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Hit your limit? The 5 Doable Steps to Setting Realistic Boundaries

Ep. 4

Feel like you just don’t have the capacity to get to “all the things”? You’re a hard worker - yet secretly you often feel like you’re falling short of what you know you are capable of?


It’s time to set some boundaries. But how do you know exactly when and how to speak up, without feeling guilty or unclear?


Boundaries don’t make you a jerk, and their purpose is not to push people away. Boundaries create a framework to lean into the things you really care about and live life on your own terms. 


In this episode, Karlee Fain talks about modern boundaries, what they look like, and how to make them doable. Karlee’s steps to create custom boundaries can be immediately implemented into your life, without feeling cumbersome or scary. These steps are very doable, and once a regular part of your interactions with others, they will empower you to live on your own terms. 


Tune in to learn how to become a pro at saying “no,” and open up your capacity to focus on what really matters.  


In This Episode, You Will Learn: 

  • How you know when it’s time to elevate your boundaries. (4:45)
  • What 3 foundation mindsets that women with healthy boundaries already know. (9:40)
  • The 5 steps to custom create the boundary that’s perfect for you. (13:30)
  • What phrase to repeat to empower yourself as you implement boundaries. (26:20)


Resources Mentioned In This Episode: 

“How to Have Boundaries Like A Boss” FREE MASTER GUIDE: The 5 Steps to go from overscheduled to having time abundance (without feeling guilty about it)

Listen to Episode 2 about Popular Isolation

Yes Please by Amy Poehler


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