Share

cover art for Raising without Racism - Santis O’Garro The Caribbean Dub

everymum

Raising without Racism - Santis O’Garro The Caribbean Dub

Season 2, Ep. 3

In this episode of everymum the podcast season 2, sponsored by WaterWipes, we have a much needed honest conversation about Raising our children without Racism with Santis O’Garro @thecaribbeandub


Born in Montserrat, Santis moved to Ireland when she was a young child in the 90’s with her family. and realised that this country saw her skin colour as something different, and for some, it was an invitation for racist abuse.


Now in her 30’s and raising 2 children as a single parent in Dublin, she is a role model of strength, courage, compassion and empowerment as she speaks openly about the value of raising our kids in a world without racism, about how she took control over her life and her happiness, about how she addressed her mental health challenges and her financial security by becoming Debt-Free.


Santis’s honest experience is essential listening. Ending discrimination starts in our homes, and in the intentions, actions and beliefs of parents. Our children are watching and so at everymum we are committed to doing our best to listen, to educate ourselves, to share more diverse experiences of motherhood and to raise without racism. 


For more inspiration and connecting with Santis follow her here

 

This episode and all episodes in season 2 are kindly supported by Waterwipes.


As creators of the worlds purest baby wipes, containing only two ingredients, 99.9% water and a drop of fruit extract, WaterWipes are purer than cotton wool and water. They contain no artificial fragrance, soap, silicones or colours, and they cleanse and instantly hydrate sensitive, newborn and premature babies skin. 96% of midwives consider WaterWipes to be the purest baby wipe* and in fact they are the only baby wipe approved by Skin Health Alliance, Allergy UK and have the National Eczema Association of America’s seal of acceptance.


Together WaterWipes and everymum we are committed to changing the conversation for parents – by helping take those first steps towards greater confidence and support throughout those early days for you and every mum.


Subscribe now to join our community of 220,000 mums in Ireland to receive your FREE GIFT BAG and a whole lot of support.


Join everymum on Instagram and Facebook.

More episodes

View all episodes

  • 2. Freezing your eggs in your 30s with Ali Ryan

    53:26
    This week's guest is media mogul Alexandra Ryan, owner and brains behind the incredible Irish media brand, Goss Media. Ali joins me this week to talk all things egg freezing. Having undergone the process twice in recent years, Ali knows the ins and outs. We discuss her motivation for embarking on the process, the financial implications, the side effects of taking so many hormones, the physical aftermath of the retrieval and so much more. One of the things I love about Ali is that she's always so transparent and honest about things, and her egg retrieval process is no different – she's showing the realities of every step of the journey and is doing so to encourage others to talk about it more openly. She believes there's an unnecessary shame around not reaching those societally imposed milestones we all know exist, and she's doing things her own way. I loved this chat and I know you will too.
  • 1. Where mental illness and motherhood converge, with Sophie White

    56:35
    TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide/suicidal ideation. My guest this week, and our first back for Season 14, is Sophie White. A prolific and massively successful author and podcaster, Sophie is also mother to three boys between 10 and 4 and has battled with mental illness since she was in her early 20s. As Sophie says herself in the episode, it's not often someone can pinpoint exactly when they became mentally ill, but she can – a drug-induced psychosis in 2007 led to her being hospitalised and later diagnosed with Bipolar 2. We chat about everything from gender stereotypes and how trucks and cars just seemed to manifest in her home in the same way dolls and nail polish manifested in mine, to how she coped through multiple serious mental illness relapses. We also touched on the issue of responsibility and mental illness, and whether it's an irresponsible thing to do to have children when you know you're likely to be unwell. It's a fascinating episode in which I let Sophie do the talking – I couldn't compete with her eloquence and bravery and honesty on the subject – so I really hope you enjoy it.
  • 11. "I'm a cool mom" – Kelly Fitzsimons on being friends with her teenage daughter while also being her parent

    54:00
    Can you believe we've reached the end of the season! My last guest for season 13 is the very lovely Kelly Fitzsimons – formerly known on Instagram at least as MissEllaMayandMommy. Kelly had her daughter Ella aged 19 and her following online grew as the two of them grew up together. Sharing outfit posts with matching dresses, their mother daughter relationship was (and is!) goals. Kelly went on to have her son Mac in her early thirties, leaving a 13 year age gap between her two children. We talked this week about that age gap, what she knows now that she wishes she knew as a teenage mam, what has changed in the intervening years, and how threats sometimes *are* the best way to get children to do what you need them to do. Kelly also talks about the beautiful relationship her 14 year old has with her one year old, and how while one is worried about boys and periods, the other is teething. It sounds like delightful chaos! Kelly is so laid back about parenting and it's a very refreshing listen for that reason. Enjoy, and I'm delighted to say I'll be back next season for more amazing episodes.
  • 10. "I'm still a mother, no matter what" - Dominique Nugent's heartbreaking story of late-stage miscarriage.

