Honestly ... I'm Lonely

It is Friday therapy with Deli and Kate today, they chat about the wind that Melbourne and Victoria have had over the last week. Kate visits a shopping centre she hasn't been to since she was 18, and that brings up some memories, but what they are actually here for is to talk about "taking up space!" How do we take up space? Kate has too many questions, Deli has great answers as always. The book Deli mentions is People Skills by Robert Bolton. We talk mid-life crisis, learning to ask for what we want, and they even talk about Christmas! If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

This week on the podcast we talk about Fathers Day, so often the "big days" are full of emotion and loneliness, joy, disappointment, saddness, laughter or maybe all of that! These days are tricky for lots of us, and amazing for others of us. Today Garry and Kate talk about Fathers Day, and Kate listens to Garry talk about it from a dad's point of view. Garry has two adult children and explores with us what becoming a dad means to him. Garry talks about how hard it is to be a vulnerable around other men. Kate learns lots of things and of course adds some of her own thoughts in.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

Friday therapy is back, and today we talk about how to make yourself feel "better". Kate talks about her dislike of self-care or the word self-care. But Deli talks about great ways to help yourself feel better, that are not self-care! How do we find support. Deli talks about making a list in the good times to use in the not so good times. Plus lots of other good tips! Deli talks about why we go into siege mentality or shock. Oh and the dog barks! If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

Today, Kate and Deli talk about what happens when you are mis- characterised, which can cause, we think, intense loneliness. What happens when you get bullied, or excluded, or people think things of you that are not true? How do you deal with that? What happens to your self-esteem? What happens when you fall out with someone you love, and you feel they misjudged you? How do you "re-group" after being attacked, or ostracised? How do you feel when you hear that people have been gossiping about you? The importance of having someone on your side and to be beside you when you feel vulnerable. How do we feel ok with who we are when others seem not to be ok with us? Deli as usual has lots of wisdom for Kate's constant questions. How do we set up boundaries? What happens when we have different values to our loved ones? If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

Today, Deli and Kate are back with their final in the grief trilogy, but before they get into that they talk about Deli's latest hard rubbish rescue, and being creative or in Kate's case making her home "cute."Today the gals talk about how hard it can be to downsize or, de clutter and dive into the reasons why it is hard. Why "things" are important and why they sometimes they are not just "things" . Deli of course has ideas and wisdom.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

Friday therapy is back and Kate and Deli are back talking about grief, today is the second in our three part grief pod. They talk about how hard it is to study grief, how individual grief can be, and how important it is to share the stories of grief. Kate asks Deli when should you talk to a therapist about grief. They talk about the grief of being estranged from someone you love. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

Today after many requests we start our little series on Grief. Kate and Deli chat about how there are no stages and right or wrong way to grieve ... they also did not get through all they wanted to say, so will be back with more on Friday TherapySend us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx

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Today, Kate chats with a high school friend, Carl. Carl talks about connection and belonging as a high school band kid, and then the loneliness of leaving the band and heading home. They reminisce about high school and how they struggled to find their identity. They talk long and hard about the connectivity of music and concerts. They bonded over A-Ha as kids and today Ball Park Music as adults, and continue to bond over music and the connection it can bring.Carl talks about loneliness being a measure of unkept expectations. He has learnt to expect less, and it has made him happier. They are two very curious humans and talk about curiosity and learning and examining why things make you feel the way they do. How you can be proud of loneliness. The pressure of the big days like Christmas, or Mother's Day and how we can create our own loneliness sometimes by thinking things have "to be" a special way or the way they always were.Woven in and out of the chatting, Carl answers the lonely pod questions with refreshing honesty. We hope you enjoy!Feel free to rate and review this podcast if you like it.Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/