How Are We 40?

The New York Times just published “35 Rules for Modern Dating,” and we have thoughts. In Part 1, we break down the first half of the list — from therapy-culture oversharing to why texting has turned dating into a psychological strategy game, and the complicated timing of first-time sex. At this point, modern dating is basically a social experiment happening in iMessage. OUR INSTAGRAMOUR TIKTOKOUR YOUTUBE

You do not need to watch The Valley. We already did.This week, Tay + Whit recap Season 1, Episode 3 — the one where Janet calmly flips the narrative, Jesse cosplays as a Capri billionaire in an aggressive headband, and Kristen Doute is, once again, both chaotic and correct. We unpack the game of telephone that explodes into accusations of racism, gaslighting, and “crazy Kristen” weaponization. It’s a doozy. OUR INSTAGRAMOUR TIKTOKOUR YOUTUBE

This week, we talk with journalist Amil Niazi about her new memoir Life After Ambition and the uncomfortable realization a lot of millennials are having: the career we centered our lives around isn’t centering us back. Raised on Lean In and the girlboss industrial complex, millennial women were taught to define themselves by their careers. Now that many of us have finally reached the top of the mountain, we’re asking… is this actually the life we wanted? We discuss career burnout, and why so many women are quietly reevaluating their relationship to achievement, identity, and self-worth.OUR INSTAGRAMOUR TIKTOKOUR YOUTUBE

You do not need to watch The Valley. We already did. Consider this your cultural catch-up before the internet discourse inevitably pops off when the new season premieres.This week Tay + Whit head back to the suburbs to unpack nipple-gate (yes that’s a real thing), why Jax Taylor treats everyone else’s personal life as his business, and the deeply weird social politics of late-30s couple friendships. Somehow, we also get genuinely honest conversations about fertility timelines, marriage dynamics, and postpartum — which frankly we did not expect from this particular cinematic universe.OUR INSTAGRAMOUR TIKTOKOUR YOUTUBE

Today we’re joined by Elise Peterson, founder of COOL Moms. When Elise became the first in her circle to experience pregnancy, she wrestled with the fear of losing her identity postpartum. Seeking guidance, she turned to women she admired for radically honest conversations. These talks turned into COOL Moms — a podcast and community built around the conversations women actually want to have about motherhood.We talk about the part no one prepares you for: the identity shift. Not just becoming a parent, but becoming a different version of yourself overnight. We get into loneliness after kids, dating as a mom, whether mothers are allowed to still be sexual beings, and why modern womanhood feels like juggling 14 roles and doing none of them to our liking.OUR INSTAGRAMOUR TIKTOKOUR YOUTUBE

We’ve officially entered the Bravo Cinematic Universe and regret nothing. Tay + Whit recap the premiere of The Valley — but don’t worry, you absolutely do not need to watch the show. We did that for you. We explain who these people are, why they’re all batshit, and how Jax Taylor has somehow become a suburban father with opinions about other people’s reproductive timelines. Consider this your cultural cheat sheet — now you can understand the internet discourse without ever having watched. Featuring Jax Taylor, Brittany Cartwright, and Kristen Doute of the Vanderpump Rules extended universe.