Break Your Bullsh*t Box

Episode SummaryConfused about what business coaching really is? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the critical differences between coaching, consulting, and mentoring so you can hire the right support for your business growth in 2026 and avoid costly misalignments.Key Topics CoveredThe biggest communication mistake business owners make when selling their servicesHow to distinguish between coaching, consulting, and mentoring (and why you need all three)Why hiring someone to "fix" your business without addressing your own behavior patterns leads to failureCoaching questions vs. consulting advice: Understanding the curiosity-driven approachWhat to ask potential coaches or consultants before hiring to ensure role alignmentNotable Quotes"The biggest mistake that people make in communication is assuming that communication happens.""What ends up happening when we [have someone to "fix" something in our business] is somebody creates the perfect system for us, then hands it to us and we fuck it up because we run it the same way that we always have that caused the chaos that we brought them in to fix in the first place.""If you are doing yourself a disservice if all you do is focus on strategies and policies and procedures, and you avoid focusing on the human behavior behind all of those things."Connect with AmberReady to identify the autopilot patterns holding you back?Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber’s Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummaryReady to overcome your fear of asking for money? Fundraising expert Allison Loftus shares proven strategies for packaging your ideas, building authentic relationships with donors, and understanding that rejection isn't the end of the world. Whether you're running a nonprofit, launching a business, or pitching your next big idea, this episode breaks down the psychology and practical tactics behind successful fundraising.Key Topics CoveredHow to overcome the fear of asking for money and handling rejection with graceThe importance of research and relationship-building before making the askWhy proposals should be starting points for negotiation, not ironclad contractsHow to identify what donors truly value and align your pitch accordinglyThe difference between being persistent and being a pest in fundraisingWhy "no" is better than being strung along—and how to handle bothBuilding authentic connections that go beyond transactional relationshipsThe role of integrity and alignment in making business decisionsHow to practice your pitch with friendly ears before approaching strangersNotable Quotes"My grandma always used to say, if you don't ask, you don't get. All people could do is say no." – Allison Loftus"I would much rather hear no than be dragged along with somebody who didn't have an intention of engaging and waste my time." – Amber Fuhriman"You can't just keep going back to the same people over and over again with the crisis every week. You have to get your ducks in a row." – Allison Loftus"We're all fundraising all the time. I am selling my products. That's fundraising. I am asking a person to give me money in exchange for something of value." – Amber Fuhriman"These proposals that you write to people are just really suggestions. If there's something you want to swap out, why don't we just discuss it?" – Allison LoftusCall to Action (CTA)Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoAllison Loftus Allison Loftus is a seasoned fundraising professional with extensive experience in nonprofit development, political fundraising, and corporate partnerships. With a background that includes working on the Clinton campaign, Allison has spent her career mastering the art of connecting people's needs with organizational missions. She specializes in building authentic donor relationships, strategic research, and creating mutually beneficial partnerships that drive real results.Contact Allison:Email: loftaml84@gmail.com

Episode Summary: Ever arrive at your destination with no memory of the drive? That's autopilot and it's not just happening in your car. It's running your business decisions, your communication patterns, and the choices you make (or avoid) every single day.In this episode, Amber Fuhriman breaks down why smart, capable entrepreneurs stay stuck. It's not simply because they lack information. It's because they're operating on invisible patterns they can't see from inside their own heads.In This Episode, You'll Discover:Why having access to information isn't enough to create changeThe difference between surface-level solutions (another sales script) and addressing the real problem (why you're not using the 17 you already have)How business pressure exposes the invisible structures underneath your behaviorWhy change happens in an instant, but deciding to change takes timeThe real reason coaching works: it addresses the human running the business, not just the processesKey Takeaway:You don't need more information. You need more honesty about how you're actually operating and updated strategies in how to handle what you learn. Both of these require an external perspective to see what you can't see on your own.Notable Quotes: "Change doesn't take time. Change happens in an instant, but it's deciding to change that takes time." - Amber Fuhriman "You already have access to the information. You already know so much more than you are implementing. If information were enough alone, you would've created results." - Amber FuhrimanConnect with Amber:Ready to identify the autopilot patterns holding you back? Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber’s Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummaryReady to break out of the “superhuman” myth in law and business? Amber Fuhriman sits down with criminal defense attorney and judicial candidate Lance Hendron to expose the real, raw truths behind success, burnout, and maintaining your humanity in high-pressure professions. This episode is a must-listen for ambitious professionals, attorneys, and anyone redefining what it means to “make it.”Key Topics CoveredWhy “being human” is the secret weapon for attorneys, judges, and high performersThe emotional toll of law, success, and constantly preparing for conflictIdentity shifts: separating your self-worth from your professional wins and lossesBurnout, boundaries, and the myth of having it “all together”How compassion and authenticity change the game in business, courtrooms, and lifePractical advice for putting yourself out there and handling public judgmentNotable Quotes““You can do all the briefs, all the legal stuff, and even with the facts itself, but being able to work with your client, that individual, whomever it might be, that you're advocating for… as the time goes on, you start to have that skill, ability to find a way to connect.” - Lance Hendron“I think a lot of people, including myself before I became an attorney, look at judges as these superhuman people who are in some way different than ourselves. And in all reality, we're all just humans doing the best that we can in any situation.” - Amber FuhrimanNext Steps: Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber’s Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Connect with Lance or learn more about his campaign: www.lance4judge.com | lance@lance4judge.com | 702-483-8181Guest InfoLance HendronCriminal defense attorney, candidate for Justice Court Judge (Henderson Justice Court)Advocate for compassion, humanity, and fairness in the legal systemWebsite: www.lance4judge.comEmail: lance@lance4judge.comPhone: 702-483-8181

