsgotanothertattoo