More Moss to the People

Guest: Bella MillerSummary of Episode:  Bella already has a lifetime of experience in her toolbox. She teaches yoga, reiki, meditation, works full time in strategy management, is a published author, and, oh, by the way, did I mention she is 24? Put on your OLD PERSON FACE now … “Young people today… they are so entitled.. they are so used to getting everything they want, they have always been told they can have everything.” Queue eye roll. “Are these the people that are going to be running our country when we get into retirement age?!?!”If Bella Miller is any indication as to the complexity and genuineness of the young people's minds today, then I say we are going to be in safe hands. How can we encourage deeper discussions in order to understand ONE ANOTHER more? The disparity of the ages doesn’t have to be what separates us… it can be what binds us. Opening up the lines of communication with the younger generation will only serve to help us all. And man! These kids are smart! Much smarter than I ever was. They have the world at their fingertips, so what responsibilities come with that? Let’s let Bella speak. I believe her. You will too. GUEST CONTACT INFORMATION: Websites: https://www.fishtailpublishing.org/our-bookshelf/on-becoming https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737508044** Trigger Warning: The experiences and reflections in her book may trigger emotionally or physically traumatic experiences related to topics including, but not limited to, self-harm and suicide, sexual violence and rape, pregnancy and abortion, emotional and physical abuse, and toxic relationships. Please practice care as you read and take time to honor yourself and the experiences of others. Instagram: @bellamillerpoetry LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bellamiller13/SPECIAL OFFER FROM BELLA: All More Moss to the People listeners/viewers will get 15% off my book or presale for my ebook using the code MOREMOSS. (The ebook will likely be the more accessible format for those outside the US).TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:What Bella learned with a 5 month stint in Australia when she was 18. Bella wrote a poem titled, "How can I be only 22 and feel this tired?" PREACH!Last year when her book was published, she felt she could finally slow down since she had the go-go-go pace since the age of 15.After graduating school and starting to work, Bella had no designated next milestones for the first time. How did that make her feel? Allowing herself just to be and not have to produce something. Has felt the pressure to do and be, finding a significant other, having an awesome job, to move.Bella’s life at 15, hit rock bottom. Depression. Went to bed and didn’t want to get up in the morning. Didn’t want to live. Trial and error for 8 years.“My dreams became my life jacket. What can help me dream and invite love into my heart and have hope in myself?” Pressures on young people today. “Not being enough is my biggest anxiety”. Bella recommends how we as elders can support the younger generations better: BELIEVE in them when they ask for support and want to share their dreams, wishes and wants. Offer a “Yes, I believe you. That makes so much sense. It's not going to be easy but how can I help you?”

Guest: Beth Lease Title of Episode: “Divorce was the gift I didn’t know I needed.” Summary of Episode: “Divorce was the gift I didn’t know I needed”. Stepping back, today Beth can see that her divorce was a piece of the beautiful tapestry of her life. Through hardship, therapy and creativity, Beth has found that her voice truly does make a difference in this world. And now she is helping other women to discover theirs as well… all through the medium of podcasting. Come listen in while we chat about tuning into the power of our own thoughts and how miraculous things can occur when we pay close attention to our bodies and our thoughts and to not allow divorce, life or ‘things’ to take away our voices. Isn’t it time you raised your voice too? Guest Contact Information:Podcast: So, I Got Divorced (I have since changed the name to Chase What You Love. This link goes to the trailer of So, I Got divorced)- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5Xpor1vIHx3HvKyh6TaCqi?si=8dc10ba1c9fc481c LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethgraylease/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravenhairchica/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beth.gray.50/ Join my Facebook Group for divorced women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/433444788315414TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:Beth is a single mom, holding a full time job, doing all the things AND she is super kind and professional and easy to work with. “So, I got a divorce” was the name of her original podcast.Healing process, wants to support other women. Sharing her experiences with isolation and not having her own support when she needed it. Life coaching was a game changer for her. Big bummer to continue talking about her divorce. Thank goodness for therapy. What does the Five of Cups in Tarot have to do with the tapestry of your  life? Best ideas come while in the shower or driving.Now Beth is happy and proud of how far she’s come. Now helping other women find their voices through podcasting.Advocating for myself. loving myself. Tips to get more comfortable with your own voice.. tune into your own thoughts.  Mindfulness of the thought. Interrupt negative thoughts. Being gentle and paying attention to your body.Your voice does matter. “Everybody’s already heard all this. I don’t have anything new to say on a topic”. Not true. Nobody has experienced life like you through your perspective or voice. “Divorce was the gift I didn’t know I needed”. There is life waiting, come join my story. You're not alone. Contact Information for Komeil Asli,  Podcast Production Manager:Komeil Asli Freelance UI/UX Designer + front end Developer. komeil.asli@gmail.com 

Host: Åsa Nilsson Title of Episode: What lie has to die for a truth to be born?  Summary of Episode: What if the work of self realization never stops? What if you think you have ‘this down’ only to find your truth is leaking out someplace else? Our truths always come out … either intentionally or unintentionally. Listen in while I share what I have now discovered about my own people pleasing ways and how it's rearing its head in my podcasting. I promise. I will keep revealing my truths to you so that you KNOW you are not alone. None of us are. We grow together and this movement is for all of us. Host Contact Information:www.moremosstothepeople.comTAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: Thank you for listening and being along on this movement/ journey with me. Here I am… people pleasing, showing all signs of codependency, back bending, self abandoning… AGAIN! I thought I was done with that! HA!Time to re-read ‘Boundary Boss’! My codependency has re-surfaced in another way now, my podcasting. You need my help? Magical words to me. Me looking at the time and worrying about you, the listener, not having the time to listen in on a long episode so I push along and think I know what your needs are when I have absolutely NO IDEA what your needs are. Only YOU do. The behaviour pattern of co-dependency. “Our family, like many families, was a perfect storm of covert communication and emotional dysfunction. My parents both came from families that avoided open discussions about anything painful or problematic. And there’s the heart of the matter: ineffective communications skills lead to weak or disordered boundary skills.” - Terri Cole, Boundary Boss, pg. 17. I grew up and still am the peacemaker. Over compensated for the lack of effective communication the only way I knew how, by distracting and deflecting the problems. “My cracks are being revealed to me”.  “I therapized myself.”“ This podcast is helping me to heal”. How to feel and become free?  What am I willing to give up in order to be free? I don’t have the answers. Nope, I sure don’t. What do you KEEP saying you’re going to do, ‘one day’. That day is now. Speak the truth. “If I have a truth, will I dare to share it?” Only you can answer that… as much as I’d like to answer it FOR you (haha) but I truly do want you to discover that for yourself. Then share it.Mentioned in this episode:Boundary Boss, Terri Cole. https://boundarybossbook.com/Contact Information for Komeil Asli,  Podcast Production Manager:Komeil Asli Freelance UI/UX Designer + front end Developer. komeil.asli@gmail.com