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save the work for the work (a re-release)
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Save the work until you get to the work.
So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice.
Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems?
How many times have you left a job and started planning for the next day? Or worse - deciding what you can finish when you get home?
Some jobs don’t allow you to leave the work at work - but I still encourage you to schedule in adequate time to take c are of yourself so you don’t burn out.
In the show abbott elementary - which I cant get enough of and think everyone should watch immediately it’s so funny and heartfelt - but in case you haven’t seen it I will butcher a beautiful moment in my retelling of an episode where the main character was trying to do everything in her power to “save the school” on her own and she kinda screws everything up in a comedy of errors and another teacher offers a beautiful monologue explaining that the more experienced teachers aren’t stepping into the line of fire because they don’t care but because they don’t want to burn out. We care so much we refuse to burn out. If we burn out who’s here for the kids?
And that’s something I had to learn the hard way as a teacher. I had to learn that in order to make the difference i was so desperate to make - I had to preserve my own wellbeing first. I had to create healthy boundaries or id work myself to the bone and never be able to recover.
If you take it like a staircase instead of a projectile, you’re less likely to fall straight back down to the earth.
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