    01:01:50
    I was so so grateful to this week's guest for joining me on the podcast. The lovely Dominique Nugent so bravely chatted to me about her experience, earlier this year, of late stage miscarriage. Dominique was a day short of 16 weeks when she delivered her baby, who had not survived in utero. She so generously decided now was the time to talk about it, start to finish, with me and with the listeners to the podcast, saying that she knows if listening will help just one person through their own tough time, she'll be happy she did it. If miscarriage is in any way a sensitive subject for you currently, maybe hold off on listening to what is an incredibly emotional episode – both of us cried a lot – but if you think it could help in your healing process, I know Dominique's courage was inspiring to me and could be to you too. I'll be back soon with another episode.
  • 9. Finding the balance as a single parent, with Liadán Hynes

    53:36
    My guest this week is my lovely friend, author, and journalist Liadán Hynes, who is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to parenting, and life in general really. She's a single parent to one daughter who's 9 years old. She's self-employed and works flexibly to be as present as she can for her little girl and writes often about her experiences as a working single mother. We talk about everything from facing what could be lonely weekends without your child or children, the imbalance that exists for mothers in the workplace and so much more. Lia's got so much of her own experience to draw from, but as an empathetic and resonant writer, she has so much wisdom to share from years of interviewing. A truly lovely chat, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. *Note the cards mentioned by Liadán about the mental load mothers carry are called the Fair Play Game, created by Eve Rodsky.
  • 8. Your Questions Answered - Carla Kelly chats pregnancy, postpartum and parenthood

    47:38
    My guest this week is Carla Kelly, who is one of the founders of Ask The Midwife, a company that aims to support parents from pregnancy through to postpartum and beyond. A midwife herself, we asked you guys, our cherished listeners, to put questions to her that you might need advice on. We talked about an incredible grandparents refresher course that they run (totally genius if you ask me) their various antenatal and postnatal classes, how they help build a community of mothers so no matter what you're going through you feel less alone, and there's a little bit of chat about the various colours of baby poop. We cover all bases here on everymum! Anyway – enjoy my chat with Carla and I'll speak to you next week.Note: If you have a specific medical query, it's recommended to speak to your GP.
  • 7. Assessment anxiety: When to seek help, with Caroline Foran

    54:39
    My wonderful friend Caroline Foran is my guest this week, and a returning guest to Everymum the podcast. This time, we talk about her most recent struggles with her son Caelan, and how she has recently undergone assessments with various clinical assessors to help better understand her son's unique needs. We talk about the anxiety over a potential future diagnosis, how guilt can be associated with wanting a straightforward life for your child, and how she cries every night at bed time out of sheer frustration at how challenging her days have become. She talks with such bravery and candour, but also with empathy and a genuine sense of gratitude. This chat might be of particular help to anyone starting or in the middle of an assessment process, or anyone who feels the frustrations and guilt associated with parenting. I hope you enjoy!
  • 6. Putting it out there: Shannen Joyce on single motherhood, illness and moving forward

    53:06
    My guest this week is Shannen Bulman Joyce, who was previously known on social media as Big C and Me, because she used her platform to document her cancer journey. Over the course of her adult life, just the past ten years, she's been diagnosed with and survived cancer three times. She's now the healthiest she's ever been, and is thriving and living life as a single mother to her daughter Roisin. We chat about everything from health anxiety and mam guilt, to what it was like having to explain to her daughter that she and her daughter's dad were no longer together. We also talked about the difficulties around being a parent and being sick, even with a more minor illness, and the guilt that comes with that. I'm thrilled I finally got to chat to Shannen as I'd followed her for a long time, and she's one of the most genuinely inspirational people you could come across. Enjoy and I'll chat to you next week.
  • 5. Double miracle: Rosanna Davison's rollercoaster parenting journey

    54:36
    My guest today is model and mam of three, Rosanna Davison. Over the past few years, life has changed dramatically for Rosanna. From going through a tragic 14 miscarriages and believing she wouldn't be able to carry a pregnancy to term, she and her husband sought the help of a surrogate from Ukraine to make their dream of having a family come true. She talks to me about the anxiety of knowing her baby was in someone else's body in a completely different country, and how she coped with that. And then we talk about the shock of her finding out shortly after her daughter was born that she had spontaneously conceived healthy identical twin boys. It was great to hear Rosanna's honest take on life with three under five, how she manages everything and how her identical twins have interesting differences (particularly when it comes to sleeping arrangements!) but it was an emotional episode too, and I had tears in my eyes many times throughout – I hope you enjoy lovely Rosanna's story.