Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast

In our previous episodes, we've talked about the respect gap and how respect often becomes transactional in long-term relationships. Today, we're looking at something that might help you trust what you've been observing.Have you ever been told, "I don't know what you want," or "women are so confusing"? This episode explores a pattern that challenges that excuse. We'll look at how many men demonstrate respect regularly and skillfully with other men, which reveals something important: they know what respect looks like. The question isn't about confusion. It's about where that respect gets directed.This episode is gentle and observational. We're not making accusations. We're simply inviting you to notice patterns you may have already been seeing. And if you have been seeing them, we want you to know: you're not imagining things.In This Episode, we will talk aboutHow many men demonstrate respect with other menObservable patterns in listening, defending, and protectingWhat the "confusion" excuse really meansWhy this is about choice, not capacityWhat it means for you if you're not receiving that same respectListen if you want to:Validate what you've been observing for yearsUnderstand why "I don't know what you want" might not be trueTrust your perception about different treatmentGain clarity about capacity vs. choice🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Also, listen to episodes 88 and 89, and 112 and 113, as they are related to this oneTop Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

You're watching it happen again. Your parent explodes over something minor. Your sibling's face changes as they absorb another wave of criticism that doesn't match the crime. And you're standing there caught between two people you love, not knowing what to do that won't make everything worse.This is one of the most painful positions in family dynamics. You see the disproportionate anger. You know it's affecting your sibling deeply. But speaking up feels risky, and staying silent feels like betrayal.In this episode, we're tackling what it means to be the witness when a parent consistently scapegoats one sibling. We'll explore the hidden dynamics at play, why this pattern exists, and what it does to everyone involved, including you.You'll discover:Why scapegoating happens and what function it serves in dysfunctional familiesThe real reason your sibling can't see the pattern clearly (and why your perspective matters)What actually helps versus what makes things worseHow to speak up without rescuing, mediating, or getting destroyed in the processThe uncomfortable truth about what you can and cannot changeWe'll also address the fear that keeps most people silent: will challenging your parent destroy your relationship with them? The answer might surprise you, because what gets damaged when you stay silent is something even more important.If you're tired of feeling helpless while watching unfair treatment unfold, if you're done being pulled into conflicts that aren't yours, or if you want to support your sibling without losing yourself in the process, this episode will give you a framework for moving forward.Because here's the truth: you can't fix this dynamic. But you can refuse to participate in the silence that allows it to continue. And sometimes, that's the most powerful thing you can do.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

Have you ever felt like something was off in how you're being treated, but couldn't quite name it? Like the words say one thing but the actions tell a completely different story?You're not imagining it. There's a gap between what many people claim respect looks like and what it actually feels like to receive it. And for women, especially those recovering from narcissistic relationships, understanding this gap changes everything.In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on why this disconnect exists and persists. We'll explore how respect gets performed rather than practiced, why some people know exactly what they're doing when they withhold it, and what it costs them to actually give it. This isn't about blame. It's about clarity. Because once you can see the pattern, you can stop questioning yourself and start making informed choices about what you're willing to accept.If you've ever been told you're "too much," "too sensitive," or "asking for too much" when you simply asked to be valued, this episode is for you.In This Episode:What the "respect gap" really is and why it's not in your headThe difference between performing respect and actually practicing itWhy the "I don't understand what you want" excuse is strategic, not confusionHow narcissists weaponize the appearance of respect as a control tactic🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Also, listen to episodes 88 and 89 as they are related to this oneGo here to read more: https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/covert-sabotage/.Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

What happens when you start recognizing the same control patterns from your abusive relationship showing up everywhere around you?This episode explores the uncomfortable truth that recovery from narcissistic abuse often reveals something bigger: the same mechanisms that controlled you in private are embedded in the culture itself. We examine how gaslighting, entitlement, and dependency engineering operate both in individual relationships and as systemic patterns that shape women's lives from birth.In this episode, you'll discover:Why the tools your narcissistic ex used to control you look eerily similar to how patriarchal systems maintain power at scaleWhat emotional labor really costs and why women are exhausted from managing everyone's feelings but their ownWhy leaving an abusive relationship often means confronting a lifetime of conditioning that trained you for that exact dynamicHow survivor grief is about mourning not just a person but an entire identity you built to survive, and the fantasy of what could have beenHow recovery becomes political refusal when you stop performing niceness, managing comfort, and translating your reality for othersIf you've ever wondered why recovery feels so hard, why you keep noticing the same patterns everywhere, or why getting free from one abusive relationship didn't prepare you for the world outside, this episode will help you understand that your perception isn't the problem. 🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ **Leave a Review** Warning: This episode discusses emotional abuse, gaslighting, and systemic gender inequality. Listen when you have space to process.Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTop Episodes on Narcissistic Abuse RecoveryEp. 107 The Scapegoat Effect: Why You're Being Blamed for Problems You Didn't CreateEp. 108 Six Reasons Narcissists Shut Down Conversations to Maintain Emotional Control (Re-release)Ep. 104 Triangulation: The Invisible People Ruining Your Relationship (And How to Spot Them)Ep. 94 When Care Becomes Control: Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns in Loving RelationshipsEp. 64 How Solitude and Deep Concentration is Underrated in Your Healing Journey: 3 Introspective Thoughts to Stir Your Path Forward

