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Honestly ... I'm Lonely
Honestly Aran is Lonely
Ep. 7
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Today, Kate talks to her brother Aran. Aran who wrote the theme music for this podcast, he is breathtakingly honest about his loneliness, loneliness from moving to a country town, his marriage ending, even how he felt in primary school when he moved to a different country town as a child and didn't fit in. He has dipped in and out of being lonely over his life, as have most of us. He has really thought about the answers to his questions, and we think you are going to really lean in to his story.
The different loneliness of leaving a relationship, even when it is the best thing for you, it is still lonely ... Kate and Aran talk about "who gets the friends?" when a long term relationship ends, and how "everyone takes a side if you are honest". And they ask themselves if there is still a "stigma" still that comes with divorce?
They talk about the loneliness of being in a long term relationship that is not a connected relationship, and how achingly hard that is. He reflects on the times he felt connected to community and family and times he didn't.
They discuss if you can be in a relationship without a common purpose, like footy or religion?
The big emotions that come with relationships being severed, and how horrid it makes you feel.
He has some good ways to combat loneliness, and how to create a sense of community around yourself.
The App Aran talks about is How We Feel.
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