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Poet Harry Baker

Season 7, Ep. 6

The poet Harry Baker went viral this summer for his poem Trying, a heart-rending description of the anguish of infertility (/ode to German linguistic precision).


He joins us today to talk about his creative process and why putting into words what you are going through is so important.


Meanwhile Prof (or is it Dr?) Tim talks about antibiotics: can you have them during pregnancy?


Find Harry merch (and his books) at www.harrybaker.co.



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