Break Your Bullsh*t Box

Episode SummaryWhat does a New Jersey junkyard, a mortgage business, and waterproof countertops all have in common? They are all part of one man's relentless commitment to doing right by people. Amber sits down with entrepreneur and community builder Joe Wittenwiler to dig into the courage it takes to walk away from what is expected, bet on yourself, and build a life by showing up with integrity and humor every single day.Key Topics CoveredWhy the golden rule of taking care of your people is still the most powerful business strategy there isHow self-doubt keeps even successful entrepreneurs stuck and what it actually looks like to push through it anywayThe generational belief cycles around work, education, and success that quietly run your decisions without your permissionWhy finding your people and building genuine relationships is the real key to surviving career pivots and business challengesHow physical challenges like Tough Mudder create real-world proof that you can face fear, finish hard things, and rely on othersNotable QuotesAmber Fuhriman:"Therapy taught me how to interrupt a panic attack. NLP made it to where they didn't happen in the first place. Because I knew where they were coming from and could address that root problem.""I don't wanna try to get a stain outta my new quartz counter. I don't want that stain ever to show up."Joe Wittenwiler:"I always want someone to be better off for knowing me. Whether it's rotary, the charity work, I just want to help the group.""If I can walk into a room and someone smiles or laughs at one of my stupid jokes, or if I can make someone feel better about themselves or about whatever's going on in that moment, I think that's my trophy."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoJoe is a Las Vegas-based mortgage broker and owner of Hydro Shield of Las Vegas, a permanent protective coating service for glass, stone, and countertops. Built on 17 years in a family business, his approach is simple: take care of your people and the rest follows. Active Rotary Club member and community connector.Contact Vikki:Mortgage inquiries: www.mrjoelender.comHydro Shield Las Vegas: hydroshieldlv.com

Episode SummaryYou've read the books, taken the courses, and filled the notebooks, so why are you still stuck? Amber Fuhriman cuts through the noise to reveal what's actually blocking your results: the belief system running underneath every skill you've already learned.Key Topics CoveredWhy buying more courses, books, and programs won't get you unstuck when your belief system hasn't caught up to your skillsHow to identify the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it in your businessThe Break Your Bullsh*t Box four-part framework: challenging your identity, breaking limiting beliefs, building a plan, and having the courage to actWhy self-led learning only delivers information through the lens you already have, and what to do insteadHow to pinpoint the specific belief running underneath the skill you're avoiding so you have something real to work withNotable Quotes"The course isn't the problem. It's also not the solution. You need the skill, you need the knowledge, you need the framework. The course is only half of the equation, maybe even less. The other half is looking at the belief system that you are running that course through.""The course teaches the skill. The belief determines if you use it. Both things have to change, not one or the other.""The most important investment that you will ever make isn't in the next thing you learn. It is in the next thing you become.""You can know every closing technique on the planet, every sales technique, every communication technique, every leadership technique, and still lose the deal to that voice in your head."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummaryMost leaders think their team problems are about skill, strategy, or motivation. They're wrong. Amber Fuhriman sits down with Kolbe certified consultant and energy healer Vikki Kempker to unpack the real reason high performers break down, teams fall apart, and leaders stay stuck: it's a wiring problem, and no one ever told you that's a thing.Key Topics CoveredWhy team breakdowns are almost never a skills problem and how understanding natural wiring stops the cycle of expensive hiring and communication mistakesHow limiting beliefs formed in childhood quietly run your leadership decisions without your awarenessWhat energy healing actually does: releasing the emotional charge tied to life events so old patterns stop driving new behaviorHow the brain is wired for comfort, not success, and what it costs you when you mistake familiarity for forward movementWhy leaders who refuse to see themselves as part of the problem will keep getting the same resultsNotable QuotesAmber Fuhriman:"Your brain is not wired for success. It's wired for comfort. The more uncomfortable I feel, the more I'm actually making progress in the direction that I want to go. The more comfortable I feel, the more I'm hiding.""When there's a breakdown in communication, it's not a skills problem."Vikki Kempker:"I've got a gift to share. And if I'm not sharing it, then I'm not helping somebody else become their best self.""You can talk, talk, talk, talk therapy, and you can bring it to a level of awareness. But if you still have energy tied to it, it's still gonna be bringing you down."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoVikki Kempker is a Kolbe certified consultant and energy healer specializing in limiting beliefs and negative emotions. She created the Team Aligned Method and LEAD framework to help business owners, executives, and teams understand how they are naturally wired to take action.Contact Vikki:Email: align@vikkikempker.comLinkedin: linkedin.com/in/Vikkikempker