In this powerful finale of the Break Your Bullshit Box framework cycle, Amber Fuhriman explores the critical role of courage in personal transformation. After challenging your identity, breaking your bullshit, and designing your life plan, courage is what bridges the gap between intention and action.Key Topics Covered:Why courage is the final (not first) step in the transformation frameworkThe difference between comfort zone living and courageous actionHow each act of courage creates a new version of yourselfThe myth of "baby steps" and why real baby steps are fearless, not timidLessons from Tough Mudder: becoming the person who has already done itWhy success isn't a destination but a continuous cycle of growthKey Quotes:"We can't have courage until we've done all the other steps, until we've been honest with ourselves""You aren't yet the person who's capable of accomplishing your goals, because if you were, you'd already have them""True baby steps are baby steps of courage. They're not baby steps of timid nature""With every step you take, you become a person who has done something that you didn't think you could do"The Break Your Bullshit Box Framework:Challenge Your IdentityBreak Your BullshitDesign Your LifeHave Courage (this episode)Opportunity for growth: Challenge one piece of your bullshit every single day. Take courageous baby steps - the fearless kind where you stumble, fall, and keep moving forward anyway.If you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com. Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the Facebook Break Your Bullshit Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/ Checkout Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05

Episode Summary:In this heartfelt conversation, Amber Fuhriman sits down with author Dawn Ramos to explore the creative process, the challenges of being an author, and the journey of stepping into your authentic self. Dawn shares her experiences writing romance novels, the labor of love that goes into each book, and how she navigates the vulnerability of putting her work into the world.Key Topics Discussed:On Writing & Creativity:The identity shift from "writing a book" to "being an author"Dawn's creative process: "dating ideas" before committing to a storyOn Vulnerability & Self-Worth:Dealing with reviews and criticism (including that dreaded one-star review)The struggle to separate self-worth from others' opinionsWhy accepting compliments is harder than it seemsThe importance of keeping positive reviews visible as remindersOn Authenticity:Showing up as yourself in networking and business situationsThe challenge of being naturally shy while needing to be socialToxic positivity vs. genuine authenticityBeing present in conversations and truly meaning "How are you doing?"On Creativity & Leadership:Redefining creativity beyond artistic talentThe importance of diverse perspectives and challenging the status quoWhy good leaders must be willing to be challengedThe difference between debating to understand vs. debating to winNotable Quotes:"It's not until you start calling yourself an author that you're gonna feel like one.""Writing is a labor of love. You truly leave a piece of yourself with every little bit of work that you put out there.""I literally love my characters. That's like asking who your favorite kid is.""Creativity is tapping into that place in your mind where the impossible can be possible.""A happy ending is just knowing where to finish the story."About Dawn Ramos:Dawn Ramos is an author of feel-good romance novels including "Christmas in Winchester," "Carpe Diem," and her most recent release "Emma's Gift." She's passionate about creating stories that leave readers feeling hopeful and inspired. When she's not writing, Dawn is a forever student, participating in multiple book clubs and constantly challenging herself to grow both personally and professionally.Connect with Dawn:Books available on Amazon and her websiteBad Owl Journal (wise owl, bad advice) available on Etsy and her website https://dawnramos.com/If you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com. Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the Facebook Break Your Bullshit Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/ Checkout Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05

