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Did You Break Up Over AIM?

This week on the pod, Tay + Whit are taking it all the way back to middle school unpacking the trauma—the strange machinations of makeout parties, the quiet agony of not fitting in, and the eerie realization that our preteen years were basically a shot-for-shot remake of Pen15. From AIM away messages to cafeteria politics, this episode is a love letter to our most cringey, formative years.


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