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If you’re fiercely independent, struggle to let people get too close or find yourself losing interest when someone becomes emotionally available, you might recognise yourself in the Ice Queen archetype.But the Ice Queen isn’t cold.Often, she feels deeply. She has simply learned that keeping people at a distance feels safer than risking being hurt again.In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I’m breaking down the Ice Queen, one of the five Love Blocking Archetypes from my Why Am I Still Single? quiz.We’ll explore:Who the Ice Queen is and how she shows up in relationshipsWhy independence can become emotional armourWhy you might pull away when someone gets closeHow heartbreak, betrayal or emotionally unavailable relationships can create this patternThe subconscious beliefs driving your behaviourWhy emotionally unavailable people can sometimes feel more attractive than secure onesWhy healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar or even boringHow to practise vulnerability without losing yourselfHow to start breaking these repeating relationship patternsYour conscious mind might want connection while your subconscious mind wants protection.So while you’re saying, “I want a healthy relationship,” another part of you might be saying:“Love leads to pain.”“People leave.”“I can only rely on myself.”“If I let someone in, I’ll get hurt.”Healing the Ice Queen isn’t about becoming less independent. It’s about learning that you can have boundaries without building walls, allow someone to love you without losing yourself and trust yourself enough to know you won’t abandon yourself again.WAYS TO WORK WITH ME✨ One-to-One CoachingPrivate coaching for successful midlife women ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love using my five-step BeYou Method.💕 The BeYou Blueprint CourseA step-by-step course to understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and start making relationship choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear.FREE RESOURCES💡 Take the Love Blocking Archetype QuizAre you the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer? Find out the hidden pattern that could be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want.💗 Book an Empowerment SessionReady to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again? We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want.ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS?InstagramFacebookWebsite

Why You Keep Falling in Love With Potential: The Fixer ArchetypeAre you always the one supporting, encouraging and trying to help your partner become the person you know they could be?You may be the Fixer.The Fixer is caring, loyal and highly empathetic. She sees the best in people, but this can lead her to fall in love with someone’s potential rather than who they are today.She becomes their therapist, coach, cheerleader and emotional support system. She gives more, accepts less and hopes her love will eventually inspire them to change.In this episode, I explore:• Who the Fixer is and how this archetype behaves• Why being needed can feel like being loved• How childhood experiences and past relationships can create this pattern• The subconscious beliefs driving overgiving and rescuing• Why emotionally available partners can initially feel unfamiliar• How to stop taking responsibility for another adult• How to choose real, reciprocal love instead of potentialYou’ll also hear practical questions to help you recognise when you are fixing, step back from responsibility that is not yours and bring your attention back to your own needs.You do not need to fix somebody into loving you. Healthy love does not require you to earn your place by becoming indispensable.BEYOU BLUEPRINT BETA TESTERS WANTEDI’m looking for five successful women to become beta testers for my signature programme before I officially relaunch it in September.If you’ve experienced a breakup, divorce or painful relationship and you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns, this is for you.The six-week BeYou Blueprint will help you work through:♡ Your relationship patterns♡ Limiting beliefs♡ Boundaries♡ Self-worth♡ Needs and values♡ Your vision for the futureYou’ll receive:• Lifetime access to the course• Three private 30-minute coaching calls with me• A one-week implementation break• Practical exercises to create lasting changeYou’ll need to commit 60 to 90 minutes each week, complete the programme and provide honest feedback before the September relaunch.The supported beta investment is £555 instead of the full price of £999.DM me on Instagram: with the word BETA and I’ll share the full details.WAYS TO WORK WITH ME✨ One-to-One CoachingPrivate coaching for successful midlife women who are ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love.Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices.This is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same patterns, find herself again and build a life and relationship she truly loves.A limited number of private coaching spaces are available.💕 The BeYou Blueprint CourseA step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love.You’ll learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to start making choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear.FREE RESOURCES💡 Take the Love Blocking Archetype QuizFind out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer.Your result will help you understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want.💗 Book an Empowerment SessionIf you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session.We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want.ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS?Connect with me on Instagram:Visit my website:

The Lone Wolf: When independence becomes a barrier to loveAre you the woman everyone relies on, but you struggle to let anyone support you?In this episode of Healing With Teeling, I break down the Lone Wolf, the second-highest result from women who take my Love Archetype Quiz.The Lone Wolf does not necessarily want to be alone. She wants love, but somewhere along the way she learned that relying on other people can lead to disappointment. Her independence became her protection.This can show up as choosing emotionally unavailable men, considering long-distance relationships or pulling away when somebody kind and consistent enters your life. Calm feels unfamiliar, while uncertainty feels like attraction.In this episode, you’ll learn:• How the Lone Wolf behaves in dating and relationships• Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel safer• Where hyper-independence may come from• The subconscious beliefs keeping this pattern in place• How to accept support without losing your independence• What to do when you want to pull away from a safe personHealing the Lone Wolf is not about becoming less capable. It is about learning that you can have boundaries and closeness, freedom and commitment, and still receive love.WAYS TO WORK WITH ME✨ One-to-One CoachingPrivate coaching for successful midlife women ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love.Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices.A limited number of private coaching spaces are available.💕 Join The BeYou Blueprint CourseA step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love.Learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to make choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear.FREE RESOURCES💡 Take the Love Archetype QuizFind out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer, and understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck.💗 Book an Empowerment SessionIf you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session.We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want.ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS?InstagramFacebookWebsiteIf this episode supported you, please follow, rate and review Healing With Teeling.Share the episode to your stories and tag me so I can see you tuning in.

