Bro Nouveau Podcast


Heal Your Relationship with Yourself, with J Stamatelos

Ep. 64

064- J Stamatelos is a professionally certified coach who helps people break out of fear so they can share their gifts with the world. J’s work focuses on “anxious insecurity” - a chronic feeling of insecurity that causes people to feel “never enough”. J’s coaching is based on academic research and data-driven approaches, and he personally lived through this hell and learned how to overcome it.

A note from Thomas: I have become increasingly skeptical of coaches due to the sheer volume of individuals peddling services to improve mental health, without any type of professional licensure. J is a notable exception to this norm and I am pleased to present this conversation.


1:30 - how common is self-loathing?

9:00 - tolerating vs celebrating ourselves and other people 

29:00 - myths about men 

35:00 - community codependency 

50:00 - Why is J not a therapist? & overview of common therapy modalities 

61:02 - Conversation Game 

  • Thomas’ Question: Who has supported me at my most vulnerable moments? 
  • J’s Question: How do you tend to react when you get hurt?

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How do Interest Rates Interact with Inflation? + Don't Get Duped by Your 401(k) Provider, with Paul Sippil

Ep. 67
067 - Paul Sippil is a financial advisor who specializes in helping small businesses and individuals select the right 401(k) provider for their financial needs. He has websites and a YouTube channel with free educational information to help investors avoid unnecessary fees and maximize retirement savings.Timestamps:3:00 - Financial Advisors don’t charge for the commensurate amount of work6:00 - History of 401k & Why Asset Based Fees are BS10:30 - Guideline 401k price structure changes15:00 - Basics of Retirement Savings and How to Save21:00 - Budgeting - track your spending with simple “date - amount - description” format24:30 - Expense Ratios- Active vs Passive Funds26:00 - How to pick a fund to invest in29:30 - Buy Low / Sell High?31:30 - True Diversification is outside of the US Market and understanding correlation40:00 - The argument for a gold standard47:00 - How do interest rates interact with inflation?54:00 - I Bond56:00 - Paul’s Services for employer-sponsored retirement plans58:00 - Spark by seek discomfort gameThomas’ Question: how would your life change if you had 1 year left to live?Paul’s Question: what have you dreamed of doing for a long time and what is holding you back from doing it?References and Further Reading: 401kprovidersearch.compaulsippil.comPersonal Capital Budgeting AppDave Ramsey Every DollarAll Weather Fund- Permanent PortfolioI Bond