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"How to Raise an Adult" with Julie Lythcott-Haims
As dean at Stanford Julie Lythcott-Haims saw the damage that over parenting caused; students were lost, anxious and depressed. They didn’t know how to handle life when it didn’t go their way. In this interview she provides an alternate view of how to raise our kids to be self-sufficient. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. We invite you to join us on the journey toward raising the next generation of strong, resilient adults! For the full episode go to https://thecommonparent.com and for more on Julie including the books she has written please check her out at https://www.julielythcotthaims.com and @jlythcotthaims. Enjoy!
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