Are You Addicted to Love? The Love Addict Archetype ExplainedDo you become attached quickly, overthink every message or lose yourself when you meet someone you really like?You may be repeating the patterns of the Love Addict, the most common result from my Love Blocking Archetype Quiz.The Love Addict wants a loving, committed relationship. She wants someone she can trust, adore and share her life with. But fear of rejection, unresolved heartbreak and subconscious beliefs can lead her towards emotionally unavailable partners.In this episode, I explain:• The signs and behaviours of the Love Addict• Why you may confuse anxiety with chemistry• Why you become attached to someone’s potential• How overgiving and hiding your needs affect relationships• How childhood experiences can shape your relationship patterns• How an ex, divorce or co-parenting relationship may still affect your love life• What your subconscious mind is trying to protect you from• Practical ways to stop chasing love and start choosing yourself• How my five-step BeYou Method helps you become ready for healthy loveThe goal isn’t simply to find a new relationship.It’s to become a woman who trusts herself, communicates her needs and no longer abandons herself to be chosen.WAYS TO WORK WITH ME✨ One-to-One CoachingPrivate coaching for successful midlife women who are ready to heal after heartbreak or divorce, break unhealthy relationship patterns and create secure, lasting love.Using my five-step BeYou Method, we work on your subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, self-worth, boundaries and relationship choices.This is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same patterns, find herself again and build a life and relationship she truly loves.A limited number of private coaching spaces are available.💕 The BeYou Blueprint CourseA step-by-step course to help you understand your relationship patterns, rebuild your self-worth and become ready for healthy love.You’ll learn why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics and how to start making choices from confidence and self-trust rather than fear.FREE RESOURCES💡 Take the Love Archetype QuizFind out whether you are the Overachiever, Lone Wolf, Love Addict, Ice Queen or Fixer.Your result will help you understand the hidden pattern that may be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships or stopping you from creating the love you want.💗 Book an Empowerment SessionIf you’re ready to heal your relationship patterns and find yourself again, book an Empowerment Session.We’ll look at where you are now, what keeps repeating and the support you need to move towards the life and relationship you truly want.ARE WE CONNECTED ON SOCIALS?Connect with me on Instagram:Connect with me on Facebook:Visit my websiteIf this episode supported you today, I’d love you to follow, rate and review Healing With Teeling.And if you’re listening, share the episode to your stories and tag me so I can see you tuning in.

Episode 98: The BeYou Method. Break the Relationship Patterns Keeping You StuckHave you ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, lose yourself in relationships, or end up repeating the same painful cycle over and over again?The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you.The patterns you're experiencing are often driven by subconscious beliefs that were created long before you started dating. Until those beliefs change, your relationships rarely do.In this episode, I'm introducing my signature BeYou Method. The five-step coaching framework I use with my clients to help them stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create calm, secure love.If you've ever found yourself asking...• Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?• Why do I ignore red flags?• Why do I lose myself in relationships?• Why does love always feel so hard?...this episode is for you.Inside this episode you'll learn:• Why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns.• How subconscious beliefs shape your dating life.• The connection between childhood experiences, attachment and adult relationships.• Why awareness alone isn't enough to create lasting change.• The five stages of the BeYou Method.• How to reconnect with your authentic self so you can attract healthier relationships.• Why becoming more you is the key to creating secure love.The BeYou MethodBecome AwareGain clarity on what you truly want from your life and your relationships. Understand the patterns that have been running on autopilot.Explore Your PatternsUncover your attachment style, limiting beliefs and subconscious programming. Understand where your relationship patterns began and why they continue.Your BreakthroughUsing NLP, subconscious change work and nervous system regulation, replace old beliefs with new ones that support healthy, secure relationships.Own Your PowerRebuild self-worth, confidence and trust in yourself. Learn healthy boundaries and stop seeking validation from others.Unleash the Real YouBecome your authentic self. Create relationships from confidence instead of fear and attract love that feels calm, secure and aligned.Resources MentionedTake my free Love Blocking Archetype QuizBook an Empowerment SessionConnect with me:Website: https://www.rachelteeling.comInstagram @rachelteelingcoachingIf this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram and tell me which relationship pattern you've recognised in yourself.If you enjoyed today's episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs this conversation.

