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Beyond BJU: Exposing Fundamentalism

A Well-Trained Wife - Tia Levings - Special Episode

In this episode I speak with Tia Levings, who bravely shares her journey of escaping Christian patriarchy and introduces her memoir, 'A Well-Trained Wife.' We discuss her traumatic experiences in fundamentalism and her courageous path to freedom. Tia also delves into the broader implications of fundamentalism on women and her healing journey, including her upcoming book 'The Soul of Healing.' This episode is a heartfelt exploration of survival, recovery, and the vital importance of amplifying survivor stories.


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