Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explores what it truly means to love another person as they are — to "love Other as Other." He reflects on how genuine understanding of others begins with a willingness to look honestly at ourselves. Examining traits associated with the Autism Spectrum, he reveals how many of us share more of these qualities than we might expect. Dr. Reedy then invites listeners to "pan out" — drawing on personal and cultural history — to suspend judgment and encounter others, and themselves, with fresh eyes.

This Ask Me Anything episode, usually reserved for the Inner-Circle subscribers, is open the public as a sneak peak of what you will get by subscribing to the Inner Circle audience. Dr. Reedy takes questions from the Inner Circle and from the live audience on questions about developing a daily practice to stay conscious and aware of our issues. He talks about how the grief of losing connections with people we are close to as we grow and progress is a necessary part of the heroic journey, of the process of individuation. He explains that the peace we seek is found when we learn to love and accept ourselves (our “horrible, rotten self”) just as we are. He explains that this acceptance of who we are is , paradoxically, the catalyst for growth and change.

Dr. Reedy explores grief and the loss we experience beyond the death of someone we love. He talks about how much of therapy is grief work: losing old ideas, old friends, parts of ourselves. He explains that growth requires us to accept the temporal nature of things. He explains that most of our learning is really un-learning. He explains that how much of our loss is grieving versions of ourselves as we take steps closer to the authentic self.

Dr. Reedy goes through the 12-steps and explains the psychological principles behind them. He focuses on surrender, guilt and chain, and the power of being accepted by the group. He explains that our defenses, which we put in place to protect us, hurt us, and the people that we love. He explains that much of what we are medicating with our addictions is related to guilt and chain. And he explains that we have accepted the wrong answers to lies most important questions, and that the key to our growth is a transformation of consciousness, reconsidering the things that we have been taught.

Dr. Reedy talks about how the defenses we create to protect ourselves hurt the people closest to us. He explains that it is the defense, not the simple mistake, that causes the trauma. He talks about how intentions are neither good nor bad. He explains that as our consciousness increases, we will have more capacity to hold the emotions and pain of those we love, and this is how we bring greater healing to the lives of those we love. He explains why skills can only serve our level of consciousness and unless that changes, we will weaponize our skills in the services of self-protection.

Dr. Reedy sits down Co-Founder Liz Reitman of Other Parents Like Me. Liz shares her story and how OPLM serves parents navigating challenges that stem from a child struggling with mental health and addiction. Liz shares her own journey and how connecting with other parents filled a need that other resources didn't.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Jackie Woodside, a USA TODAY and five-time international Amazon bestselling author, TEDx speaker, international trainer, and professional coach. Jackie Woodside is a USA TODAY and five-time international Amazon bestselling author, TEDx speaker, international trainer, and professional coach. A former therapist turned coach, she is the founder of the Conscious Living Summit and the Conscious Living Podcast. Jackie has spent decades studying and working with the leading edges of the human potential movement. We discuss her new book, Money Vibe and how elevating your consciousness is the single most effective way to bring about the changes in your financial life and in the success you desire.  

Dr. Reedy explains that seeking to change behavior, reduce symptoms, or get rid of old defense may not be the best route to take early in our process. He explains that we must first listen to the messages these behaviors have for us and accept ourselves so that we may transform at a deeper level.