Blended Family Life: The Beautiful Chaos of Our First Family HolidayWhat if the life you're dreaming of is waiting on the other side of healing?In this personal episode, I'm taking you behind the scenes of our first big blended family holiday. From three teenage girls and plenty of chaos to moments of gratitude that reminded me just how far I've come, I'm sharing the reality of building a new family after heartbreak.Just a few years ago, my wedding had been cancelled, my heart was broken, and I couldn't imagine feeling this kind of peace again. This episode isn't just about a holiday. It's about the healing that made this life possible.I'll also share the inner work that helped me move from desperately searching for love to creating a healthy, secure relationship without losing myself.If you're wondering whether it's possible to trust again, love again, or build a happy future after heartbreak, this episode is for you.In this episode we cover:• Why our first blended family holiday was such an emotional milestone.• The reality of blending two families, including the beautiful moments and the chaos.• How heartbreak changed the direction of my life.• The biggest lessons I learned during my healing journey.• Why healing your relationship with yourself changes every relationship that follows.• The fears many single moms have about dating again.• Why your subconscious could be keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns.• How to begin creating the calm, secure love you truly deserve.Take my free Relationship Archetype Quiz and uncover your biggest love block:https://www.rachelteeling.com/why-am-i-still-single-quizReady to stop repeating the same relationship patterns aand transform the relationship with yourself?Book an Empowerment Session and let's uncover what's keeping you stuck so you can create the healthy, lasting relationship you truly want.https://www.rachelteeling.com/book-an-empowerment-sessionConnect with me:Website:https://www.rachelteeling.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/rachelteelingcoaching

Dating App Fatigue? Why Real-Life Connection Still Matters with Alana NolanAre you tired of endless swiping, disappointing dates and wondering where all the good people have gone?In this week's episode of Healing with Teeling, I sit down with Alana Nolan, founder of Single Mingle UK, one of the UK's fastest-growing singles event communities, to talk about why so many singles are stepping away from dating apps and choosing to meet people in real life instead.Alana shares what she's learned from bringing together thousands of singles across the UK and why genuine connection often happens when we stop hiding behind a screen and start putting ourselves back into the real world.We discuss:• Why dating apps can leave you feeling exhausted, frustrated and disconnected• The "someone better might be out there" mindset that's sabotaging modern dating• Why chemistry can't always be judged from a profile picture• The biggest mistakes singles make when trying to meet someone• How confidence grows when you step outside your comfort zone• Why many people are still single despite wanting a relationship• How Singles Mingle events help people connect naturally without awkward speed dating• The surprising friendships and communities that are formed through singles events• Why having a shopping list of requirements may be keeping you stuck• What dating trends Alana is seeing in 2026 and beyondOne of my favourite takeaways from this conversation is that many of the good singles are sitting at home believing there are no good singles left.If you've been feeling disillusioned with dating, this episode is a reminder that connection still happens. Love still happens. Sometimes it starts with one brave decision to leave the house, start a conversation and put yourself in a room full of possibilities.Connect with AlanaSingle Mingle UK hosts relaxed, fun singles events for people aged 30+ across the North West and is expanding into Birmingham later this year.Instagram:@singlemingleukFacebook:@singlemingleukReady to Break the Patterns Keeping You Single?Take my free Love Blocking Archetype Quiz and discover the subconscious pattern that may be holding you back from the healthy relationship you want:https://www.rachelteeling.com/why-am-i-still-single-quizOr book an Empowerment Session to explore how coaching can help you create the love life you deserve:https://www.rachelteeling.com/book-an-empowerment-sessionIf you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with a friend who is ready to stop swiping and start creating real connection.

Could Your Health Be Sabotaging Your Relationships?We often assume relationship struggles are emotional.We blame stress.We blame dating.We blame our past.We blame the other person.But what if part of the problem is happening inside your body?In this fascinating conversation, I sit down with Women's Cancer Prevention Specialist, Environmental Medicine Practitioner and Health Coach Chloe Jane to explore the surprising connection between your health, hormones, stress levels, gut health and relationships.We discuss why so many women feel exhausted, irritable, emotional and disconnected without realising their body may be contributing to how they feel.Inside this episode we explore:• How gut health affects your mood, personality and relationships• The impact of stress on your nervous system and emotional wellbeing• Why hormonal imbalances can affect connection, communication and intimacy• The hidden toxins many women are exposed to every day• Why so many women dismiss their own health needs until something goes wrong• Simple changes that can improve your wellbeing and help you show up differently in your relationshipsThis conversation is a powerful reminder that healthy relationships don't just start with emotional healing.They also start with looking after the body that carries you through life.Connect with Chloe:Instagram: @clocohealthInstagram: @weareclocoofficialIf this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.To learn more about working with Rachel, book an Empowerment Session:https://www.rachelteeling.com/book-an-empowerment-sessionTake the Love Blocking Archetype Quiz:https://www.rachelteeling.com/why-am-i-still-single-quiz