Gospel Centered Marriage
Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Decision Making - Part 3
It is one thing to “see” a fashion faux pas or the spin on a curve ball. It is another thing to be able to know what to “do” in response to either; what fashion correction to make or hot to adjust your swing. In the last chapter, we gained eyes to see several of the most common misconceptions or points of confusion about decision making and God’s will. In this chapter, we will strive to learn what to do with that information.
As we walk into this conversation, there is a dilemma we must address. Most discussions of decision making, secular or Christian, tend to be highly linear (step to step); but most moments of decision making do not lend themselves to a thorough process. This accounts for why we sometimes think that God’s will is only relevant for the “big decisions” of life – those both warranting and allowing the time for prayer, research, and deliberation.
This dilemma is only exacerbated by marriage. We want to be “on the same page” with our spouse in our decision making, even our personal decisions. However, this would require an additional step of consultation that is either cumbersome or not feasible to many decisions.
In this material, we will use “steps” (but in a loose sense of that word). However, as we discuss each “step” strong consideration will be given to how each “step” can be incorporated into a lifestyle. Guidance will also be given to how to develop “standard healthy practices” in marriage to allow for greater unity in personal decision making.
Here are the steps for personal decision making we’ll use as the major divisions in this chapter.
- Live with Your “Yes” on the Table for God
- Identify What You’re Stewarding for God
- Manage the Basics with Excellence
- Watch for Challenges and Opportunities
- Pursue the Necessary Information and Counsel
- Seek God’s Guidance through Study and Prayer
- Decide with Confidence and Freedom