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Ep 208: Embracing Change: Navigating a New Perspective on Relationships

Season 4, Ep. 208
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This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. Today, we’re addressing the discomfort some listeners have talking about relationships, specifically when discussing the evolving paradigms of love and partnership and our ownership template of relationships. 


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Some Takeaways from this Episode:


✨Shifting Perspective: While uncomfortable, it is important to shift your viewpoint of relationships in a way that prioritizes personal responsibility and growth over controlling others, as a way to foster more genuine connections

✨ The Role of Control: Recognizing that attempting to control our environment and the people around us is actually anxiety and/or fear manifesting and the first step to breaking free from codependency

✨Navigating Activation and Resistance: Remember that when feeling activated, it’s an invitation to look inward and focus on Self, pushing past the discomfort  

 ✨Empowerment through Agency: By focusing on what we can control (our actions, responses, participation, etc.) we reclaim our power and cultivate healthier, more authentic connections


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