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Behind Every Great Man
Losing Yourself Isn't The Problem. Staying Lost Is.
Ep. 18
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Most women don’t lose themselves out of neglect.
They lose themselves out of love for others.
In this episode, we explore why losing yourself is often needed, and why staying lost after the season has passed can quietly disconnect you from joy, desire, and presence.
This is a gentle invitation to begin coming back home.
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