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#256: Change Your Relationship with Your Past - Vienna Pharaon

Ep. 256

Have you ever been triggered in a relationship and thought, “Why am I reacting like this?”


In this episode, I’m joined by Vienna Pharaon, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to explain how your past shapes your nervous system, and why that’s what’s really running your relationship patterns.


We break down the “family blueprint,” why you’re drawn to what’s familiar, and how to move from survival mode into choice, so you can respond differently when you’re activated instead of repeating the same cycle.


This episode will help you change your life by changing your relationship with your past.


Vienna Pharaon is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in New York.


Timestamps:


(00:00) Introduction

(00:31) The Impact of Family on Future Relationships

(02:24) The Role of Awareness and Practice in Healing

(04:23) The Importance of Consistency in Personal Growth

(06:46) Navigating Familial and Romantic Relationships

(09:27) The Subtle Triggers of the Nervous System

(11:15) The Challenge of Isolation and Healing

(15:25) Choosing Different Patterns in Relationships

(20:33) Addressing Origin Wounds for True Healing

(24:23) Personal Story: Overcoming Past Patterns

(26:35) The Power of Setting Boundaries

(27:48) Surviving the Emotional Aftermath

(29:11) The Importance of Community Support

(30:04) The Reality of Personal Change

(34:14) Immersion Therapy and Personal Growth

(41:00) Navigating Relationships and Self-Protection

(45:12) About the Book and Final Thoughts


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Quiz: https://viennapharaon.com/origin-wound-quiz/ 

The Origin Healing Method: https://courses.viennapharaon.com/the-origin-healing-method 

Website: https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmft/

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