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Suzi Ruffell: ‘I thought I wouldn’t become a parent because I’m gay’

Season 16, Ep. 31

Stand-up comedian, podcaster and author Suzi Ruffell joins us for this week’s episode!


Suzi tells Gi about the lack of queer representation she saw growing up and how it made her feel shame around her sexuality for a long time.


Plus, she opens up about navigating motherhood as someone with anxiety and the ongoing challenge of learning not to catastrophise.


Suzi's brilliant new book 'Am I Having Fun Now? is available NOW! And she is of course back on tour with 'The Juggle' from September. Check it out!

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