Ever try to express a real concern to a narcissistic partner, parent, or family member, only to be met with silence, an abrupt topic change, or a sudden disappearance from the room? That is not confusion or lack of communication skill. It is intentional emotional withdrawal designed to shut down connection, gain control, and keep the narcissist from ever being held accountable.In this re-release of Episode 35 from The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we explore six core motives behind narcissistic stonewalling. When conversations become vulnerable, intimate, or emotionally honest, narcissists may retreat, leave you talking to yourself, or create long periods of silence. The behavior is not random. It functions as a system of emotional management that protects their fragile self-image..We go deeper into the emotional dynamics that make connection feel threatening to a narcissist. They interpret closeness as a loss of control, and rather than engage with honesty, empathy, or curiosity, they shut the door and walk away. Silence becomes the tool that allows them to avoid criticism, accountability, emotional reciprocity, and the possibility that you may uncover what lies behind their grandiose mask.Stonewalling protects their ego. When a narcissist senses that you are asking for emotional clarity, honesty, or mutual respect, your request becomes a perceived attack. Vulnerability threatens the false self they spend their life protecting. Rather than take responsibility, engage in dialogue, or grow in emotional maturity, they block intimacy and punish you with silence. The goal is not resolution.If you have ever felt like your voice disappears as soon as you try to communicate your needs, this conversation offers clarity and validation. You are not being dramatic. You are not being overly sensitive. You are navigating a person who views your emotional reality as something to eliminate rather than understand.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ **Leave a Review**Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTop Episodes on Narcissistic Abuse RecoveryEp. 107 The Scapegoat Effect: Why You're Being Blamed for Problems You Didn't CreateEp. 108 Six Reasons Narcissists Shut Down Conversations to Maintain Emotional Control (Re-release)Ep. 104 Triangulation: The Invisible People Ruining Your Relationship (And How to Spot Them)Ep. 94 When Care Becomes Control: Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns in Loving RelationshipsEp. 64 How Solitude and Deep Concentration is Underrated in Your Healing Journey: 3 Introspective Thoughts to Stir Your Path Forward

Covert sabotage operates quietly. It’s the kind of psychological manipulation that targets your confidence, progress, and credibility while leaving the person behind it looking blameless. In this episode, we unpack how subtle undermining behaviors can erode the lives of ambitious people, especially women, and why these patterns often remain invisible until the damage is already done. We also explore how the nervous system reacts to chronic relational stress long before the conscious mind can fully articulate what’s happening.In this episode, we explore:• What covert sabotage looks like in real life• How milestone disruption, reputation erosion, strategic “miscommunication,” achievement minimization, and emotional drain appear in day-to-day interactions• How information control and timing are used to destabilize confidence• The physiological impact of prolonged psychological stress• Why the nervous system often detects threat before logic does• Practical ways to identify patterns that aren’t meant to be seenThis episode is a re-release.Watch the video here🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Go here to read more: https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/covert-sabotage/. Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

Most people are taught that the patriarchy is about power, dominance, or money. But that explanation only scratches the surface. This episode asks a more uncomfortable question. What if the real objective has always been far more specific? What if entire institutions, marriage, religion, law, medicine, and cultural morality were built to quietly regulate women’s bodies, sexuality, and choices while presenting that control as normal, protective, or even loving?In this conversation, we begin to pull on threads most people are taught not to question.Inside this episode, we explore themes such as:• Why patriarchy may be less about general power and more about sexual and reproductive access• How early conditioning shapes women’s expectations around motherhood and sacrifice• The subtle social pressures placed on women who do not follow the traditional life script• Why independence in women is often met with discomfort, backlash, or exclusion• The modern ways old control systems reappear under new language• The unsettling overlap between societal conditioning and emotional manipulation tactics• Why certain narratives about women’s happiness quietly fade from public view• What makes the simple act of saying no so disruptiveOnce you see the structure, it changes how you understand culture, relationships, and choice itself.Watch the video here🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course 🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching 🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Content Warning: This episode contains frank discussions about sexuality, reproductive control, and systemic manipulation.We are re-releasing some of our top episodes from this year.Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTop Episodes on Narcissistic Abuse RecoveryEp. 107 The Scapegoat Effect: Why You're Being Blamed for Problems You Didn't CreateEp. 108 Six Reasons Narcissists Shut Down Conversations to Maintain Emotional Control (Re-release)Ep. 104 Triangulation: The Invisible People Ruining Your Relationship (And How to Spot Them)Ep. 94 When Care Becomes Control: Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns in Loving RelationshipsEp. 64 How Solitude and Deep Concentration is Underrated in Your Healing Journey: 3 Introspective Thoughts to Stir Your Path Forward

Have you ever felt like no matter what you choose, you're somehow still choosing wrong? Or noticed that one person always gets blamed for everything while the real problems never get addressed? You're not imagining it.In this episode, we're exposing three manipulation tactics that keep people trapped, compliant, and fighting the wrong battles. These patterns show up in narcissistic relationships, but they don't stop there. Once you understand how they work, you'll start recognizing them in your workplace, in organizations, and in systems you navigate every day.In this episode, you'll discover:The illusion of choice – How you're given options that make you feel empowered while someone else controls the outcomes (and why you blame yourself when things go wrong)Triangulation and the scapegoat role – Why every toxic system needs someone to blame, how that person gets chosen, and what happens to everyone else who stays silentDependency and learned helplessness – How the trap gets built to make you feel like you can't leave, then conditions you to stop tryingReal-world examples – From healthcare tied to employment to scapegoating in society, see how these tactics operate at every level🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ **Leave a Review** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTop Episodes on Narcissistic Abuse RecoveryEp. 107 The Scapegoat Effect: Why You're Being Blamed for Problems You Didn't CreateEp. 108 Six Reasons Narcissists Shut Down Conversations to Maintain Emotional Control (Re-release)Ep. 104 Triangulation: The Invisible People Ruining Your Relationship (And How to Spot Them)Ep. 94 When Care Becomes Control: Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns in Loving RelationshipsEp. 64 How Solitude and Deep Concentration is Underrated in Your Healing Journey: 3 Introspective Thoughts to Stir Your Path Forward