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painful breakups (finding yourself after losing your favorite person)

Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), once compared people who struggle with emotion dysregulation to third-degree burn patients—those with no “emotional skin.” For these individuals, even the smallest emotional injury can lead to profound suffering. This is especially true during breakups. Losing the companionship of a “favorite person” (or FP) can feel devastating, leaving those with BPD, EUPD, cPTSD, ADHD, ASD, or other emotion-regulation challenges feeling as if the world has collapsed around them. In this episode, we explore why breakups feel so uniquely unbearable for those navigating life without this “emotional skin” and how to begin healing from the pain that follows. I’ll share insights and practical strategies for coping, along with a candid look at the ways emotion dysregulation can complicate relationships.


Topics we’ll cover include:


  • Why breakups feel so devastating for people with intense emotional sensitivity
  • How to manage the loss of a “favorite person” and start moving forward
  • Understanding “breakup regret” and how to avoid self-sabotaging future relationships
  • The possibility of healthy relationships for those who experience intense emotions
  • Tools for building resilience and learning to manage symptoms without undermining connections


This episode offers a compassionate roadmap through the pain of loss, helping you find strength to rebuild and move forward, even when it feels impossible.

 

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