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Parenting Teens Unfiltered: Lying and Gaslighting with Dr. Deborah Vinall

Season 9, Ep. 69

Welcome to the NEW podcast all about parenting teens with Cat & Nat. Each week we are going to go over topics that you need to know and bring an expert to break down an important topic. New episodes every Monday, go subscribe wherever you listen to your podcasts.


Teenagers lie, A LOT, but when should we be concerned about lying? We brought in Dr. Deborah Vinall to help answer these questions (and more) that are top of every teen parents mind. Dr. Vinall is a Doctor of Psychology, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a certified EMDR and Brainspotting practitioner. She helped us understand the #1 reason teens lie, when lying becomes a problem, listening to your intuition and what it means to be gaslighted by your teen. For more amazing insight follow Dr. Vinall @traumatherapydoc and https://drdeborahvinall.com/.


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This podcast is presented by The Common Parent. The all-in-one parenting resource you need for your teens & tweens. We've uncovered every parenting issue, so you don't have too.


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