BOLDLY LIT & on FIRE

What does it really mean to be jealous of someone else? Are there patterns you notice that trigger you to feel envious of someone else?  Today I am talking about an emotion that so many of us don’t want to admit we experience - jealousy. All of us have experienced it at some point in our life but it’s not something people often talk about or look at the root cause of. What I have found is that jealousy and envy are triggered when we see someone in a situation that seems unattainable for us. Working on eliminating the limiting beliefs we have for our own capabilities is a key component to stopping jealousy triggers. Throughout this episode, I’m going to explain what jealousy means, what you can do about it, and why it’s one of the meanest things you can do to yourself. Tune in to learn my steps to stopping jealousy triggers and why you need to have compassion for yourself when you feel envious or jealous towards someone else! In This Episode, You Will Learn:How attainability is the root of jealousy (2:10)Why you need to have compassion for yourself (5:30)My advice for you to use when you feel envy (8:50)To reflect on previous accomplishments (11:15)To lean into faith over fear (15:00) Let’s Connect!Email

Emotional intelligence is a key component to unleashing our hearts so we can tap into our authentic selves, desires, and dreams. It takes work to build, develop, and maintain but it is truly worth the self-discovery that comes with it.  My guest today is Abigail Gazda, an ontological life coach who is living a life that unleashes her heart. Abigail is committed to vibrating at an authentic frequency so she can attract like-minded people into her personal and professional life. Abigail’s personal areas of expertise are emotional intelligence and subconscious reprogramming to make sure we are connected to our true selves.  Abigail is an ontological life coach, podcaster, author, and CEO of Hearts Unleashed. She is transforming thousands of lives through her books, social media content, and programs. Throughout the episode, Abigail explains what an ontological coach truly is, describes her journey to coaching, and gives examples for listeners to apply to their own lives. Tune in to learn how to unleash your heart with Abigail! In This Episode, You Will Learn:What an ontological life coach is (3:20)Why Abigail says the worse we are as people the more disconnected we are (8:55)How Abigail became a life coach (17:13)Examples that you can apply to your life (21:19)Why Abigail says people aren’t comfortable with progress (24:18)About Abigail’s personal transformation (25:48)Abigail’s advice for listeners (31:11) Connect with Abigail WebsiteFacebookBooksYouTubeTwitterLinkedIn Let’s Connect!Email

How many times have you felt compelled to do something but yet, you did not follow what your heart nudged you to do? Maybe it’s because you didn’t have the time, you didn’t have the courage to do it, or simply it was too inconvenient for you to get out of your comfort zone and take action on your instincts. And you looked away… from that opportunity to help someone, to take that action, or to go on that adventure. You’re not alone in this. We’re all ignoring our hearts over and over again. But there comes a time when it’s getting hard to look away anymore. Our whole body, mind, and spirit react to that voice inside, and it’s practically impossible to just turn your back on it. In this episode, I wanted to share with you a story that happened to me on Christmas Eve, that really made me think about following my heart’s desires more because that’s the only route to becoming boldly lit and on fire! Yes, my friends, listening to the inner messages is the way! In This Episode, You Will Learn:What triggered me to think about the times we’re looking away and ignoring our hearts (03:02)Why having compassion is healthier for you than having empathy (06:48)Why we often looking away from what’s inconvenient to us (10:03)The shift that happens when we start listening to our hearts (14:56)My invitation to you: start listening to the messages your heart sends. (17:47)  Let’s Connect!Email

Today’s episode will be a little personal, as I’ll be sharing some of the matters in my family that have transpired over the past few weeks. I recently received news that two of my relatives were unwell this month and as a result, I’ve had to book a spontaneous flight to Mexico in order to care for my father. It was a shock, to say the least, as my dad is someone who has historically always been energetic and led with so much purpose in both his personal life and career. The emotions I felt surrounding his and my grandmother’s health surprised me. The knee-jerk reaction in these situations would be to feel angry, upset, hurt, or confused and they’re all completely valid feelings to have. However, for me, I felt a sense of contentment in knowing that I’d expressed as much love as I possibly could throughout my life and knew in my heart that I had no regrets in the actions I’d taken leading up to these moments. I’d like to invite you to challenge your own expressions of love by asking yourself a few important questions which I’ll mention in today’s show. Tune in to Episode 12 of Boldly Lit and On Fire to hear more!In This Episode You Will Learn:The phone call I received regarding my father and grandmother’s health & Why this situation made me feel boldly lit in a different way (0:59)How I dealt with a sudden onslaught of emotions & Why being absolutely certain in my actions has brought me comfort (3:53)Why I invite you to express love and take action in regards to the older relatives in your lives (7:20)Why living in the ‘now’ and practicing gratitude has positively impacted me (11:51)What being boldly lit and on fire truly means to me (14:53)Let’s Connect!Email