Episode SummaryYou've bought the course, practiced the script, and you're still not closing. Amber Fuhriman cuts through the noise and names the real problem: it's not your sales skills, it's your beliefs. In this episode, she walks you through exactly how to spot the hidden stories sabotaging your conversations and what to do to start changing them.Key Topics CoveredWhy buying more courses and scripts won't fix a belief problem wearing a sales costumeHow your inner bullshit gremlins show up in sales conversations, leadership, and anywhere you feel resistanceThe difference between a skills gap and a belief gap, and why it changes everythingHow apologizing for your price before anyone objects signals a lack of belief in your own valueThree questions to ask yourself the next time you overexplain, over-defend, or shrink before anyone says a wordNotable Quotes"This isn't a sales problem. It's a belief problem wearing a sales costume.""You cannot script your way out of not believing you're worth what you charge. It's not possible.""They had defended the value before it had even been attacked. Doing this creates an objection that the prospect or your potential client never asked for.""You can't change what you don't look at. And most people are too focused on the external conversations that they never take the time to examine the internal ones."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummaryStop winging it and wondering why you feel stuck. Amber Fuhriman sits down with Gina Yager, founder of GYC Vegas, to break down why your authentic story is the most powerful PR tool you have, and how intentional strategy in business and branding is the difference between spinning your wheels and actually building something that lasts.Key Topics CoveredWhy telling your authentic story is the foundation of PR and what audiences really want from the brands they buy fromHow to figure out what hills you are willing to stand on publicly and why that clarity protects your brandWhy "hope is not a strategy" and how to build a real plan by starting with your end goal and working backwardsThe trust recession we are living in right now and why consumers will not engage with a business they do not know authenticallyHow to build a network that actually works by going into every relationship with the intention of service first, not sales firstNotable QuotesAmber Fuhriman:"Hope is not a strategy. What's the strategy for making this happen?""None of us knew what the hell we were doing when we opened our business. And there's still fear of failure all the time."Gina Yager:"Branding is the foundation of perception, but perception is what drives business success.""You have to go into every relationship with the intention of building a relationship and being of service. You can have an objective, but all of your actions during that relationship have to be for nothing more than service and relationship building."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoFounder and Director of GYC Vegas, a boutique PR and marketing agency specializing in strategic storytelling, integrated marketing, and community-driven PR across industries including hospitality, healthcare, tech, real estate, gaming, and nonprofits.Podcast: Get Your Chat On with GYC Vegas (available on all major podcast streaming platforms)Contact Gina YagerWebsite: gyc vegas.comInstagram / X / LinkedIn / YouTube: @GYCVegas

Episode SummaryThink surrounding yourself with like-minded people means finding people who agree with you? Amber Fuhriman challenges that assumption head-on, breaking down what like-minded truly means and why the people who think differently than you are the ones who will actually help you grow.Key Topics CoveredWhy the common definition of "like-minded" keeps you stuck in your own echo chamberHow surrounding yourself with people who only validate your beliefs feeds the gremlins telling you you're not good enoughWhat a truly like-minded person looks like: shared values of growth, compassion, and openness, not shared opinionsWhy you should actively seek out people on the opposite side of the aisle to challenge and sharpen your thinkingHow to audit the people in your life and identify who is actually helping you grow versus keeping you limitedNotable Quotes"A like-minded person to me is someone who shows up in a space that is open, welcoming and appreciative. A place that says, I may not completely agree with everything you say, and I respect your right to think it.""One is going to lead you to the growth that you want personally and professionally. The other is going to allow you to stay stuck in your old limitations, justify your shitty beliefs about what you're capable of, and feed those gremlins in your head that tell you you're not good enough.""When we surround ourselves with people who actually think differently than we do, we give ourselves the opportunity to think about problems differently than we think about them now." Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummarySaying yes to everything is not a virtue, it is a fast track to burnout and resentment. Amber Fuhriman sits down with boundaries expert and author Sheryl Green to break down why most people are setting boundaries wrong, what healthy boundaries actually look like in real life, and how to communicate them without blowing up your relationships.Key Topics CoveredThe two boundary extremes that wreck relationships: people pleasing (porous boundaries) and saying no to everything (rigid boundaries), and how to find the healthy middleWhy boundaries are not something you do to people, they are something you do for people, and how that mindset shift makes them easier to enforceHow to stop "yes vomiting" and evaluate commitments before they become obligations you have to lie your way out ofThe role of resentment as an early warning signal that your boundaries have been erodedWhy communicating your boundaries matters as much as setting them, and how to say no without torching a relationshipNotable QuotesSheryl Green:"Boundaries are not something you do to people. They're something you do for people. It's actually a way of protecting and strengthening a relationship.""I had one foot on a mental breakdown and one foot on a banana peel."Amber Fuhriman:"The person we have the most emotional response to is the person that is the most like us or the most like we'd like to be.""People pleasing is actually really selfish. We're people pleasing because we don't want to deal with their disappointment."Call to ActionBook a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoBoundaries expert, speaker, and author of six books including You Had Me At No: How Setting Healthy Boundaries Helps Banish Burnout, Repair Relationships, and Savior SanityFree boundary resources and weekly blog available at her website.Contact Sheryl GreenWebsite: SherylGreenspeaks.comEmail: sheryl@sherylgreenspeaks.com

