Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is from an Instagram live with Vaness and Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create The Love. Mark works as a bridge between the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection. Join us as we talk emotional armor, the necessity of integrating bodywork with talk therapy, relationships as the jump off point for our deeper internal work, co-regulation and of course codependency!🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Mark:WebsiteInstagramYouTube Order Mark’s new book, Liberated Love, here!If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, we’d love for you to join us at In Bloom, an unbelievable love and relationship summit that we’ll each be speaking at, along with The Angry Therapist, Gabor Maté, Ray Maté, Dr. Jody Carrington, Shaun Gallinos, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Jess O’Relily, and more. We hope to see you April 12-14 in Vancouver, Canada. Use code LEVELUP to receive 20% off your ticket!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

Ep 212: Complex Connections: Navigating Feedback with AuthenticityThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. We dive into the complexities of accountability in all relationships. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Recurring Themes in Society: Many of the topics addressed in the show are themes that have come up repeatedly within therapeutic spaces, reflecting collective societal trends and healing journeys indicating a widespread desire to evolve past self-abandonment and the cultivation of healthier relationships ✨Staying Authentic: The importance of staying true to your beliefs and message, even when it may not resonate with everyone, to remain authentic to Self✨ Personal Accountability: Consider how you may be self-abandoning or using relationships as a means to avoid addressing something you may need to work through, and how deeper self-examination will naturally lead to more authentic relationships✨Complexity and Nuance in Human Behavior: Not simplifying complex human behaviors into labels (like narcissist), and instead take a compassionate and curious approach to understanding others’ actions, promoting dialogue that embraces the full complexity of human experiences and interactions🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyCheck out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

In this Cheaper than Therapy episode, we sit down with Dr. Peter Levine for a deep dive into the complexity of trauma, and the transformative possibilities within therapeutic practices. Dr. Levine holds a doctorate in biophysics and a doctorate in psychology. He is the developer of Somatic Experiencing and Somatic Experiencing International, a naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma, Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education, dedicated to community outreach and post-advanced somatic experiencing training, and author of several best-selling books on trauma. His work has been taught to over 30,000 therapists in over 42 countries. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Trauma and the Body: The importance of recognizing that trauma is not merely a brain disorder, but becomes deeply embedded in the body’s responses and requires therapeutic techniques that addresses physical manifestations of trauma(s)✨Interconnectedness of Generations: How trauma is interconnected across generations and survival mechanisms passed down, recognizing that patterns and responses inherited from ancestors may not just be through behavior, but through epigenetic modifications✨ Healing in Community: The importance of community and collective healing practices when addressing trauma, and that the often isolated approach to mental health should be replaced with communal support systems and shared healing experiences🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Dr. Peter Levine:WebsiteInstagramBooksSomatic ExperiencingAnd, we’d love for you to join us at In Bloom, an unbelievable love and relationship summit that we’ll each be speaking at, along with The Angry Therapist, Gabor Maté, Ray Maté, Dr. Jody Carrington, Shaun Gallinos, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Jess O’Relily, and more. We hope to see you April 12-14 in Vancouver, Canada. Use code LEVELUP to receive 20% off your ticket!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