How often do you listen all the way through, and only then begin to talk? It’s not an easy thing to do. We’re often tempted to rush to conclusions and get our turn to speak, that we don’t always pay attention to what people are actually telling us. But, if we go into every conversation with the intention of carefully listening to every word, to every idea that is communicated to us, we get an advantage that otherwise we wouldn’t have – which is, having options to choose from when we’re trying to come up with an answer. My guest today, Rico Mangram, learned all about the art of listening from his parents, especially from his mother, to whom he used to have open conversations with, at all times. Rico is a dear friend of mine, that exudes positivity every time I see him, and he is truly boldly lit and on fire in everything that he does. Rico is the founder and CEO of Rico No Suave Show, where he and his co-host Valerie inspire people throughout the world and give them a great way to start their day every Saturday! Throughout this episode, he shares plenty of golden nuggets on the importance to listen first and talk later, how to keep a dose of optimism and positivity even when you’re sharing space with negative people, and also, how to efficiently communicate so that you can connect with those who listen to you. Now’s the time to exercise your listening abilities, so tune in, and enjoy the show! In This Episode, You Will Learn:Rico’s recipe for always being boldly lit and on fire. (02:30)How to maintain a positive attitude no matter what. (10:49)Rico’s relationship with his parents. (07:08)How to share space with a negative person (15:50)The concept of ‘emotional bypass’ and how to avoid it. (19:22)The importance of listening before talking. (21:21)How to adjust your communication style to your audience, in order to connect with them. (28:08)What Rico’s new show - “In the Loft with Rico” – is all about. (33:00) Connect with Rico:Rico No Suave Show WebsiteFacebook PageInstagramTwitterLinkedInLet’s Connect! Email

Let’s talk about sex baby! When was the last time you were really honest with yourself about your sex life? For a lot of us, that conversation can feel daunting, confronting, or even shameful and there are so many factors that play into the feelings of disempowerment we experience when it comes to our own sexuality. In this episode, I’m going to be diving deep into why my views on sex have changed so drastically since I was younger, why we should be living in a judgment-free zone around this topic, particularly towards women, and share my experience being diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure. I hope that by offering my perspective, you feel encouraged to challenge your own beliefs and biases and are inspired to hold space in your own life for healthier conversations in regards to sex. Happy listening!  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A breakdown of empowered and disempowered sex (1:52)Attachments that we have around sex (2:42)Why our desire to connect and be present should be at the center of our sexual needs (3:35)My perspective on the challenges surrounding sex as a single woman (5:25)My experience being diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure & Why regaining my libido was so liberating (6:46)Why we should eliminate judgment towards other women & Have healthier conversations in regards to sex (9:40)Why I now see my sex drive as a gift and something to be grateful for (10:53)Why putting our responsibilities onto others can be very disempowering (12:36)Why I tell my clients to ‘own their story’ & The opinions I used to hold around my own sexual experiences (13:50)What I hope my listeners gain from this conversation (17:17)Resources: Empowered vs. Disempowered Sex - Facebook PostLet’s Connect! Email

It’s time to start having COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS! If there’s one thing that my friend Tracey Benson has taught me, it’s the power of having courageous conversations with others and always being willing to apologize first. Tracey Benson is an amazing, multi-dimensional human. She’s a businesswoman, wife, mother, and animal whisperer. Throughout our conversation, Tracey and I discuss what true, authentic connection with others looks like, how to achieve it, and why relationships ebb and flow over time. Tracey vulnerably shares how she’s grown in self-awareness over time, re-evaluated the relationships she has with people in her life, and how she handles courageous conversations with them. Tune in to learn how you can cultivate space for healthy, humble, and ultimately loving connections with yourself and loved ones! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why tapping into your authentic self connects you to others. (5:37)Why the opposite of connection is addiction. (8:44)How Tracey’s relationships have changed as she’s grown in self-awareness and learned to re-evaluate her tribe. How to handle relationships where you’re not feeling connected anymore. (22:43)How Tracey handles courageous conversations. (26:20)How to shift from expectations to appreciation in your relationships. (31:18)Why apologies are key to a happy, healthy, peaceful, and loving relationships. (38:27)Resources: Tony RobbinsLoving What Is by Byron KatieConnect with Tracey Benson: InstagramFacebookEmail Podcast: Joyful-Souls with Tracey BensonLet’s Connect! Email

When was the last time you consciously decided to give up control? The truth is, gripping onto the notion that you have control over your life and circumstances is the fastest path away from living a boldly lit and on fire life. On this episode, I’m going to share with you a recent breakthrough that I had, where I realized I was not living boldly lit and on fire. Instead, I was holding onto control and allowing myself to slip into a negative space when I realized I had none. At that moment, I realized that I had to choose to give up that control, choose to experience happiness, joy, and gratefulness, and choose to surrender. When I did that, I regained a sense of control, and I created space to emotionally and spiritually expand, and further my journey to self-mastery. Tune in to take a step toward surrendering to the notion that you have no control over the world around you and choose to control everything within yourself. In This Episode You Will Learn: How I’ve emotionally and spiritually expanded during this COVID-19 pandemic. (1:46)How to find a happy place in an unhappy space. (6:48)How refusing to allow circumstances to dictate your emotions leads to personal growth and self-mastery. (8:11)Why it’s essential to give yourself credit for taking responsibility for how you show up in the world. (12:52)Let’s Connect! Email