Episode SummaryThink being a people pleaser makes you more likable? Think again. Amber Fuhriman reveals why chameleon behavior kills real connection and tanks trust in business, plus the NLP-backed framework for knowing when flexibility is strength versus when it's abandoning yourself.Key Topics CoveredThe difference between being a chameleon as a strength versus using it as a coping mechanism to gain approvalWhy pretending to be who others want you to be prevents real connection and trust in business relationshipsHow to identify when you're performing with a mask on versus showing up authentically alignedThe identity audit: getting clear on which labels you've taken on and whether they still serve who you want to beHow to intentionally tap into different parts of yourself to serve others without abandoning your core identityNotable Quotes"This is the real danger of being who you think other people want you to be: nobody ever gets to really know who you are. And you don't ever feel like anybody knows or loves or appreciates you because frankly, you've never let them get to know you.""In a world where people will associate with and do business with people that they know, like, and trust, how do they get to know you? How do they learn to like you, and how do they decide to trust you if they don't know who you are?""I believe that doing it intentionally because we wanna connect with others so that we can serve them is a strength. I believe that doing it because we want to be loved and appreciated and accepted and we are abandoning other parts of ourselves is dangerous.""Realistically, we can only start to understand when we're performing, when we have a mask on, when we're out of alignment, if we get really clear about who it is we are and what it is that we want."Call to Action (CTA)Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Episode SummaryWhat happens when the title you worked your whole career to earn suddenly disappears? Chris Mitchell went from corporate executive overseeing $24 million and 400 employees to entrepreneur working from home in shorts, and the identity crisis nearly broke him. Amber and Chris dig into the brutal truth about how titles, positions, and achievements become who we are without us realizing it, and what it actually takes to rebuild yourself when they're gone.Key Topics CoveredWhy losing your corporate title will break you (and how to survive the identity crisis that follows)The mental reset pitchers use to handle failure on the mound and how it translates to businessHow to decide what actually matters when everything feels importantWhy participation trophies and refusing to own your failures will wreck your futureThe discipline gap killing entrepreneurs: why working from home means most people failNotable QuotesAmber Fuhriman:"We collect these titles, these letters, and then they get stripped or we realize they didn't actually add anything to us.""You can want something all day, but if we're not willing to put in the work to get it, then we need to shift our focus to something that we are willing to accomplish."Chris Mitchell:"When I realized we couldn't have our own, my identity really quickly became what kind of a failure am I as a husband? 'cause I can't provide for my wife.""Focus on what really matters. If it doesn't really matter, don't worry about it. My first responsibility is to my wife. My second responsibility is to my daughter. Everything else falls behind that.""Why do people fail in my industry so often? Because they're able to work when, where, how, and if they want. And the trouble is they don't want."Call to Action (CTA)Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Guest InfoChris Mitchell is an independent sales broker for solar and former fitness industry executive. After being furloughed from a multi-billion dollar company during the 2020 pandemic, Chris transitioned from managing $24 million budgets and 400 employees to building his own business from home. He became a father at 45 through adoption and now prioritizes family while building a successful solar business. His journey from corporate executive to entrepreneur forced him to completely rebuild his identity from the ground up.Contact Chris:Website: https://go.powur.com/christopher-mitchell-centurion/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-mitchell-9b84b2a1?Email: chris.mitchell75@gmail.com