How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

I believe in you.I will always love you.I am always here for you.How often do you say any of these things to your children?The truth is, it’s probably less you’d like to admit, and you’re not alone. As parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day of parenting, that we forget to give our kids the affirmation and reassurance they want and need from us.In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share ten things that you can start saying to your children right now to build self-belief, confidence and resilience.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:57 - What is confirmation bias?05:14 - Tell me more about…08:22 - Big emotions can be tricky10:07 - I like the way you…12:20 - I’m always here when you need me14:59 - Each day I am learning more about you17:06 - I am grateful I am your parent because…18:37 - Within you is your greatest self💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Have you and your family made New Year resolutions?And how many have you broken already?I love making resolutions. It’s the highlight of my year. But statistics show that most New Year resolutions are broken, so you are not alone! However, making resolutions, even if we break them, can still be super valuable for our personal growth and in building confidence, especially in our kids.In today’s episode I will show you how to set intentions and make realistic, achievable resolutions. I will explain how you can give yourself the best chance of succeeding, but also talk through why it’s ok to break your resolutions.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:35 - The highlight of my year02:26 - The 10 most popular resolutions07:06 - Intentions nurtures habits of success08:53 - I am capable of doing hard things12:20 - Empowering children with agency15:30 - Use your imagination19:41 - Confidence is experiential21:52 - The world is better because you are in it25:04 - Create a habit to reflect💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

As 2025 draws to a close, I thought the best way to round out another year of the podcast is to give you a compilation of our best bits and the best tips in one episode.Consider this your How Not to Screw Up Your Kids cheat sheet for 2025!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Rage Against the Screen04:27 - Empowering Children with Disabilities11:11 - Generation Zombie15:56 - Raising Happy ADHD Children24:50 - How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas from me and the team at How Not to Screw Up Your Kids. However you are celebrating, and whatever you’re doing, I hope you’re having some well earned time off, and getting some precious quality time with your loved ones.Just in case you need a few wise words of encouragement in your ear, here are some of the best bits from the last year of the podcast, taken from some of your most favourite episodes.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:51 - Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys11:46 - I Yell… Then I Cry… Then I Google ‘Gentle Parenting’16:05 - The Five Things All Children Need28:08 - Building Children and Teens’ Self Belief and Confidence31:00 - From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Our children are sponges. They absorb our energy.So when we start our day with a bang, that rubs off, and our kids will be unbalanced from the get go. And that just sets us all up for a difficult day, doesn’t it?So, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share my top tips on how to set up your day for calm, cooperation and compassion.I will give you 5 things that you can do at the start of your day, and 2 things to do at the end, and you can start them right now!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:30 - Less bang, more fizz02:38 - The wake up rule05:26 - Screen time embargo07:20 - Early movement09:51 - Get ready11:14 - Today is a new day15:00 - One lesson learnt💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Are you close to your children?Do you still feel connected as they get older?Do you spend as much time with them as you want?I’m going to guess that you answered no to at least one of these questions. Am I right?Today I am joined by Emma and Eleanor from The Reconnected, to discuss the importance of making time to connect with our children… and ourselves.We talk about breathwork and why we all need to make time for ourselves, because if we can’t show up for ourselves, we won’t be able to show up for our kids.We also discuss the challenges of raising kids in today’s world, where technology and screens can feel like barriers disconnecting us from our children.And we talk about the confusing amount of information online, and why it’s almost impossible to get the right support if you don’t know where to look for it.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because this is a bumper seasonal episode to help you navigate the Christmas break with your kids…More from The Reconnected:The Website: https://thereconnected.com/ The Book: https://thereconnected.com/reconnected-parenting-book/ Get the App: https://thereconnected.com/app/ Highlights from this episode:02:43 - The terrible 2s06:28 - I am going to nail this11:52 - Modern life is set up for disconnection16:16 - I CAN have time for myself20:30 - Breathwork is not a last resort25:04 - Tell me how to fix it30:03 - A rock and a hard place34:22 - Who are your 5 most inspiring people?39:35 - Connection is always the solution43:01 - Repairing the damage49:01 - Give yourself permission💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to?It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer?In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:12 - Cooperation is transactional03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings04:47 - Explain why08:10 - Focus on effort and process10:55 - Self Care14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings16:08 - Challenge just enough19:18 - Offer choices where possible💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Does your child struggle with their confidence?Do you wish you could help?Well you’re in luck, because confidence is a learned skill, and there are many easy things you can do to help build self-confidence in your kids.In this episode, I’m going to give you a 10 day plan, which you can start using right now, to help develop those skills and improve confidence. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and confidence is just about giving the right parts of the brain a workout - from taking the lead on tasks to positive reinforcement, it’s easy if you know how!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:02 - One focus per day03:16 - The Seven Cs11:48 - Day 1: A wall of fame14:55 - Day 2: Encourage self-talk to be more growth oriented16:43 - Day 3: Ask for their help19:28 - Day 4: Give descriptive praise21:34 - Day 5: Reflective on 3 good things and 1 learning22:56 - Day 6: Set aside time to play25:46 - Day 7: Acknowledge their feelings27:06 - Day 8: Ask them to do something28:43 - Day 9: Stage appropriate choices29:46 - Day 10: Reflect on the last 10 days💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Do your children resent you?Do you resent your children?How good are you at managing this?Resentment is a funny thing. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, but actually, it can be the result of many small little events that build up and up until it overflows.Then, you find yourself arguing with your children, or worse, that resentment just continues to simmer, and it becomes harder to resolve.We’ve all heard that old saying that prevention is better than cure, so in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some of the most effective ways you can avoid resentment, and give you some really useful tips to help you put these into practice.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:50 - Communicate your needs09:19 - Manage expectations14:15 - Learn how to delegate💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.