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AuDHD Flourishing
66 Fixing Your Whole Damn Life
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This episode is about both why it's so hard to get help as an AuDHDer,
and some of the broad steps I see working for us.
It can help to have a view of your "big ball of yarn" i.e. complex and interrelated problems or life areas.
It can also help to start addressing your sensory needs, core needs, and just live your life while you take a break from big processing.
Please take care and be gentle to yourself!
Links mentioned:
- New course: Experimenting Your Way to an Extraordinary Life
- Your Core Self Care Need episode
- The 4 steps I talked about
Crisis Resources:
- USA-based anonymous crisis chat
- International crisis lines
- Various types of crisis resources in about 10 countries
Resources:
- Like Your Brain community space
- Transcript Doc
- Email Newsletter
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