In this special Cheaper than Therapy episode, we sit down with our friend Rainier Wylde in person to talk about the often painful truth of love’s impermanence and conditionality, and how love can lead to personal growth. Rainier is a highly sought after mentor and consultant to authors, athletes, business professionals, coaches, healers, and ordinary radicals who want to see change in their world. He is known for his unique blend of spirituality and in depth strategic coaching and is the author of “As You Are: Meditations on Self & Other” and the co-host of Love Like Hell podcast.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨The Link Between Love and Loss: The importance of embracing loss as an inevitable part of all relationships and that grief and joy are intertwined✨Fantasy Love and Consequences: The misconceptions about the idea of “fantasy love” and pitfalls of chasing unconditional love in romantic relationships✨ The Evolution of Love through Life: How the progression of love, from initially meeting to the mature connection highlights how love is a dynamic force that can foster profound inner growth and self-alignment✨Parental Love and Selfhood: The complexities of parental love and the challenges of maintaining your sense of self, especially in romantic relationshipsConnect with Rainer: Podcast: Love Like Hell Instagram: @rainerwylde Book: As You Are: Meditations on Self and Other🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, we’d love for you to join us at In Bloom, an unbelievable love and relationship summit that we’ll each be speaking at, along with The Angry Therapist, Gabor Maté, Ray Maté, Dr. Jody Carrington, Shaun Gallinos, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Jess O’Relily, and more. We hope to see you April 12-14 in Vancouver, Canada. Use code LEVELUP to receive 20% off your ticket!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. Today’s listener writes in concerned about a loved one’s abusive marriage, asking how to balance personal boundaries and navigate the challenges supporting a loved one in an abusive relationships. If you have a question for Vanessa and Dené, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Supporting without Enabling: The importance of offering love and support without enabling or trying to rescue your loved one✨Challenging and Honest Communication: How to navigate the complexities of honest communication when trying to help a loved one see the reality of their situation, with a recommendation for trying to be a "release valve" for frustrations and addressing issues directly with those involved, rather than using others as a sounding board✨Personal Boundaries and Self-Reflection: Understanding your own motivations and biases to ensure your offered support is genuinely in your loved one’s best interest, and allowing the individual to navigate their own path, ultimately respecting their right to make their own choices🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. Today, we’re addressing the discomfort some listeners have talking about relationships, specifically when discussing the evolving paradigms of love and partnership and our ownership template of relationships. If you have a question for Vanessa and Dené, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Shifting Perspective: While uncomfortable, it is important to shift your viewpoint of relationships in a way that prioritizes personal responsibility and growth over controlling others, as a way to foster more genuine connections✨ The Role of Control: Recognizing that attempting to control our environment and the people around us is actually anxiety and/or fear manifesting and the first step to breaking free from codependency✨Navigating Activation and Resistance: Remember that when feeling activated, it’s an invitation to look inward and focus on Self, pushing past the discomfort   ✨Empowerment through Agency: By focusing on what we can control (our actions, responses, participation, etc.) we reclaim our power and cultivate healthier, more authentic connections🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!And, we’d love for you to join us at In Bloom, an unbelievable love and relationship summit that we’ll each be speaking at, along with The Angry Therapist, Gabor Maté, Ray Maté, Dr. Jody Carrington, Shaun Gallinos, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Jess O’Relily, and more. We hope to see you April 12-14 in Vancouver, Canada. Use code LEVELUP to receive 20% off your ticket!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. A listener writes in expressing concern about her boyfriend checking out other women in public, despite repeatedly expressing her discomfort to him. We dive into relationship dynamics, and how sometimes fixating on others’ behavior can be a distraction from your own personal growth. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Self-Focus Over Partner-Surveillance: When you notice yourself becoming focused on a partner’s behaviors it’s a clear sign that your energy should be redirected inward and focus on personal development✨ Relationships as a Platform for Growth: Relationships should be a catalyst for personal development, rather than a means to seek external validation ✨Acceptance of Who Your Partner Is: Attempting to change fundamental aspects of a partner’s personality or habits, especially if they existed prior to the relationship, is futile ✨Fallacy of Control: Relationships dynamics should be safe for each person to be their full authentic self, with a focus on mutual growth and understanding instead of control🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW - author of three bestselling books, licensed therapist, and renowned relationship expert with 15 years of experience in relationship therapy. She is the founder of Kaleidoscope Counseling, where she aids individuals in cultivating healthy relationships through boundary implementation. Nedra's approach is grounded in the belief that many relationship issues stem from a lack of boundaries and assertiveness.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Boundaries are Positive: While boundaries are often seen as a way to keep people out, setting boundaries for yourself within relationships with others creates an innate sense of security and trust, rather than seeking it externally, leading to healthier, balanced, and more authentic relationships✨  Motherhood and Personal Capacity: Becoming a parent reduces the capacity you have for taking on the responsibility of other peoples’ problems and creates more invisible labor for your day to day, making it absolutely crucial to have open conversations within relationships, and setting boundaries to take care of your well-being✨ Social Media has Limits: It’s important to remember the humanness behind social media and set boundaries for sharing, interacting, as well as consuming to protect our time, mental health, and maintain authentic connections with others🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Nedra:WebsiteInstagramIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down to address two questions submit by listeners with similar “energies.” One listener wants to know how to stop comparing themselves to their partners ex and feeling insecure in their ability to trust due to past relationships. Another listener is looking for clarification differentiating between an anxious attachment versus being a human seeking safety, consistency, and reassurance in a relationship. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Safety in Self: Having an internal sense of security and interdependence will help to ease the insecurity of self-comparison, rather than repeatedly seeking outside validation to temporarily make you feel safe and secure✨  Boundaries Help Personal Growth: Taking personal responsibility to remain authentically true to Self and maintaining personal boundaries to honor that authenticity over a partner’s insecurities ✨ Managing Anxiety: Seeking constant reassurance and validation can create a perception the relationship is unsafe, so take time to actively recognize and appreciate what about the relationship makes you feel good and secure in the attachment🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyIf you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here: https://vanessa-bennett-dene-logan.myshopify.com/collections/the-community Connect with Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessasbennettTikTok: @thecodayodaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.loganTikTok: @denelogan------------------------------