Gospel Centered Marriage
Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Communication - Part 1
Many couples who sincerely try to improve their communication fail to get the results proportionate to their effort. The result is that they feel defeated or get angry. From this they either begin to blame “incompatibility” or their spouse. Periodically they feel convicted and commit to “try harder” at what didn’t work before.
The purpose of this chapter is to help you discover common misconceptions or oversights about communication that prevent sincere effort from producing marital unity. These are diagnostic assessments meant to prevent your current efforts (evidenced by going through this seminar) from being rendered ineffective by the same false assumptions or oversights that undermined previous efforts.
Each point is followed by “Couple Discussion Questions.” It is not expected that the two of you are going to have 60 conversations (20 points multiplied by 3 questions per point), but that you can have one or two conversations about each area that significantly impacts your marriage. The ability to have these conversations without defensiveness or attacking each other is a mark of the humility essential for effective implementation of anything else you’ll learn.