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Hello My Name is …. How to Nail a Confident Self-Introduction

Season 5, Ep. 72

 "Who are you, and what does your company pay you to do?"

In this episode, Mel and Michelle discuss the research and work of Susan Colantuono about how women can step into their Personal Greatness by introducing themselves confidently and memorably. This is so much more than a lesson in developing an elevator pitch, it is a coaching masterclass in talking about what you do and why it matters.

 

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    30:25||Season 7, Ep. 166
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    33:12||Season 7, Ep. 165
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    53:00||Season 7, Ep. 164
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    38:55||Season 7, Ep. 163
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    25:44||Season 7, Ep. 162
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    31:59||Season 7, Ep. 161
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