Make Your Damn Bed

THE PROBLEM WITH SELF CARE + HOW TO DEAL WITH ITPROBLEM 1: NO SIMPLE DEFINITION But because being a human includes incredibly diverse experiences, and inherently dealing with messy and complicated things, we can safely assume that caring for yourself is bound to be a little messy and complicated, too. PROBLEM 2: CAPITALISM: People are constantly trying to bottle and sell you something that isn’t bottlable or sellable, so it will take some discretion and emotional literacy in being able to decipher what self care is actually worth a damn. PROBLEM 3: People treat self care like a goal, rather than a practice. Self care is not optional, but it is a practice you can improve upon. The challenge is, effective self care is an ongoing, ever changing practice of discovery and self soothing and accountability and challenge. The main problem I have with “self care” is there’s no simple or universal definition for it.KEY LESSON: The key to effective self care is KNOWING WHAT YOU REALLY NEED (underlying wants, impulses, and emotions) AND UNDERSTANDING THE BEST WAY TO GIVE THOSE UNDERLYING NEEDS ATTENTION.Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.netDonate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-fundsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Hey friend! I had a technical difficulty today + the episode I planned didn't upload properly but I have fixed it (I think) and it will be uploaded tomorrow, as normal. Hope you enjoy this repost of my passion for food in the meantime. I AM SORRY + I LOVE YOU. -- Julie

Some rules of thumb we review today include: "Is there a better use of my time?""Stress vs. Reward Analysis""It's okay to not finish a book you were reading for pleasure." "The braggers razor: the more someone brags, the less you should believe them.""Writing knife block: If struggling to understand something, write it down.""Opinions are earned, not owed." "Under-promise, and over-deliver."Rules of thumb should be applied in context. No rule should be applied universally! They're there to make life more rewarding and easier, so use them as a tool to help reduce over-analyzing things to death. THE SOURCES: https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razorshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201911/24-rules-of-thumb-for-a-better-lifehttps://thetotalliving.medium.com/the-astonishing-power-of-simple-rules-of-thumb-593c03e35aabDonate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.netDonate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-fundsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Feynman Razor: If you can't explain it to a 5 year old, you don't really understand it. The Luck Razor: Much of what we call "luck" is the macro result of thousands of micro actions. The Arena Razor: When faced with two paths, choose the path that puts you in the arena. Once you're in the arena, never take advice from people on the sidelines.The Optimist Razor: When choosing who to spend time with, prioritize spending more time with optimists.Taleb's "look the part" test: If forced to choose between two options of seemingly equal merit, choose the one that doesn’t look the part.The Gratitude Razor: The more you show gratitude, the more you see things to be grateful to. Invested vs. Spent test: Time is either invested or spent. The Rooms Razor: Choose the room where you aren't the smartest in it. The New Project Razor: Are you excited? Would you still do it if it was twice as long and half as successful?Uphill Decision Razor: Easy now, hard later OR hard now, easy later. Listen Mode: Listen more than you speak to people you disagree with. Lion Razor: Sprint + Rest, rather than expecting consistent work mode 8 hours a day. Young + Old Test: Make choices your 80 year old + 10 year old self would be proud of. Duck Test: If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it’s probably a duck. Just make sure you're judging true habitual characteristics + not context based outliers. THE SOURCE: https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razorsDonate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.netDonate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-fundsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Alder's Razor: If something cannot be settled by experiment or observation, then it is not worthy of debate.Sagan Standard: Positive claims require positive evidence, extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.Grice's Razor: Conversational implications are to be preferred over semantic context for linguistic explanations.Chekhov's Gun: If it appeared in foreshadowing, it will likely be used in the future. Epileptic Trees: The wild, off-the-wall theories that happen when you are looking for Chekov's gun. THE SOURCES: https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razorshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razorhttps://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChekhovsGunhttps://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/EpilepticTreeshttps://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WildMassGuessinghttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chekhov%27s_gun#:~:text=Chekhov's%20gun%20(or%20Chekhov's%20rifle,fired%20at%20some%20later%20point. Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.netDonate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-fundsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Occam's Razor: The simplest answer is often the answer. Hanlon's Razor: Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.Hitchen's Razor: I must provide evidence for my claim, rather than demand you provide evidence against it. and Hume's Guillotine: You can't derive a moral imperative from a factual description of nature. THE SOURCES: The Philosophical Razors: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razorHitchen's Razor: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitchens%27s_razorHanlon's Razor: https://thedecisionlab.com/reference-guide/philosophy/hanlons-razorHanlon's Razor Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hanlon%27s_razorHume's Guillotine Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Is%E2%80%93ought_problemReddit "Humes Guillotine" https://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/r1v09x/eli5_humes_guillotine/Reddit "is-ought" problem: https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-is-ought-problem-in-simple-understandable-termsDonate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.netDonate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-fundsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.