Episode Summary: In this powerful solo episode, Amber challenges the traditional view of sales and reveals why it's inseparable from designing the life you want. She breaks down the uncomfortable truth: you're always selling, whether it's your product, your follow-through on goals, or your own potential to yourself.Key Topics Covered: 1. The Language of SuccessHow the words we use create our realityThe difference between "trying" and "going to"Why saying "it's okay if you don't want it" undermines your value2. Fear & Follow-ThroughUnderstanding why we don't execute on our plansThe role of fear in preventing actionHow to shift from "if it's not on the calendar" to "if it's on the calendar, it WILL happen"5. Reframing Your IdentityHow your self-description shapes your realityAction Challenge:Pay attention to the words you use this week. Are you describing your life with words of possibility ("I get to") or necessity ("I have to")? Your language is creating your reality.Connect with Amber: If you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com. Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the Facebook Break Your Bullshit Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/ Checkout Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05

Episode Summary:In this powerful conversation, musician Shane Hamlett shares his journey from chasing six-figure success to discovering his authentic voice through music. Shane opens up about the moment he realized money wasn't the answer, the childhood memory that silenced his creativity for decades, and how he's learning to celebrate himself, not just others.Key Topics Discussed:The Six-Figure MythBoth Amber and Shane hit their "magic number" only to discover it didn't bring the happiness they expectedThe dangerous cycle of thinking you just need a bigger numberLearning that money is a tool, not a solutionSilencing Your JoyShane's pivotal second-grade memory of being told to "be quiet" while singingHow one moment can shape decades of self-silencingThe two-year journey from writing his first song to sharing it with the worldThe Music JourneyWriting "Broken Wings" - his first complete song about letting go of perfectionThe irony of writing about not needing perfection while trying to perfect the songUpcoming album: "Loud Hearts"celebrating finally sharing who you are loudlyIdentity & Self-AbandonmentLetting go of the need to control everything and have all the answersThe painful realization that protecting others from hurt was actually hurting himselfLearning that you can't meet your people until you show up as yourselfThe Celebrate BrandChallenging people to celebrate themselves, not just othersLike-Minded PeopleWhy being around like-minded people is uncomfortable (and that's the point)Like-minded doesn't mean same beliefs—it means same commitment to growthFinding your people when you're being your most authentic selfPowerful Quotes:"I had to be truly broken before I could start to say, 'Hey, I need help.'" - Shane Hamlett"What I no longer get to do is abandon myself to please [others] and sometimes that's a lonely place to be" - Amber Fuhriman"How can you love somebody else without loving yourself?" - Shane Hamlett The Bullshit Shane's Breaking:"I'm too late." - The belief that changing careers or pursuing passion later in life means you've missed your window.Connect with Shane:Music:Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/4YKhMBHVg4XDDTBXVunY2F?si=m0dQNfu1TfKvydtaKtknjQApple Music - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/shane-hamlett/1758565850YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrYGZGJtRZitaot3ffod6XgWebsite: www.shanehamlett.comCelebrate Brand: www.whatdoyoucelebrate.comUpcoming Album: "Loud Hearts" (releasing soon)

In this episode: Are you stuck in an endless cycle of planning without taking action? In this episode of The Break Your Bullshit Box Podcast, we dive into the reason even the best-laid plans fail and how we use strategy as a hiding place. We discuss the second part of my Break Your Bullshit Box framework: Breaking Your Bullshit Box. In other words, understanding the gremlins and limiting beliefs that sabotage our follow-through. If you're tired of buying planners, creating perfect calendars, and never executing, this episode will help you break free from the strategy trap and start taking real action Key topics covered: The reason planning feels productive but often leads nowhereThe strategy trap: How we hide in planning to avoid actionUnderstanding the "gremlins" - the voices that justify our resultsThe difference between human behavior problems and logical solutionsThe importance of intention behind every commitmentHow to identify what's really holding you back from following through Key Takeaways: Success doesn't come from the plan, it comes from the honesty underneath the plan about why it's failed in the pastClarity only comes through action, not through endless analysis and planningWe can't solve human problems with logical strategic plans, we need to address the underlying beliefs and behaviorsPlanning can be a form of avoidance, making us feel productive without actually accomplishing anythingUnderstanding your intention behind each commitment is crucial to breaking patterns Quotes: "Clarity only comes through action. We can't analyze our way to an answer or logic our way to the right result." - Amber Fuhriman "We can't solve human problems with logical strategic plans." - Amber Fuhriman If you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com. Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the Facebook Break Your Bullshit Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/ Checkout Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05